Can autistic people have girlfriend?

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It does happen that Autistic people find girlfriends and boyfriends, and it tends to happen in different ways to the general population.

It tends to happen later for Autistic men.
Also, it seems less common to meet someone from general life such as one;s own local town, the local pups and clubs, dances etc.

In my own history, I made the connections through my interests. It was persuing my interests which put me in the places where the connections were made.

It had a share of upsets as well. The first time someone showed interest so strongly that I followed it up, our personalities did not fit well together, and my heart was not in it.

I did not see the full extent of another person's interest in me, but we became lifelong friends who confide in each other, like brother and sister. We have been lifelong friends for 27 years. She help my assessment by contributing notes about me.

Another strong interest (cycling) brought me together with my second close relationship. Our personalities were better matched. Many good times and good memories.

As Autistic men we do seem to have some long times of loneliness. I think things are worse for Autistic women. Many times they become involved with predatory men and bad men and have relationships but unhappy ones where they are exploited.

It's okay that you do not have a girlfriend yet. Everyone finds love at different points in their lives, and everyone finds that love in different ways.
Personally, my boyfriend and I both are aspies. We met online, and we have been together almost 3 years now. We have never fought or anything, and we both understand each other very well. I am aware autistic women are a bit more rare than men, but perhaps, try seeking an aspie woman online? If you cannot connect with an aspie woman, then, perhaps connect with any woman online, through a mutual interest? My bf and I share a SI, so it's easy for us to talk alot. I think that's important for couples.

I don't really know what else to say except; finding a girlfriend you can really get along with and envision a future with will probably take alot of work; and it is a good idea to probably start out just being friends and getting that connection going first. It is much easier online, too, let me tell you that.