A guy insulted me to my face

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The pajamification of our population shall lead the nation to unification.

Basically, OP, you should move on from this.

I would try to identify exactly what it is that caused you to remember what he said. The reality of that situation was it wasn't worth anything, he isn't worth anything, and his opinion has no power. The perceived attack is hidden somewhere in the insult, and if you can find it then you can better understand why it's unnecessary and a waste of time to think about after it's happened. I don't fight back anymore because I realized that I only feared the insult, but I wasn't physically hurt by it. Punching me will piss me off though because its real.

And also find ways to reinforce your own sense of self. He might have hit somewhere sensitive, so try to understand why it is that you had that reaction rather than just not caring. Some people in life can get past insults but unless they're Sociopaths who are detached from the insult or they don't understand language, the only way people manage to do that is to make the insult less important.

I often find salespeople really rude. I think they feel a bit offended when they keep getting rejected and then they take it out on you. Which is totally not ok.

Anyway, pyjamas are cool

No, I don't think you're wrong about that. He tried to be funny on your behalf, is my interpretation.

Not gonna lie... If you had thought of a comeback at the time, you probably would have felt better for it, but you didn't (not blaming you there or anything, I can count on one hand the times I have managed a good comeback, and yeah it felt good. Sadly my best tends to be 'go to ****'. I'm usually just not skilled at these things).

By allowing this rude stranger to affect you, you're not getting even with him, you're only tormenting yourself. For all this moron knew you could have been in PJ's because you were sick. You were dressed decently, and he is just a loser who didn't get to sell his windows. He failed!

I would also make sure to avoid his company if I ever needed new windows! I have no problems boycotting stores over slights or other bad behavior. No, I don't think they suffer for it, but I feel better for it. And that's my main concern.

Having a memory, I would say. I remember the most ridiculous and insignificant comments myself (regardless of content).

Ok, thanks guys.

My go-to statement in those type of situations is this: Why don't you go play a game of "Hide and Go *#@$" yourself. It usually gets the point across while messing with their heads in the process.

To the OP:

Just write this one off. The guy was a jerk when he found out he was not making money off of your house, so he felt a notion to comment on it. It is pathetic of him that he acted that way though. If you got the name of his company, pass the word around to those that you know not to do business with them.

I think he thought he was being witty.
He also was giving a bad attitude with that.

Which reflects poorly on him not on you

Even if he was insulting you technically —-
it’s because he felt hurt that he got rejected.

He sounds rude, but not something u need to worry about. It has nothing to do with u.

I know how u feel because I also overthink such things.

In some cases, a knowledgeable salesman will treat customers as if they can't afford the product and so he's wasting his time talking to you. The idea is that the customer will try to please the salesman and buy the product even if it isn't really what they want. In other words, when the salesman talks down to you, he's often trying to manipulate you.

It's a good thing to keep this in mind. After someone explained this to me years ago, I started taking the stance that if they talk down to me, then I don't want to do business with them because I object to someone trying to manipulate me in that way. I once went to a car dealership to try out a car that I was interested in. The salesman acted like that and so even though I liked the car, I thanked him for his trouble and left.

^^^^ best answer in my opinion.


I may be way of the mark here , but maybe the reason you found it an insult is deep down you know it's not the social norm to be wearing your pajama bottoms in the afternoon. It sounds like a self esteem and confidence issue. You need to accept that you are different and do things differently to others and try not to overthink these things , just be who you are and try to care a little less about what others think or what you perceive others think ( not easy I know )

^^^ second best answer imo

Next time you see him, give him the sweetest smile you can.

That would never work on me! Offend me and I'm off

I think that was very wise of you. He should learn that those tactics don't work so he stops doing them to people.


This is why I hate salespeople. The manipulation, the bullying tactics. It's not right.