Dogs don’t judge Asperger’s

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My son wants a dog but I don't want one. I don't want to take care of one or deal with it peeing in the house and being 16 years old again. My experience with dogs isn't all roses because they will chew your game controllers or poop in the house, pee when you are not looking and you won't see it, and some are difficult to potty train and what to do if you have family members that don't agree with you about how to handle a puppy that isn't house broken, you want to keep them crated, they want to let him roam free round the whole entire house while he can find all these spots to piss in and refusing to go outside and they hold it until they are inside to go. But the webpages and dog training experts support your claim to keep them crated until they are housebroken so good luck trying to convince your whole family. Maybe you should all go to a vet and hear it from a professional dog trainer or find a professional dog trainer in the area and hire them to come over just to tell you family this. Then you can be like "See I told you."
That is why I will not have another dog. I don't know what the dog will be like because every dog is different and the fact there are other people in the house like my parents and husband and I don't want to have lot of anxiety again and be back in high school again. I will never forget when my dad brought home a dog that wouldn't go outside because he had his toilet backwards and everyone refused to keep him crated until he was housebroken. That caused hell for the whole family because of my tremendous anxiety and then my mom didn't like dog because oh how much stress he caused in the household and the distress he gave me but yet she would be part of the problem by releasing him from his cage because she thought it was cruel to keep him locked up. My dad just bought him on impulse without consulting my mother first because he was being sold at a good price because the pet store wanted to get rid of them because they were five months.

No dogs for me. I will prefer cats.

It's easy having a dog when you live alone because you are in control and no one is there to open your bedroom doors and stuff for the dog to get into and you can keep your dog in their crate or chained up in your yard while training them and no one is there to disagree and let them loose for them to wreck stuff. Plus you can let them loose under your terms and then crate them again when you can't watch them because you are playing a video game or watching TV or cleaning or cooking, etc. No one is there to disagree with how you are handling it so they let them loose again for them to pee in the house. You are in control so no anxiety for you because you are in control.

I am more of a cat person, but I get along fine with dogs on an individual level, once a mutual rapport has been established.

I echo those who find cats more relatable on basis of their social independence.

There was a poster a short while ago who explained excellently why it is a misunderstanding that dogs are hung up on hierarchy and require people to dominate them (they do not, they simply need to have an understanding of the rules set in the house they live in, for their own sense of clarity and order).

One thing I had in common with dogs is living in the moment. Dogs are live in the moment creatures so anything that happens is over when that situation passes. You have to catch them in the act to teach them so if you find a pee spot in the house, it's too late to do anything about it because the dog is not going to be able to connect you rubbing their face in that spot to them peeing there or you yelling at them about that wet spot to them peeing there. You have to actually catch them doing it and they are able to make the connection when you interrupt them and put them outside and if you give them a treat 3 seconds after peeing outside they make that connection because you don't want to confuse them thinking go outside and come inside and get a treat. This was how my brain worked. My mom noticed she couldn't punish me or talk to me about things I did earlier in the day if I was doing something else. I would just do the same thing over and over again and I would say things like "Mike's not here" or "I'm playing with my Barbies, I'm not in the sandbox." And I couldn't understand why someone was dwelling on something that happened at school and they were not even there when it happened. My mom has this issue with me as well. I also see part of it as being a TOM issue. Just because I am over it doesn't mean someone else is. I expected therm to be over it too just because I was. Then I couldn't understand why they were still obsessing about it.

Dogs also go by tone and I do too. Like if my mom was yelling at me, I just assumed she was mad at me and not happy even though they would say she isn't mad at me. I felt like my brain worked like a dog because they go by tone. If you yell at a dog, they think you are upset with them and it doesn't matter if you are faking it, they won't understand. People often tell kids don't tease the dog. That is because dogs don't understand. Another thing they have in common with aspies. They can't distinguish playful teasing and meanness.

I have also noticed puppies and toddlers have lot of things in common, they both get crated (it's the play pen for toddlers or baby gates), they both get trained, they both live in the moment and also need to be caught in the act to learn, they both need to be potty trained, they both wreck stuff.

That's why I like dogs, cats, horses and other companion animals. They accept us as we are and they love us unconditionally. Could you imagine how wonderful the world would be if parents loved all of their children unconditionally?

I truly think that, in nearly all cases, they do.

In some cases, they may have strange ways of showing it, or have some expectations that are not reasonable, but I think it is very rare for that to be an actual condition attached to the love.

Sometimes it may be hard to see that though.

I wouldn't say dogs don't judge at all, dogs have been known to growl or otherwise act aloof around people they don't like...then the dog owner may come to find the person was bad-news after all and the dog wasn't just misbehaving. But they don't judge the way people do. I also read an article about a stray dog, a pit bull I think that saved a woman from a guy who was attacking her with a knife so it judged the victim as someone to protect and the attacker as someone to attack. I am just really glad in this story the dog was ok aside from a couple stab wounds, and a home was found for it. Sadly this dog could have been put down, but luckily the law enforcement who dealt with the situation made the right choice. A dog should never be put down for protecting someone.

Dogs think Im the Bomb

Yes, dogs are very loving and accepting. I have always loved dogs (and other canines), and I have never been the least bit bothered by dogs barking.

The only reason why I don't want a new dog is that they have to be walked several times every day. I only go out if I have to.

I've always been a dog person otherwise. And even more a turtle person. Chelonians and canines!

Turtles sure don't!