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27 May 2018, 5:26 pm

That's you but some of us find it demoralizing to be a last option.

Why would we want to spend time with people whom wish we were someone else????



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27 May 2018, 5:41 pm

grow up?

but then i'd be old, who wants that?


answer: nobody


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27 May 2018, 6:02 pm

skibum wrote:
You might want to adjust the title of your thread. I took it literally and I was really excited to actually feel like you were here because I was feeling so incredibly low right now and I have not been able to reach any of my friends and loved ones and I was excited about the thought that you might actually be reaching out in this thread. I know that you and I have had some really nice exchanges and I was hoping to become good friends through this thread since I thought that was what you intended. I was actually really hurt when I realized what you meant. So maybe consider changing the title of the thread so that we know that it is a sarcastic statement.


I don't think that you're alone. It was a bit of a confusing bait and switch for me also. Now that its switched I don't really don't get what the issue is. I guess you have to have "been there" to observe her RL situation to get it.



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28 May 2018, 12:15 am

It shouldn't be that hard to see. Elaine, Kraftie and others get it. No bait and switch.

It's talking about how some people will be your friend only when no one else is around.

Oye vay people



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28 May 2018, 12:46 am

This was my childhood.


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28 May 2018, 5:57 am

HistoryGal wrote:
It shouldn't be that hard to see. Elaine, Kraftie and others get it. No bait and switch.

It's talking about how some people will be your friend only when no one else is around.

Oye vay people


It sounds like you are talking about this: the phenomenon of someone being your friend through thick and thin, and continuing to be your friend when everyone else abandons you.

If that is what you're talking about then that phenomenon is usually thought of as being desirable, and is even celebrated in song. So it seems crazy to complain about it. That's the reason for the confusion.

Apparently you are talking about something else.

What that something else is seems to be something along the lines of: there are people who wont be seen talking to you in public, but who will be your "friend" when no one is around to watch. That would suck. But I didn't know that was even a thing.



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28 May 2018, 8:08 am

Right. People who will only be around when their more popular friends are busy truly suck.

There is no logical base to assume I'd be complaining about a friend who was there for me when no one else would.

I think this horse has been beaten enough. Ciao



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28 May 2018, 9:46 am

I am confused. Do you want the thread locked? Do you want to no longer participate in it? Do you wish for others to no longer talk about the subject? I don't understand what you mean.


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28 May 2018, 10:33 am

It seems that autistic men are more likely to be oblivious to how people treat them than than autistic women are. This is based on the responses to this thread and my experiences with autistic people in my family and my community.

Like historygal says, it feels like crap when someone treats me like a person they are having an affair with.