Are You Asexual?

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I have an answer that is a contradiction in terms: I voted hyper-sexual but because of the inherent dangers this presented me with I have been celibate for the past 22 years by choice. My sexual desire can be pretty crazy at times and I've had to relieve those feelings up to four times in a day but I realized early on that I would probably kill myself with STDs if I wasn't careful. So, as I said, I have been celibate and that is, I haven't had sex with a woman, for 22 years now.

I'm finding this particularly interesting being demisexual and not personally knowing other people who are demisexual.
I don't feel so weird now.

I am also Demisexual and never met anyone that was as well. Most people are the one night stand type, I just can't do that. I need a long time before I can have sex with someone. When I do, I am incredibly passionate. Demisexuals make love in a different way, they melt together, really care and love.

I identify as Pansexual, leaning more towards females. However, I am wondering if I might actually be Demisexual now. I don't like the idea of having a romantic relationship unless I really feel connected to the person.

Not going to lie, I voted and already questionably regret what I submitted as a response not the least because of what my selection entails me to take into account.

I might as well be Asexual,but I'm not.I'm still attracted to women,but women are not attracted to me.That's despite of the fact that I'm not overweight/obese,have good personality,and have a high paying job.I have asked plenty of women over the years,including plenty of Aspie women and I was rejected by all women,regardless if the woman was NT or a Aspie,it didn't matter in this case.Now I have face reality that I will never be in a romantic relationship,ever.

Also, I must add, the browser thing fits me well

None of the choices fitted me. I am not asexual although I have been celibate by choice for about 16 or 17 years now. I am attracted to both male and female but transgender or cross dressed people hold a special fascination. My partner is asexual and transitioning M to F and although when we first met he(at the time) was not asexual for a brief period, we overdid it somewhat. Happy in our sexless relationship now.

I always found sex overwhelming and would go over the top - probably oversexed or hyper sexual. Not sure if that was a product of the abuse I suffered or what, but it certainly didn't help with relationships. I am much happier now that I am celibate as it was a confusing and negative thing in my life, and being female it was certainly not socially acceptable to be so voracious in my sexuality.

Interesting question w regards to Autism/Asperger's.

I've never thought about it before, but I don't think I know any other demisexuals, either. I didn't even know it was a thing until maybe last year, when I saw it mentioned on an OkCupid profile.

I know a few people though who are virgins, and aren't sure if they're asexual or not.

I'm asexual and aromantic. My friends and I like to joke around that I'm peasexual because I like to sleep with all of my plush Om Noms from Cut the Rope every night.

I'm definitely not asexual, as I'm in a committed relationship.

But asexual people are allowed to be in committed relationships...?

What about lithromantic? From the Asexuality wiki: Lithromantic is a term to describe a person who experiences romantic love but does not want their feelings to be reciprocated. Lithromantic people may or may not be ok with romantic relationships. Some accept reciprocated platonic love, or even romantic love, but does not find it necessary in a relationship.

I've always considered myself heterosexual/heteroromantic since I've always been attracted to men, and always had thoughts/fantasies of such things, but I'm not sure if I'd actually want a relationship in real life. I've liked a few people in real life (my "do you like me?" notes as a kid always got a No ) and any of the in-person men I've been attracted to are usually guys I've seen around or don't know too well. My main crushes are pretty much famous people. I don't think I could completely identify as "lithromantic", but might be able to say that I lean that way, since all my feelings are pretty much in my own mind.

Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction, which can be defined as never having the desire to have sex with another person. Kissing isn't inherently a sexual act, so some asexuals may like kissing, while others don't. A relationship between an asexual and sexual person may work out or may not, depending on the intensity of the sexual person's sexual needs and/or the willingness of the asexual person to engage in sex. It can be hard to determine whether you're asexual or not, but if you've never felt the desire to have sex with a specific person, you're likely asexual.

Aromantic means not romantically attracted to others. It doesn't mean loneliness, because platonic relationships can be just as close and fulfilling. Though aromantics may get lonely if their friends prioritize their romantic relationships over friendships.

Definitely asexual. I learned about it in my early 20s by accident xD

Now I am asexual-like, maybe thanks to antipsychotic drugs like olanzapine or sulpiride and due to being religious. My nature wants to have autistic people in my close family as "pet animals" or something or somebody alike. My mentality "complains" that my parents and siblings are not having ASD or psychosis... My nature people with similar problems than me. I am "lonely" because my inmates do not have developmental or at least chronic mental disabilities like ASD or schizophrenia. My nature would prefer having brother or sister with bookish ASD without intellectual disability than having neurotypical wife. And I feel no need for caressing, kissing, hugging that sibling. My sister may look somewhat autistic-like, but she may not have any mental disorder or have "not attractive" to my mind mental disorders like addiction to computer or smartphone. And I may not feel love even to autistic people or inmates.

I may have never desired having a friend and I might never have a friend. But it is not painful to my schizoautistic nature. Maybe I do not know what to mean being loved or unloved? I might also have no need of being accepted by other people, also peers. I "loved" girls when I was a child, but this might be (sexual) infatuation, not real, emotional love. I was sexual when I was about 6 years old. I was not so religious then.