Were you a clingy child?

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I defiantly was not clingy. I never had a close realtionship with my parents partly because they did not understand my various issues & disabilities. I was in trouble a lot as a kid & bullied alot. I much preferred to be by myself & left alone to do my own things. I'm very clingy in romantic relationships thou.

At home I was always very aloof. But if we were outside of the house, or if company was over, I'd stick to my parents or older sister like glue. Lessens the chance that I'd have to engage with strangers.

No. My AS mom thought that children were too noisy, so any time I was suffering from emotions, I was just quarantined until I got over the symptoms. It is a rare day when I turn to another human for sympathy.

I used to call on a "friend" every day and only later realised that he NEVER called on me. In fact, this happened with two friends. I don't think it was "clingy" though, as it wasn't really so much that I was desperate for his company as that I'd developed a bad habit.

As a child I was too busy being in my bubble to be clingy. In fact it worried my parents a great deal.

Yes, even if I wished such was never a part of me or ever adopted patterns of behavior which would literally cause me great difficulty, which today i try to push myself away from..

When I look at old photos from when I was a child, there are pictures with my siblings and I was the kid always holding my mom's hand (and I wasn't the youngest).

AnnieAnn, you have a nice username

Too busy with my projects and not really afraid of things. When I was little, I didn't like being touched much. I found it too overwhelming.

I had a refrigerator mum and distant, autistic dad.
There was no one to cling to but myself.

Oh yeah. I did not allow friends I made to have any other friends as a kid. It didn't work very well. I'm still like this but I have toned it down and I never display it but I am terribly jealous and i'm guessing it has to do with separation anxiety.

I wouldn't say that I am a very clingy person with friends nowadays, it's usually one friend in particular that I favor and when that happens I want them to do everything with me all the time. It gets suffocating for them because before I only made one friend and expected them to always be there to hang out or help me with things.

No one likes a clingy person so i'm trying to work on this. This year i've made several different friends instead of just one and I stay in touch with all the best I can. The irony in it is that I hate clingy people myself, I can't stand a partner who has no friends or hobbies or need for alone time and would need me constantly for everything and never have anything interesting to tell me because I already know that they don't do anything interesting.

May be because I'm rather the opposite of clingy I can't agree to that. If I'm totally into a girl I would like her to want to be with me all time. I don't care much about most people but the one that I really like and want to be with me. I think I would totally like a girl like you who wants to be with me all time and don't tries to cause me to be together with a lot of other people who are mostly really boring for me.

It would be nice if someone liked being with me more, but in general, women have liked being with their fantasy about me, as long as I don't blow holes in it. Depending on how close they are, it can involve various degrees of inhibition. I once had a girlfriend who I enjoyed for two hours a week of conversation, but three would have been too much. One of the most blissful weeks I remember was de-compressing after a week of juggling both girlfriend and mother as guests.

I had a refrigerator mum too - I figure it was also from AS, but that mothers get a pass on any blame, so her genetic influence got ignored. Does it seem like you could have had two AS parents?

nope. i minded my own business a lot. but i have a wonderful who's always been supportive so it was not out of a lack of love.

Definitely!
My mother has no filter, can't regulate her voice, can't empathise, is socially inept and completely self centred.