Is staying off Facebook an Aspie thing?

Post Reply New Topic

No. Nothing that an individual does is an "aspie thing". It is a *you* thing.

Avoiding facebook is not an Aspie thing. I know many NTs who detest it. I have a facebook but only to connect to my game accounts so I can save progress, never used it for anything else.

I've had my Facebook for almost 9 years now and I think I've posted two things since Christmas 2015.



To me it's just super drull. Every post is just mundane stuff like "picking kids up from school', "got car serviced", "at gym right now" and the occasional party.

It's like the digital version of those social gatherings where everyone talks about the most plain, mundane stuff you can imagine, like each others relationships while they listen to Adele music.

I'm way more into Twitter; it has such a more open and exciting atmosphere. I can talk with people about games, music, movies, all sorts of things. And there's always something great on my timeline. Twitter is definitely better suited to my tastes.

It's what I mainly use to communicate with other people, learn about their interests and try to learn about how to go about making friends and how to express my interests. (I also run a page.) I was hired through Facebook to do some creative work for a group a few years ago (right before I was going to delete my page) and that's how I met my partner.

Since I got Facebook, I have routinely deactivated it out of my own emotions and feeling disconnected from other people in general.

I have gotten very sad seeing NT posts of people having normal friendships and lifelong friendships and things I didn't quite understand. People who have achieved things by just having people like them and being great at socialising etc. These things get me down. Every close friend I have ever had has f***ed off and decided I was no longer of interest or use to them anymore. The same pattern happens and I'm getting to the point now realising that I am not NT that putting all this effort into people like that is exhausting and really not worth my time.

I do however get sad and lonely (I have had severe depression almost all my life) but I know that making lots of friends will not do anything to help relieve me of lonliness.

Looking at "On This Day" consists of me deleting things from my past.

Messenger is what I primarily use to contact my family and people I know. I dislike talking on the phone.

How is Twitter different than email, except for the character limit?

thebelgradebelief

Totally unrelated...
but oh wow, your interested in The Beatles!

For one it's much more open than a private Email. I can interact with people I would have otherwise never met and talk about stuff I'm interested in.

I used to meet people on listservs. How does Twitter work?

A friend says that he is blocked from seeing certain content on Facebook because he does not have enough "friends." I suspect that nothing I wrote was posted because I hadn't endorsed various movies, etc, and otherwise helped generate ad revenue targeted at me.
Whenever I see a "free" service, I know that I'm the product being sold.

I know of too many aspie students on FB for it not to be an aspie thing.

For one Twitter is far more simple and streamlined. The most fancy feature is uploading photos and small videos.
Here's mine to give you a basic idea.
https://www.twitter.com/Mantis128

Instead of "friends" you have "people you "follow" and "followers"
Basically you post stuff to your feed like on Facebook and whoever follows you will see it on theirs. You will see the content of anyone you follow.

As for content being blocked on FB, I've never heard of that. Then again I haven't used it in years.

With Twitter you might need to verify your account via Email since many people have their accounts set to ignore messages and other things from those who have not.

Ads on Twitter come in the form of "promoted tweets", pretty much tweets people have paid to show up on peoples timeline. They're by no means a hassle though.

Also you can set your account to private if you want a less public Twitter.

There's a tiny bit more but that's the basic gist of it. Hope that helps.

Doesn't necessarily have to be gossip. Odds are, if you've got 20 Facebook friends, at least one of them has a weak, guessable password.

Your Facebook friends may be all honourable people, but if someone guesses one of your friends' passwords, it could result in all your "friends only" content being made public.

Never post anything to Facebook that would upset you if it were made public, even with a "friends only" restriction.

"Basically . . like Facebook" has no meaning to me. That link showed a confusing web page - perhaps it is more like a blog than email? I was on a big group project, and the contractor had provided some kind of fancy sharing package for us to use. We soon gave up and reverted to email. With it, I can send a message to various selected groups, send them pictures or videos, and receive the same. I can adjust privacy settings, meet new people, and get on their lists. But, most of the action has vanished. Facebook is the home of "off topic" postings, and Twitter won't allow room for more than a sound-byte of reasoning, but has the bandwidth for pictures. I smell intellectual disaster areas.

I don't do any of them - Facebook, Twitter, or any of the older platforms. Privacy reasons mostly. I've disclosed a fair amount about myself here, and I know that much of this site is publicly accessible, but I don't post pics anywhere (been stalked. Several times. No thanks.) and don't want folks posting pics with me in them (same reason). I live a very boring life, which I happen to adore, but it's not FB material even if I wanted to be there!

I've been on a couple of forums in the past and much prefer that format - you can get to know people backchannel, you can help and joke on the front side, you can take a break, and you can set your preferences so you're not constantly being pinged.

That's not aspie, I don't think, but I do think this is: competition for the sake of competition makes me itch all over. The whole business of collecting likes, upvotes, friends, whatever in some kind of cyberspace contest seems like yet another "manufactured scarcity" thing to hook people's midbrains and keep them pushing buttons. [Note: I am pro-gaming. I see that as totally different.]

And this comes straight from the dark heart of my Aspie childhood: cyberbullying makes me want to go full Ripley on the entire framework. What I'd like to do to the bullies who push kids into suicide attempts and go after the injured and bereaved - well, see below.



[/mamabear ferocity]

I have a Facebook and I use it a lot. I mostly use it to meet people who like the same things I do and keep updated on news. I help out with a few fan pages and groups too, which I enjoy. I don't put my photo on there and I don't use my last name. I try to be safe.

I don't use Facebook, but neither does most of my family. I don't think my brother even has an account. I just don't like the pressure to keep up with everything there and figure out things to post when I'd rather just talk to a person directly.

It's obviously a 'me' thing. Is it necessary to be so pedantic?

I was trying to ascertain whether Aspies in general have a greater tendency to stay off Facebook. Individual differences (amongst Aspies) aside, there are behavioural traits that are more prevalent in Aspies, otherwise we wouldn't be considered a cohort by psychiatrists.