What is the loneliest you've ever felt?

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The past few years.

Everything has changed. I kind of stayed the same and everyone else moved on and down different paths. And they made new friends and didn't need me anymore.

So I up and moved, but everyone around me was younger than me and even though I had similar circumstances being free and single I was too old to hang out with. Then they all started getting married and not even our circumstances were similar.

Got a new job and moved to the city. I don't know anyone here. There's the potential for new friends. I'm in a city full of people. But I'm just so tired of trying.

Just more people to be rejected by sigh.

Being homeless. I could go weeks at a time without speaking to anyone, and everyone pretends like you're not really there; nobody sees you; they look through you, as if you're invisible. After a while, I'd really start to wonder, too.

I hear a lot from homeless people that they feel invisible, but on observing how people in the city treat other people in the city, I don't really see much of a difference between how people treat a "non homeless looking" person in passing, and how they treat a "homeless looking person" except when a "homeless looking person" might be pan handling or appears to be acting in an abnormal manner. People in most big cities don't often speak to or even acknowledge each other in passing. This is different than in my home town where people greet each other in passing and have conversations with each other.

my small town [<10k population] has something akin to the "Seattle freeze" as well.

I thank your husband for serving the usa full respect

Very similar to my situation for the past two years. My wife is based in another county and only with us for a few days each month.

Both of my sisters were quite social in high school but as people grow older it seems their friend circle shrinks or they become more distant from their friends so I think it's the natural progression of things in our western society. My cousin is an older single woman with no kids and she tries to keep herself busy with work and clubs. I think we would probably interact more if we lived closer to each other.

It was probably when I was setting out to find and buy a house in a province I knew nothing about, leaving behind what I had thought was a supportive community. I had made major moves before, but never because I felt rejected.

It's hard to say as there are many contending times for the loneliest, though being a whistleblower on official corruption comes pretty near the top of the list in its own way. I knew there were people who solidly agreed with my actions who were too afraid to even be seen in the same elevator as me. Then one brave woman came out and made it clear she was going to stand beside me and testify. Her courage was really greater than mine at that stage.

^^^going through that would sap my faith in humanity, that there was just one other person willing to do the right thing. it would make me become a hermit, which I have done.