Were you the most unpopular person in your school?

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Maybe, I certainly wasn't liked and had no friends, but I was at least tolerated by some of the kids. There were 150 kids and it was a close knit community. I transferred to the school when I was 8 and from then on, even in high school, I was always known as the outsider, fat, ugly, weird, transfer kid. I was also intelligent and had some sensory issues meaning I didn't wear the trendy stuff the other kids did or get into make-up or perfume like the other girls. It didn't help my mother has ASD and some attachment issues - so I was never allowed to integrate with the other kids. The main rules were: No going over to other kids houses or bringing them around to ours. No socialising outside of school in the community - including going to after school clubs/sports. No going on school trips unless she accompanied me (which usually meant me being left out of activities due to her issues with attachment and sensory issues).

As a result, I was verbally and sometimes physically assaulted most days by the other kids on the bus to and from school. I was physically assaulted in the hallways between classes and sometimes in classes (the teachers didn't care). My locker was constantly broken into and all my books or gym kit was frequently stolen - to the extent that I refused to use my locker and carried everything around with my all the time. Putting a lock on the locker resulted in the students breaking the lock within about 20 minutes of putting it on to get in or destroying the lock enough that it had to be cut off by the caretaker. Students would sneak up behind me and touch me, knowing I hated it. They would also dump a bottle of the nastiest smelling perfume on my head or in my backpack at least once a month - usually triggering a meltdown.

It was absolutely hell and I am so glad I am no longer there.

I was close to being the least popular in my high school.

But that's in the past. It's not good to dwell too much on these things.

Close to it.

One of my fantasies was to tell all the idiots who scorned me to stick it up their arse, and rotate.....

Rather than first grade, Canadian schools say you're in "Grade One.'

In high school, there is no other term for a student's grade level than Grade 9, Grade, 10, Grade 11, and Grade 12 (sometimes Grade 13).

The US has: "Freshman"---9th Grade
"Sophomore"--10th Grade
"Junior"--11th Grade
"Senior"--12th Grade

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Generally, in the US, we take "Advanced Placement" courses in order to get "college credit." In Canada, you might take the International Baccalaureate curriculum to get "university credit."

Your "college" is our "trade school."

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From 6th grade to 10th grade, I was public enemy #1 at that school. Before moving to that town, I was one of the popular kids. My junior year of high school I moved to a different town and finished out my high school years as being still unpopular, but not public enemy #1.

I've been popular, unpopular, and both at the same time.
Been very visible and invisible. I had stood out and had attention of others. I also had stood out and ignored.
Been within the complicated social system I've almost never been aware of, and been outside of it while people insists dragging me into it. And been kicked out of it or kept out of it. Not that in order, but it happened.
Then times that I'm aware and/or unaware of it.

I've been a pride, a shame, the best, the worst, patronized, put down, respected, spitted upon, included, excluded, bullied, protected, and everything in between.

But in the end, the exploration and fulfillments wasn't all intentional. Yet what it did was, reveal which role I really like and want.

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I've always been in school with aspies/autistics. Basically I've always been one of those kids. The lower functioning "ret*d" variety.

For me, privare schools were extremely much worse than public.

It's too upsetting for me to go into detail, but for years I had no friends, I was humiliated each day and made to feel like I shouldn't be alive. Everyone hated me. I do not know why I was the chosen one to be terrorized, because I didn't do anything wrong. I was a kid and I just wanted to make friends.

What has also screwed me over was girls pretending to be my friends for a laugh behind my back and pranking me. I could not tell if they were being sincere or not and it attributed to my now ongoing trust issues...

I did not have a diagnosis. It is clear as day to me now that I understand. It makes me mad and upset that nobody (teachers, family) thought to help me even though they now admit that they noticed the social and developmental problems I was struggling with and chose to punish me instead. Because my anxiety attacks, meltdowns, not understanding phrases or how to change my tone of voice etc. were seen only as me choosing to me a "problem child" and I needed to be physically punished and interrogated for hours. I didn't understand why I was being punished...

Anyway, I don't want to think more about my childhood outside of my play world I created then for myself, but here is my experience for your review.

I don't know. I barely noticed popularity.

In high school lots happened to me but I didn't speak up about it. Years 8 and 9 were the absolute worst. It was a new school and there were no Year 10s or above. Other students' form of jokes was to coat my locker lock with slimy substances, post fake "secret admirer" letters into my locker and a couple of times I got death threats. I had a lot of stuff stolen - my pencil case, my books and my bike. That happened at the end of Year 9, when I left that school.

I pretty much failed most subjects in those two years and maybe it was because I had no friends and was failing the majority of classes that they had me see the school psychologist. All they wanted to know was my history. Domestic violence and parent separation, yeah, fun to talk about. That psychologist didn't help me at all.

The school didn't let my mum know that I was seeing a school psychologist and nor did I tell her. She didn't find out until I was 27 and having my assessment for ASD.

Middle school - definitely.
Prime and high were a bit easier.

I changed school 2 months ago and this new placed has almost 200 people in my year level. I managed to find an acceoting group. They are nice, but I still don't fit in, y'know?
Well anyway given how many people there are and how few i know I doubt i am the most unpopular.