spoke to teacher about suspected autism and got laughed at

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...I thought my daughter may be autistic and had written down a few of her behaviors for her [teacher] to look at. As soon as I said that I thought she may be autistic she near enough laughed in my face....

...Some of the things I had written down were things like how she can get fixated and obsessed with time, and will have count downs for most things in her life. Even small insignificant things. She will ask how many days left and ask about those things every single day usually more than once and be completely obsessed about it and if for some reason said thing doesnt happen she will get extremely upset (which I was told was completely normal)....

...she finds it very difficult to make and keep friends, and that she copies other children and adults to try and fit in. For example when we eat out she will never order something that she wants she will always copy what the person next to her is eating and if that person changes their order without her knowing she will get extremely upset and angry and demand for her order to be changed, if it cant be then she will not eat her food....

...she cannot control her emotions and that when she gets angry or upset it can last for a very long time, sometimes hours and that she will bang her head repeatedly on a wall or hit herself repeatedly....

...she cannot concentrate on more than one thing at once, and often it will look like shes looking straight through people when shes concentrating on something else. She can completely just zone out....

...She does not understand other peoples intentions (good or bad) or body language, she cannot understand when other people have had enough of her or dont want to play. Everything is about her and what she wants, she will get very upset if people don't want to play what she wants anymore and believe that they no longer like her if they play something different and she will not want to join in with them anymore. she never wants to talk about other people and the conversations she has with people are always about her or will revert back to her. That she lies more than she tells the truth, some of the things she lies about have caused my family a great deal of stress and some things can be very serious....

...from christmas cards i can see how poor her writing is compared to others she also writes most letters and numbers back to front....

...She has to have extra help on a number of subjects such as reading and maths so I thought maybe they would have a little understanding....

...she is being bullied and laughed at by others. On the way home from school she has broken down in tears a number of times. To me her behavior is not the same as other children I know, and I personally find her behavior very odd....

...At my Mums my daughter started dancing quite clumsily and out of tune with the music, so my Mum tried to join in and show her some new dance moves. It was just a bit of fun. My daughter decided it was too difficult saying she was rubbish and then started to accuse both of us of being nasty to her and laughing at her. She then started rolling around screaming and then began to hit my Mum repeatedly. My Mum sent her to sit on the naughty step and my daughter screamed and shouted 'turn it off' repeatedly whilst covering her ears, even after the music had been turned off she continued. When it was time to leave she tried to slam the car door on me as I was getting into the car and once we arrived she would not get out of the car for at least 20 minutes delaying everyone else waiting to order inside. When my daughter came in she would not sit down until the food came and was just stood banging her head against a post and then sat on a step punching herself in the head. She refused to join in with all of the other children there for at least an hour, and when she did start talking to them it was to tell them how nasty we had been to her. She hung her head the majority of the time she was sat at the table. She only started to cheer up around half an hour before we left and when she did it was like nothing had happened. I can not see how this is normal behavior

She can be brutally honest, she will just tell people things like 'eurgh, you smell' or 'you look fat' but I think thats normal for children her age. She will often lie (or maybe twist the truth, I dont know) about what other people have done and said. She has lied about people hitting her before (including me), she told me her teacher pinched her on purpose once, I was there and her teacher showed me a spot on her arm. Shes burst into tears on the way home from school once and told me in graphic detail of how a teacher started punching her and how she was on the ground. She has lied because she says it makes other people happy, she used to tell my Mum that I was hitting her and that she wanted to go and live with her, she kept this up for a year and social services were involved. She has only recently admitted to my mum that she had put it all on because she thought my mum would be happy that she was spending more time there as she thought my mum was lonely without her. I think possibly it could be attention seeking

the person who my daughter was referred to (who i spoke to on the phone about getting a letter from the school about her behavior there) told me that without their letter it cannot go ahead and that she she was going to contact me next week to see if I had got one. The teacher I spoke to today seemed very disinterested in my concerns and told me she would ask my daughters other teachers what they thought but that none of the behaviors I had mentioned were ever seen there. She told me her behavior was normal, that some of the things I had mentioned all children do, and that on the list of things I had taken in her daughter does all of those things The list I had taken in was 4 pages long and that was just a tiny snippet of what she is like