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16 Jul 2018, 4:51 am

K, so I got an idea: maybe I could try acting as confident as possible. Like, when they're trying to dictate what to say to them, I'll be like, "Hold on, I got this" and say it myself.



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16 Jul 2018, 9:37 pm

It's only been a few weeks, is it simply that I haven't proven myself enough to be worthy of actually being talked to like a human being?



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04 Sep 2018, 3:11 am

God, I wish I could read people's minds. I think I do act reasonably chatty and intelligent, but I'm still paranoid if this is because they think I have an IQ below 80, or if they merely assume I'm just kinda socially awkward. (I could take the latter, but I couldn't take the previous.)



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05 Sep 2018, 5:29 am

BTW, my mind makes this into a bigger deal that it really is because I otherwise have no opportunities to socialize and because my past makes me oversensitive and makes me want closure. (I'm worried about being in a situation I can't get out of yet again.)



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06 Sep 2018, 10:32 am

youcameandchanged wrote:
God, I wish I could read people's minds. I think I do act reasonably chatty and intelligent, but I'm still paranoid if this is because they think I have an IQ below 80, or if they merely assume I'm just kinda socially awkward. (I could take the latter, but I couldn't take the previous.)


I'm with you on that, my intelligence is one of my core values, my social ability not so much. If I feel like someone is talking down to me, demeaning my intelligence, I mentally flip out. But if it were about social skills I wouldn't care



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10 Oct 2018, 8:58 am

https://www.quora.com/How-long-does-it- ... rsons-eyes



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10 Oct 2018, 9:15 am

I've noticed in my life that the saying, "You don't have a second chance to make a good first impression" definitely applies. I put my worst foot forward on a few occasions and, if certain people saw it, there was nothing I could do to ever change a negative into a positive. I wonder what might have been had I not been so naïve, stupid and incompetent.



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10 Oct 2018, 7:45 pm

youcameandchanged wrote:
By people who clearly mean well, I mean. I made this question because I'm in a special work program and I get talked to as if I were 15 years younger by merit of the sheer fact that I'm there. Honest quesch: how do I stand up for myself without looking rebellious or whatever?


When people speak condescendingly to me, I tend to just talk over their head until they stop.
I imagine this isn't a proper solution in a lot of social contexts, but it works.



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10 Oct 2018, 7:52 pm

When someone is condescending to me, I say simply, "Why, thank you!" just as Winnie-the-Pooh would.

It flummoxes others to the point that they don't know how to respond.


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29 Nov 2018, 3:32 am

viewtopic.php?t=205009&p=8087660#p8087660



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29 Nov 2018, 3:36 am

youcameandchanged wrote:
https://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=205009&p=8087660#p8087660

Whoops, not that specific post. But anyway, I think y'all could find which post I wanted to show y'all.