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BeaArthur
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06 Apr 2018, 5:34 pm

He should get into a care situation ASAP. When there is physical abuse in a family, nobody is safe.


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06 Apr 2018, 7:32 pm

Neither group homes nor assisted living facilities are locked. He can walk out whenever he wants. Money is likely the more limiting factor. Locked wards occur for patients with Alzheimer's Disease, psychiatric units/hospitals and jails/prisons (ie criminal institutions.)

A google search shows some good possibilities for group homes for young men in Tennessee. They might even have services to connect him with employment or other community activities. Also, it appears Tennessee has a disabilities waiver where he could get assistance in getting himself set up in an apartment and help finding a job.

Being abused is horrible and I hope he can find a way out.


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14 Apr 2018, 9:51 am

Doesn't matter anyway, the group home in question apparently only takes those with an IQ of 70 or lower. The father is also possibly now abusing the rabbit in order to intimidate my friend. There was a large wooden spoon on her cage this morning and the rabbit never was skittish but now she is.

And if group homes let you leave, then why is everyone so afraid of being put in one in the first place?


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14 Apr 2018, 8:14 pm

Whether group homes are good or bad, depends on the quality of the home and the situation of the individual. I have seen individuals come from abusive or neglectful family situations and thrive and blossom in group homes. The group home becomes, for them, friends and family. To others, it is confining, and with supports, these people can move out on their own and live more fulfilling lives.

I think there may be some confusion between psychiatric wards/hospitals, foster homes, assisted living facilities and group homes for different kinds of situations. There are situations in which wards or facilities are locked. And that would be terrifying, I agree. I would think that for aspies, any situation resulting in some loss of autonomy and having extra sensory inputs from different people, staff, rules (often necessary for groups of people to live together) would be stressful and unpleasant. Unless of course, where you are coming from is worse....


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