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18 Mar 2018, 3:56 pm

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I put the iq stuff on there because I knew that it could affect diagnosis. I remember having a harder time reading people as a child.

As an adult as far as any testing I had a therapist who suspected autism spectrum give me the AQ and the RAADS scales for adults which both tested in the AS range but mild, but for some reason my actual psycharist disagreed with them. I've had a couple other docs come up with the theory I'm on the spectrum but can't be diagnosed because I'm not impaired enough. I've had a few total strangers say I highly remind them of Asperger's females they know, but my own relatives don't believe it, I have a female close relative with classic autism who is only partially verbal and me who talked at the correct age they don't believe there is a link of any kind.


So how do the docs explain the meltdowns?


They don't try to explain the meltdowns, they just suggest I need therapy to control them better without trying to diagnose them really. I take a mood stabilizer and an anti-p for the bipolar but they don't even touch the meltdowns.


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18 Mar 2018, 7:29 pm

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You're looking at this from an entirely different perspective. I agree with you about the uselessness of IQ on its own. I'm not trying to trumpet the value of high IQ. What I'm saying is that based on scientific studies, women with ASD traditionally stood a low chance of getting a correct diagnosis, and with it help, if they had high IQ. Which supports your point. These women have had a lot of bad experiences in life, and often a lot of wrong or incomplete diagnoses, precisely because they had high IQ.

The second point I am trying to make is that IQ on its own doesn't mean a lot. I am suspicious of the idea that lower IQ in itself will make you happier, that's all. I think happiness depends on entirely different things than IQ.

We agree, you know :D

No-no, I didn't mean YOU were trumpeting high IQ----I was talking-about other people we have..... usually, they pass-through, thinking, IMO, that they're gonna come on here and impress people, cuz all the people in their little NT world see them as impressive----and, just as usually, they go-off with their tails between their legs, cuz someone has put them in their place (they met their match, here, and they've never experienced that, before); but, they'd never admit it----they would say there was something wrong with all of us, cuz we didn't recognize how special they were. LOL

Yep, I totally think you're right on the "women thing"! !

Oh, yeah, I don't think IQ alone, makes one happier, either----I think it could be A factor----but, like you said, there are sooooo many other variables.

Okay-dokey.....




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18 Mar 2018, 7:36 pm

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I am still being surprised by how I seem to think along similar tracks to people here but still end up with vastly different opinions to them on things :D

Yeah, I feel the same way here----it seems I'm almost always thinking of things that no one else has considered, or whatever----don't let it get you down (if it does). I feel if YOU feel you have given alot of thought to ALL angles of an issue, or whatever, that's the best anyone can do.

I love your screen-name, BTW!!




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19 Mar 2018, 12:53 am

Angnix wrote:
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I put the iq stuff on there because I knew that it could affect diagnosis. I remember having a harder time reading people as a child.

As an adult as far as any testing I had a therapist who suspected autism spectrum give me the AQ and the RAADS scales for adults which both tested in the AS range but mild, but for some reason my actual psycharist disagreed with them. I've had a couple other docs come up with the theory I'm on the spectrum but can't be diagnosed because I'm not impaired enough. I've had a few total strangers say I highly remind them of Asperger's females they know, but my own relatives don't believe it, I have a female close relative with classic autism who is only partially verbal and me who talked at the correct age they don't believe there is a link of any kind.


So how do the docs explain the meltdowns?


They don't try to explain the meltdowns, they just suggest I need therapy to control them better without trying to diagnose them really. I take a mood stabilizer and an anti-p for the bipolar but they don't even touch the meltdowns.


That doesn't make sense. If the meltdowns are sensory-related, all the therapy in the world won't help you. In that case what you need is strategies for avoiding overwhelm, combined with autism-specific tricks for handling yourself when you do get overwhelmed. Why don't you try putting that to them and hear what they say?

You've been on here a long while, and I think you're really tough, what with the crazy stuff going on in your life.

I tend to get meltdowns only from heat and frustration, but I get shutdowns from dealing with people a lot. Are your meltdowns due to people? You strike me as one of the people-sensitive ones, but I may be wrong.


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19 Mar 2018, 3:23 am

I did consider having an Introverted version of ADHD, before ASD fit my symptoms - consider looking into that.

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I cant really help you but i have a question about your post, why do people keep listing their IQ on this site? I dont understand why that matters or maybe im missing something, ASD doesnt automatically give anyone a high IQ, I dont think any mental disability or learning disability does. Is there a reason people do this other than to boast a bit?

I do it because I want to show that ASD is not a bad thing - it can be good for some people in some ways.
I believe my IQ is related to my ASD, I have faultless memory (not quite photographic), and can focus like a laser, which helps me learn (both do) things that are very hard. Chemistry, Electrical Engineering, Maths.

I've deficites, and IQ comes in various forms, some people have high AQ - they are masters, others have very high Streetsmarts IQ, some are literacy scollars, and others music prodigies, etc. IQ tests only cover logic and perhaps a bit of maths - they're flawed.



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19 Mar 2018, 9:25 am

I get frustration meltdowns, especially when yes, dealing with people. I can't handle conflict and unfortunately when I show signs of getting frustrated people think I will stop if they yell at me but it ends up escalating the situation. I'm a person that strives for a career when my family wants me to be a housewife basically. My uncle says I shouldn't get a job, instead just keep collecting SSI and cleaning/cooking/taking care of my disabled husband all day long. I almost never get a break from my husband. But my husband doesn't want to stay at home all day so I spend money on gas and taking him out to lunch occasionally and my uncle/aunt saying I'm "wasting money".

I only seem to get overly sensory stimulated during mood episodes. I have had shutdowns before in extreme circumstances.


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19 Mar 2018, 9:41 am

My husband is a huge part of my frustrations... Basically at one point in time he was deemed unable to care for himself and was in an adult foster care home. He has severe diabetes, can hardly use his hands and is even missing a finger, blind in one eye, almost deaf, just had a knee replacement and still in therapy for that, has other physical issues, has major depression, PTSD and borderline personality disorder, etc... But for some reason social security is fighting tooth and nail not to give him benefits and is saying he probably won't get a hearing until 2019. I get benefits for only bipolar disorder. We're trying to live on only my benefits so I'm trying to get a job but my relatives say if I get a job they refuse to look after him when I'm working and he can't take care of himself so where does that leave me? My old caseworker was even trying to get me to put him in a care home.


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