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If Deaf people can do weddings in Sign Language, then Autistic people can do weddings by their usual communication device.

I would go for a pre-programmed script, but have the option to type in anything else you want to in the moment. The wedding day itself is special, but can be overwhelming with a lot of people and a lot of emotion. You may find that your hands start shaking or your mind forgets what it's supposed to say. Besides, preparing what to say in advance is something we do well, right? Gives you time to think about how to express what is really on your heart, and then when you play it back you can listen to the words and feel what it means to both of you.

I hope it goes well for you! And congratulations on the engagement!

Hi:

Thanks for the response! I never thought of it that way. A lot of people and places get it backwards. They think that I’m “choosing not to talk” when in reality, I am saving what limited verbal abilities I do retain thus I’m choosing to talk. I am primarily nonverbal for a reason (actually several) including but not limited to experiencing severe physical
Pain when being verbal for as little as two minutes, emotional stress, and more.

Thanks for your input

off the top of my head if I found myself getting married, I think I'd want it scripted and have my cousin (who would be my best man) reading what I wrote. Maybe. I'm not sure if that would be awkward.

Not necesssrilly awkward, but I don’t know how that might make him feel.

I was thinking maybe it might make for an awkward situation for the audience or whatever, but I guess not. He'd probably love it, he's a ham.

That’s cool! Further keep him away from my colleague Jennette as Jennette loves the food ham and MIGHT get “confused” and THINK HE IS HAM rather than IS A HAM. Just a fair warning!

I went to a wedding service like that an it was annoying as f**k. It was a huge church wedding, and we almost left the service early. This was an NT coworker trying to be cute. And people openly heckled, and some of the heckling was very pointed. The tech aspect was a huge flaming fail.

How big a wedding? 10? 100 people in a church setting?

In a small, intimate setting, having attendants hold up tablets would be cute. Everyone is close enough to see what is going on. Some venues have a big screen TV, and you can dongle your tech so everyone can see what is going on.

If the venue is an old school church, with no AV tech, you really need to think outside the box to keep people engaged. Look at your guest list. Just immediate family? Grandma won't care because she loves you. You BFF won't care because she knows your issues. Once you get out of that immediate circle, people get more squirrelly.

Like the PP above, I have went to "tech weddings". They were NTs trying to be cute. Only one pulled it off well. The rest felt like the Bataan Death March as people fiddle with tech that wasn't integrated well. Then the cat calls started. You never know who hit the bar before your ceremony and feels the burning need to call you your fail.

It might be worth your while to check out what hearing impaired people do for their weddings. You might find some really cool ideas without reinvented the wheel.

Scripted would take the pressure off of you.

Good luck!

Thank goodness for Bluetooth technology link in my iPad to my Bluetooth speaker and boom everyone can hear. I think my tech solutions are nicely integrated considering I am nonverbal and on the phones with customers day in and day out. Further I handle all my interactions using the iPad so this is nothing new to me. Hell.... even here in the hospital, I am nonverbal and loving every minute of it.

Last little thing...

Because s**t happens and people misunderstand.

Get it in writing you are allowed to use your tech from both the venue AND whoever is performing the ceremony.

Around here, churches have "outlawed" tech weddings because some really not well planned ones screwed it up for everyone.

You are a different deal, but you do have the ability to talk. Better to find out now the venue says no, or the person performing the ceremony declines. People get goofy, and you need to cut them out before crunch time.

I hate to think the worst in people, but they never quit surprising me. Lol..

Congratulations! Hope everything goes without a hitch.

Great suggest to get it in writing from both venue and our officiate. I don’t know how a Nonverbal Wedding could be screwed up because of everyone else before? But valid points. Extremely valid.