Some people have no logic and are just rude

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It is complete self entitlement in most cases. The reason I know this is that I confront a lot of people about it. There are a few people who genuinely apologize and who turn it off or down immediately and who sincerely did not realize how loud it was or how it carried. Those are good people who are considerate of others. But many of them will argue and curse me out and tell me that they are somehow entitled to play their music or yell at each other as loudly as they want because it is their right and that I am in the wrong for asking them to be considerate of others. Even when I tell them that I have a heart condition and that this could cause me to have a heart attack, they just cuss me out and tell me that I am full of s**t and that I have no right to tell them what to do with their music. So I know that they are just self entitled evil people who care about no one but themselves. And some of these people I have spoken to hundreds of times and called the police about them regularly and I know that the police have spoken to them and they still continue to do this as if they were some kind of demigods.

Quiet where I live......those people by you need to have that music during the day when they are trying to sleep. Shoe be on the other foot then. Bumholes like that need to learn a lesson. You have any badass biker friends that could send a message?

I wish I had badass biker friends. But the reality is that even in the day it is not acceptable. Some of them as well as some police officers make that excuse and tell me that it should not bother me during the day. My body and brain have the same reaction no matter what time it is. It makes me have huge meltdowns, have a very high dangerous heartbeat and blood pressure and if it goes on for too long I can go into shock. It's not ok to do that at any time. It is a home invasion and audio assault when it enters my home or my car or my personal space and I have ended up in the hospital many times for it and then I have to pay the bill every time. I have even had police officers tell me that if I end up having a heart attack and dying from it, which I could, that's too bad and no one will be able to prove that that is what caused my heart attack or death. There was actually a study done in Germany years ago where they studied the effect of boom boom music from people driving by on housewives. Many of them died of heart attacks. And as far as we know those housewives were not Autistic. But it has been proven that this kind of exposure to this kind of music can kill "normal" people from the extreme stress it causes. I am much more vulnerable and have much greater reactions to it than a "normal" person.

I think they are being logical but not in the way you expect. People want two things out of every interaction: respect and autonomy. They also read nonverbal expressions very carefully and put more weight on them in general. If you want to be successful, I'd suggest watching your nonverbal communication to confer respect and to give them agency or autonomy as a separate person. You can do this by being indirect and asking questions rather than telling them things. You can also pique their curiousity by giving them fun facts or also you could tell them when you were younger you used to enjoy your music, so you understand them and can appreciate the music. There are literally a ton of thing you can do in this area. I suggest you look at it as an opportunity to practice your social skills. Satiate your curiousity by asking them what they do etc. Can be really fun to engage in that kind of dialogue. Also, consider every few days maybe sleeping in different part of your house so you are not always coming over there every time
Finally you're extra sensitive and I get that because I am too. That just means you have to think ahead and plan out more. For this, you may have more time on your hands so great. If you need more help I'd be glad to help as it helps me too. Luck!

Thank you for the advice. But these are not those kinds of people and my house is too small for me to sleep anywhere else. There are shootings and drug deals in this area. These are not the kind of people who want to have small talk and help me practice social skills. And my social skills are very good. No one could be kinder and more respectful to them than I am. These are not people they are savages.

If they are savages, then it is not rudeness you are talking about. They seem to be using the music to assert their dominance and you may be challenging them on it. The cops maybe think they have bigger issues on their plate and are weighing the cost/benefit of harassing them. The thing with a holes is they often have chips on their shoulders and once they come after you, you have got to watch out. The community around you maybe weighing that cost/benefit as well. It sucks but the cops are telling you you'll have to live with it or move. They probably see lots of other people leaving for these same reasons. I know it is not ideal but our laws are I think made up to keep the majority out of trouble and free from harassment. The poor communities often have different priorities. Sad. I would start doing what you have to dom. Realize that your stuck their because you are getting subsidized by us working people and that sucks. This is the issue, not in my opinion that their are this large number of as*holes waiting around. No they are as*holes specifically because they are getting in the way of your subsides and the people subsidizing aren't getting concerned out of other reasons.

I think you are right on target with what you say. If I lived in a rich neighborhood, the police would do something. I was pulled over the other day for rolling a stop sign in a rich neighborhood a few blocks from my house. There was no one else around at all. I was going so slowly that I had not even realized that I had not come to a complete stop. The cop was sitting there all day long just controlling that intersection because the rich people that lived there had complained that not everyone came to a 100 percent complete halt at that stop sign even though there was no one else there at all.

Most rich people are awful. The cops are always quick to respond to rich people where as poor people get ignored and the cops won't do anything for them.

Why do you say that most of the rich people are awful? I don't understand.

Most rich people get rich by ripping people off and taking more than they need. Mortgage brokers, bankers, realtors, politicians, and lawyers are prime examples of awful rich people.

That is a huge generalization! There are plenty of people i know of who got rich due to their own hard work without the need to screw other people over.

I know that you said 'most', which implies that there is a certain percentage of people who are not, but you cannot just say that because you have seen some of the rich people on TV and heard about some of them on the news. There are plenty who want to live under the radar, because they don't need the publicity. These people are fully aware of the reputation they have due to some black sheep.

I don't think most rich people are awful. But I do think it is unfair that they get better public services. I pay taxes too.

Skibum, please note that having a discussion with someone who uses specific arguments and then says the opposite when challenged on it makes the conversation extremely hard. I appreciate the topic but have to bow out of the discussion because I cannot tell what you mean. You say people are rude but then say no, they are really not human, then you say most rich people are awful but then say you really don't believe they are awful. I would suggest you say what you mean and if you have to reverse your argument I would appreciate an apology. I hate to point this out, but if you are doing this in your every day conversations, you could really improve those conversations about being careful what you say and then apologizing if you say the wrong thing. If you are going to say you already apologized, just note that you may be aware that their is a whole art to apologizing also.

Most insurance brokers are awful too. They like to charge ridiculous amounts of money for insurance, but when someone needs to use the insurance, they will come up with any reason possible to deny a person's claim.

Day or night, Ski.....their music is too loud.

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