Question for Neurotypical People

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no

not at two, thats when the awareness of being a seperate being is supposedly about to happen

one thing is generalising, another is giving them magical super powers

I can tell that just through normal observation. If people are quiet then I usually act more quietly. If they're loud and talking a lot I will (try) to say something. If they're just having casual conversations then I'll keep to myself until I either find someone familiar or the topic changes to something I like. But usually the "mood" is a combination of identifiable characteristics which everyone exhibits collectively. We have trouble with expressions or cues but even though the mood or atmosphere is hard to learn it's still doable, unlike facial expressions and the like. All it takes is good mimicry to fit into "the scene" I think. There's not 40 different people doing 40 different things if they're all mourning, so there's only one example to follow.

Wow, so this is definitely a gap I have in my abilities that even other people with autism have. Again, if people are laughing or whatever, I can obviously tell the mood of the room. So many times I've gone into a room and starting talking or whatever, and was told that something happened or the room was in the middle of doing some quiet study time or whatever. I would never understand why people would be annoyed, how was I to know what was going on? Apparently, it's a normal thing that people can do and I can't. I think I'll see if I can get this ability to an extent, as freaky as it seems to me. Seriously, it's like X-Men with super abilities or something.

Someone mentioned being able to tell if someone is bored.

I couldn't tell, absolutely, when someone was bored. Frankly, I probably didn't care; I just wanted to convey to people that I knew so much.

It took me years of learning, plus the acquisition of empathy, before I could tell if someone was bored with me.

I wonder if NTs ever have a hard time with this and if they ever have to observe to know if someone is just playing or just being excited but are acting obnoxious.

I often had this problem as a parent because I couldn't tell if my son was fighting with other kids or if they are playing. Kids will run and hit and touch each other and shove when playing. I could't tell if my son was being mean or just playing and if other kids were also playing with him or just fighting him off. I would look at their faces and stuff to try and figure it out. Are they crying? Are they running to their moms and dads and pointing at him?

And of course when I see people yelling at each other and cursing, it can also be hard to tell if they are just being loud or are fighting. I will look for any laughter, are they smiling.

Do NTs ever struggle with this too at times?

yep...I learned all of the above in adulthood.

I've always wanted to go on Jeopardy!..... (the name of the show actually contains an exclamation point).

Jeopardy! has been around since 1964, actually. I used to watch it in the 1960s. Art Fleming hosted, then Alex Trabek.

Alex Trabek, believe it or not, used to host a game show called "High Rollers." A far cry from "Jeopardy!"

I have a feeling it's much easier to tell if the mood of a room is something quite broad like happy/sad/angry, but more subtle presentations on a one to one basis like boredom/sarcasm/whether someone is joking or being serious are much harder to get a fix on.

I can pick up on vibes. But I might not know or quite understand why the mood exists, or be a part of it. I think it is probably more of a primal fight or flight response, rather than anything psychic. Like the feeling of being watched.

I suppose I've come to terms with this mysterious ability NT's have. Too bad an NT wasn't available to reply. It does make me wonder what else I'm missing regarding their abilities.