Knowing your limitations vs Making excuses

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Someone here has a rly cool signature, which says (paraphrasing) "If you're battling an invisible monster, first throw some paint over it."
~ It can be sometimes difficult to really know your limitations, and how much they can be removed. It can also be hard to know whether you're making excuses. Furthermore, one can therefore find themselves in an uncomfortable state of not knowing, alternating between one theory and the other, -- one day feeling like this, other day like that; while at the same time being bombarded by the demands of the quick-to-judge & often relentless world, and the demands of physical body (food, roof over head) and mind (psychological safety, resillience) [and so on]. This confusion clearly can cause alot of emotional difficulty.

This can lead to many dangerous situations. One of these is accepting false images of yourself that others project onto you stemming from their blindness to your condition.

But yea ::: don't be too hard on your self... My suggestion: "Be Proactive", as Stephen Covey says.
And other stuff other ppl will tell you anyway, just don't accept if someone uses Psychological Minimisation on you and your problems, especially if they're partial / biased , or if they're working from limited information..

It can take a lot of trial and error to know yourself but eventually you will. It is always best to err on the side of caution if you are not sure. One thing that helps me is to try to slow everything down. If I am moving too fast, I make a lot more errors in judgement and then end up hurting myself. Even if you don't do something and then realize that you could have done it and that you just made an excuse, don't punish yourself about it. Just take note of it and use it as a learning experience and the next time you have an opportunity to do the thing or to do something similar, just try it and see how it goes. This is not something that you have to get perfect every time. It's ok if you make the wrong choices sometimes. Just use each experience to note how you feel afterwards, how long it takes you to recover and so on and that way you will learn what you are capable of doing and what you need to say no to. And your stamina and abilities will change throughout your life and depending on your circumstances and energy levels. It is not important that you get it right every time. It is important that you learn to read your own body and understand how you work and what you need.