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firemonkey
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21 Jan 2018, 12:43 pm

The problem with getting my father involved is that he lives in the States. As for my siblings they live in London while I live In Wiltshire. My sister did the RAADS-R for me via the aspietests site and actually scored me higher than I scored myself. I'm not sure though whether she'd want to get involved in the assessment process. Certainly she has never responded much when I post on Facebook about my thoughts on the subject. The exception was when she said she had always thought I was most probably dyspraxic . I have never really discussed the subject with my brother.



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21 Jan 2018, 12:46 pm

It's awful what you have experienced. Please don't give up on getting a diagnosis if you think you'll get benefit. You might get access to support that could make a big difference. From my diagnosis I have got access to support workers who assist me with some things and it also helped me get a social worker who helps me with tricky situations. You aren't too old for a diagnosis to be worthwhile, 61 is not old, the pension age keeps rising!



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21 Jan 2018, 1:38 pm

Have you asked your GP to put you forward for assessment?


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21 Jan 2018, 2:05 pm

SaveFerris wrote:
Have you asked your GP to put you forward for assessment?


No-quite frankly I'm too anxious to approach my GP. I can't even get to the GP's on my own. I think I'd feel more confident if others in the family thought it was a good idea and I thought they'd support me.



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21 Jan 2018, 2:15 pm

firemonkey wrote:
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Have you asked your GP to put you forward for assessment?


No-quite frankly I'm too anxious to approach my GP. I can't even get to the GP's on my own. I think I'd feel more confident if others in the family thought it was a good idea and I thought they'd support me.


You've gotta win your family over first then ( or at least one , your sister sounds like your best bet ) , have you told them that knowing would be very beneficial for you ?


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21 Jan 2018, 2:34 pm

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Don't take this the wrong way but I laughed when I read your initial post. I don't think a neurotypical person would put so much research into as niche a subject as Aspergers or Autism unless they work as a professor or healthcare or social work professional.

From my point of view even the fact you have studied this in so much detail is in itself an indicator of your having Aspergers. The very literal way in which you are interpreting one criterion is also a giveaway!

That shows a kind of black and white thinking style that people with Asperger's are well known for. :lol:

I think you would get diagnosed in an assessment.


So, I was totally going to write a similar response. Now before you feel I'm "talking down to you" or something, I can totally do the same thing and have done so countless times. Your concerns made me literally laugh for a little while. You're basically writing yourself off as autistic because Tony gives 7 as the age when autistic traits would have to be displayed. Surely not 8 or 9 or 10, and certainly not 7 and 1 day......7...that's it!

Like the above said, you are totally being autistic in just about everything you said about how you can't be autistic. Relax, you have a home here and you belong. Whether that's a good thing or not, I'll leave up to you.



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28 Jan 2018, 9:32 am

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It's a questionnaire that the parent has to fill out, it's quite detailed but what I found during my (recent NHS) assessment is that when you are being asked a whole load of questions about childhood things come out that I hadn't previously connected to ASD, so all your dad needs to do if fill in the questionnaire as well as he can. They will then asses you based on the about 200 hundred questions that they ask you over about 3 hours that also cover a lot of your childhood (that you remember) and your behavour during your assessment. In other words it's a broad spectrum so nobody is going to have all of the signs or all the parental information. eg there were no questions about imaginary friends but there were about nightmares. A lot of things that are mentioned on the internet as typical ASD are not in the questions so try not to think about it too much, are you on a waiting list?


What kind of questions do they ask in the questionnaire?

I didn't read the parent one, sorry. I don't remember the one I filed out at the time either except, did I have dyslexia? was I sick as a child? hearing problems? And did I have IBS.

The one at the assessment was mostly about problems, did I trip over things that aren't there? did I have friends at school? was I attracted to shiny things?

I actually knew not a lot about ASD (I had never heard the term ASD) before my assessment. I knew I had big problems with how I communicated with others (or everyone else was horrible) and some people had suggested (not in a nice way) Asperger's. My research made me doubt that until I came across an article written by a female Aspie. It was as if someone wrote an article about all my weird s**t so I put in for an assessment, but I still wasn't sure, and I'm certain that she diagnosed me primarily from my behavour at the assessment. I thought I came across as completely normal, it turns out I don't :D



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28 Jan 2018, 9:39 am

firemonkey wrote:
SaveFerris wrote:
Have you asked your GP to put you forward for assessment?


No-quite frankly I'm too anxious to approach my GP. I can't even get to the GP's on my own. I think I'd feel more confident if others in the family thought it was a good idea and I thought they'd support me.

I recommend when you go to the doctor, you don't say you want the assessment because you are sure you are ASD.
If you say that, there is a good chance that they will think there is no point you having an assessment then. You need to show that you need to get an assessment by showing how not knowing is negatively impacting upon your health.