15 Nov 2018, 8:58 am
15 Nov 2018, 9:32 am
It's great to hear that doing things for yourself has made good improvements for you, hopefully if I start doing things myself they will for me as well. I hope this doesn't sound horrible, but I'm glad you've been through something similar, it's nice to know I'm not the only one and that there is light at the end of the tunnel 
Thank you for helping me out.
I like your suggestions. I think maybe doing a couple of things I consider "difficult" might be a good start for me, maybe if I do a few difficult things a day. That way I'll get into the habit of it and then they should become easier to do, hopefully. I just made myself a sandwich for lunch, I didn't want much as I always feel full, but I think that's a good start. Also I'll wash my hair tonight and that will be two difficult things done in one day which I think will do me the power of good. Like you, in the end hopefully I'll be cooking and cleaning and it will make me more independent as well as more confident.
Maybe I'll wear my fave clip on earrings as a reward when I do good, they're gold diamond like sunflowers which are really pretty.
I had a therapist a few years ago but I stopped seeing her. It might be a good idea to go back now, maybe see if she can help me as well. She was always really lovely but when I stopped going out I stopped with the appointments as well. I may call her tomorrow, see how it goes.
Thank you for your message and advice, and for sharing your own experience. It's helped a lot!
@Magna Thank you, it's nice to know we're all friends here. I didn't have many friends growing up.
I wash my hands with just water, no soaps or hand washes. I stopped using soap and hand washes in my mid teens and haven't used one since, but as I said above I'm going to start using more stuff like that. I'll let my brain calm down and take things slow and slowly adjust.
It also wouldn't be a bad idea to look for softer hand washes, thank you for the recommendation.
Thank you for another good idea. Running my hands through my hair, that will be good practice for me and it might work if I do it enough. I did it just then, it felt awful! But if I keep doing it on and off I should get used to it eventually.
It's a mind thing I'm sure I can get better at these things and become a lot more independent.
Thanks for your help, both of you. I'd love to stay and keep messaging, I might go and explore the rest of the forum now.
15 Nov 2018, 9:41 am
So glad to be of help! 
trust me it's possible to get past this period. We're here for you too!
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15 Nov 2018, 12:01 pm
Do you like drawing?
I know the feeling. The best I could do about it was to turn on one of my favorite records, get a puzzle to solve (the most relaxing activity for me) and wait until my mind processes everything it needs to process.
And, by what you describe, your mind has tons of information, feelings and stimuli to process. It will take time but there is a way out of it.
Aren't your parents a bit overprotective? I hate the feeling of washing my hair too but it's just something that has to be done as quickly as possible. Or maybe wear your hair short?
I'm a loser at the kitchen too, I burned and cut myself countless times, I've burned several kettles and plenty of food. But after years of practice, a tea or a bowl of rice remain within my culinar abilities
Soups and casseroles (I hope that's the right word) are also ways to turn contents of your freezer into something edible without much talent.I used to really enjoy it but haven't done any art for ages.
I like listening to music as well, I find it relaxes me and helps me to keep calm and think good things rather than let the darker stuff pull me down. A puzzle might work for me as well; I used to really enjoy doing puzzles. I need something that can slow me down and let my brain deal with and manage things like my worries and thoughts without it getting overloaded, which is what I think happens at the moment.
I feel a lot brighter now though
It's my own fault really, I got so low and let others do stuff for me and now they think everything needs to be done for me. I hate the feel of stuff like shampoo on my hands but I may start doing it myself that way I can regain a bit more independence. And maybe I can start by making myself a salad or something? That might help with the cooking thing. To be honest with you, I want to try these things but I'm so used to failing and taking more steps back than forward that I'm scared to try again. But I don't want to live my life thinking like this because it's horrible.
When you first go through burnout it's very confusing i sympathize it'll get better. Eventually. For now i'd try to take a break from whatever is stressing you.
15 Nov 2018, 12:09 pm
Do you like drawing?
I know the feeling. The best I could do about it was to turn on one of my favorite records, get a puzzle to solve (the most relaxing activity for me) and wait until my mind processes everything it needs to process.
And, by what you describe, your mind has tons of information, feelings and stimuli to process. It will take time but there is a way out of it.
Aren't your parents a bit overprotective? I hate the feeling of washing my hair too but it's just something that has to be done as quickly as possible. Or maybe wear your hair short?
I'm a loser at the kitchen too, I burned and cut myself countless times, I've burned several kettles and plenty of food. But after years of practice, a tea or a bowl of rice remain within my culinar abilities
Soups and casseroles (I hope that's the right word) are also ways to turn contents of your freezer into something edible without much talent.I used to really enjoy it but haven't done any art for ages.
I like listening to music as well, I find it relaxes me and helps me to keep calm and think good things rather than let the darker stuff pull me down. A puzzle might work for me as well; I used to really enjoy doing puzzles. I need something that can slow me down and let my brain deal with and manage things like my worries and thoughts without it getting overloaded, which is what I think happens at the moment.
I feel a lot brighter now though
It's my own fault really, I got so low and let others do stuff for me and now they think everything needs to be done for me. I hate the feel of stuff like shampoo on my hands but I may start doing it myself that way I can regain a bit more independence. And maybe I can start by making myself a salad or something? That might help with the cooking thing. To be honest with you, I want to try these things but I'm so used to failing and taking more steps back than forward that I'm scared to try again. But I don't want to live my life thinking like this because it's horrible.
When you first go through burnout it's very confusing i sympathize it'll get better. Eventually. For now i'd try to take a break from whatever is stressing you.
Thank you. Defos trying that now... Just sat down relaxing to a little bit of music now, feeling relaxed. Does burnout have good and bad days or is every day bad?
15 Nov 2018, 12:37 pm
Do you like drawing?
I know the feeling. The best I could do about it was to turn on one of my favorite records, get a puzzle to solve (the most relaxing activity for me) and wait until my mind processes everything it needs to process.
And, by what you describe, your mind has tons of information, feelings and stimuli to process. It will take time but there is a way out of it.
Aren't your parents a bit overprotective? I hate the feeling of washing my hair too but it's just something that has to be done as quickly as possible. Or maybe wear your hair short?
I'm a loser at the kitchen too, I burned and cut myself countless times, I've burned several kettles and plenty of food. But after years of practice, a tea or a bowl of rice remain within my culinar abilities
Soups and casseroles (I hope that's the right word) are also ways to turn contents of your freezer into something edible without much talent.I used to really enjoy it but haven't done any art for ages.
I like listening to music as well, I find it relaxes me and helps me to keep calm and think good things rather than let the darker stuff pull me down. A puzzle might work for me as well; I used to really enjoy doing puzzles. I need something that can slow me down and let my brain deal with and manage things like my worries and thoughts without it getting overloaded, which is what I think happens at the moment.
I feel a lot brighter now though
It's my own fault really, I got so low and let others do stuff for me and now they think everything needs to be done for me. I hate the feel of stuff like shampoo on my hands but I may start doing it myself that way I can regain a bit more independence. And maybe I can start by making myself a salad or something? That might help with the cooking thing. To be honest with you, I want to try these things but I'm so used to failing and taking more steps back than forward that I'm scared to try again. But I don't want to live my life thinking like this because it's horrible.
When you first go through burnout it's very confusing i sympathize it'll get better. Eventually. For now i'd try to take a break from whatever is stressing you.
Thank you. Defos trying that now... Just sat down relaxing to a little bit of music now, feeling relaxed. Does burnout have good and bad days or is every day bad?
I kinda have a unique position cause i burned out when I was 13. But yes, It does have better and worse days sometimes you'll feel like it never happened other times you'll feel even worse then when it first happens. You'll learn to not push yourself to hard, eventually. theres ups an downs. Now, If you continue to push yourself to hard it's going to be all downs but that's your choice. Some people do some people don't. *shrugs* good luck to you. Admittidly i didn't read the whole thread. Ok, I'd recommend you'd take it slowly. Try to start with doing some chores then move on to say mowing the lawn or something till you get to say a part time job or something then you probably can live of yourself. I'm not sure if you get disability benefits or not but If you do it makes getting a job complicated atleast in the united states they kinda trap you into poverity. Try to start like you said cooking tea or washing your hair. I'm not sure where you are on the spectrum. Don't say they aren't gonna happen they still can. One bit of philosophy that might help you is that the harder something is the more rewarding it is to do. even if it's significantly harder for you to do those things you should celebrate you doing them and not compare yourself to others. Because others do not share the same struggles as you do. Also celebrate the things your good at.
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16 Nov 2018, 9:52 am
Your parents took you to the doc to have tests done & everything came back fine but I'm wondering if your receiving any mental help Senatriss 
It sounds like you could be suffering from depression. It can cause forgetfulness & tiredness. It can also make you think about killing yourself & make you feel useless as f#ck. I highly recommend seeing a psych if your not already. Counseling & meds could potentially be very helpful to you.
