NT Memory

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☺ Ezra, I see what you're saying. I should have explained better. It isn't the literal NT memory that I meant. It is their selective use in it. If you don't care about a person, chances are you aren't going to make an effort to learn about them. You get tired of repeating the same information to people who don't give a fig and you would rather bypass the entire conversation.

If it's a friend with memory issues, no prob as that person makes an effort and you already know this about them.

Is that really an NT thing though? Do you remember details about people you don't care about?

Shark alert!! ! I just point out the obvious.

The problem is not in the lack of remembering details. It's the pretending to care. Are you really that obtuse Starface that you can't read the thread and catch the basic drift of what is being said or do you just feel like being nasty?

Unfortunately I do remember details about people I don't care about. I don't try. Just one of those things. I just don't get pretending to care when clearly someone doesn't. It's the same group of acquaintances from the past 5 years. Some thankfully have moved on and ignore. That's better than the others who either keep asking the same questions or say they miss seeing my daughter.

Do you even know what nasty means? You are the one being nasty. Look at your comments. I didn't call you any names. And I won't be responding to your idiotic thread anymore.

Other than being able to recall if I've told someone something or not, my memory is horrible. It's a victim of ADD.

All I did Starkid is respond in kind.

Wrong.

Starkid asked you a fair question without any hint of nastiness. And you responded by calling her "obtuse".

That is not you "responding in kind".

That was 100 percent you being nasty.

I can't remember people's faces but I can remember important details about what we talked about months or even years ago so I can pick up where we left off. Which is more important?

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Am much like that.
I DO remember faces, but fail at remembering names.

And can pick up on a conversation I had started with someone years before. Usually the other person CAN'T do that.

I will remember things about a person I knew in school ten years before, interests they had, etc.. But forget their names.

This is a good example that autistic people aren't really any nicer to each other.

@ historygal are you some kind of hate campaigner?

I'm not on about your "us and them" thing you've got going on but you seem to want to make an enemy out of whoever has a different opinion to your own.

Its not just NTs. There are some Aspies on this forum who ask the same question over and over again.

I've had aspies tell me the same stories over and over and I like it because I have a terrible memory so that helps me remember . I do not remember what I have asked someone or what I have said to them. But yet I remember the stories at work my co worker has told about himself and the age of his kids but I don't really remember what street he lives on and I remember him saying he has ADHD and PTSD and that is the only labels I remember about him. So I don't remember everything people tell me. But yet I have remembered certain things other people would forget about but my mom has memories about me I don't even have. I know people keep different memories and I also noticed even when my mother and I do remember the same things, they are both different memories. If we were to tell this same story about going to the Disney Store in Texas when I was 11 and me and my brothers picking out one thing to get, I will say I got a Cinderella coloring book set while my mom will say I got a Minnie Mouse sports bra. It was a a important memory for her because she and my father forgot to set a price limit and they ended up spending over one hundred at the place, maybe over $200.

There is just so much to remember, I can't remember everything. Things we talk about, things I ask people, things I say to someone, etc.

I have observed this phenomenon in NTs as well and it's what first led me to believe that I might have High Functioning Autism. I can sit down and watch a movie once and the next time I watch it I will know what most everybody is going to say as well as the actors in it but NTs watch a movie once and seem to completely forget everything the second time they see it.

But having an exceptionally accurate memory as well as an autobiographical memory can be a curse for me as well especially if you've had a great deal of trauma in your life. It's a double-edged sword.

On the whole, I would prefer to have a great memory than not and just keep pitying those NTs.