Talking to (NT) people about your autism

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anyone who's ever known me in real life and most anyone through the internet knows that i am autistic. they might not know much about it but they know i have it.

why explain things though if no explanation is asked for? in a sense it is a 'you are just being you' situation. i wear shades in bright light. if i was asked why i'd say because it's my preference.

I don't tell anyone about my ASD. Well, obviously my close relatives know, like my mum and my aunties, and they're the only people I talk about ASD to without feeling embarrassed. Otherwise I don't talk about it to anybody else because I don't want people to know I've got it. I do talk about my anxiety and ADHD to people though.
But if I told people about ASD I doubt that they'd even believe me. They'll be like, "but you're sociable" and "but you don't flap your hands or rock" and "but you don't put your hands over your ears at a loud noise" and "but you can express your feelings" and "but you don't take things literally" and "but you don't have a special interest", the list goes on.

I have a strange irrational belief that autistic people who have neurotypical friends of their age can't possibly be autistic, probably because I feel hurt that I'm only mild Asperger's yet I can't seem to be included in a neurotypical group no matter how hard I try. So I wonder how other autistics do it.

I don't believe that autism is the next step in evolution, but I do think that HFA and Asperger's syndrome will become like a trend soon, as more people are getting diagnosed. It's a bit like gay people are coming out in the open these days and now being gay is so accepted here in the UK than it ever used to be. Also mental health issues like Bipolar and personality disorders seem to be so accepted these days, where as years ago people with mental health issues had stigma attached and were seen as insane. So I think milder forms of autism will soon be more understood, which is good because hopefully it might make autistic people more socially accepted.

I'm more than glad that my family accepts it, but never discussed it ever.
Not a single direct statement about it. Though I do sense unspoken terms, but for me it is best left unsaid.

I don't want to bother anyone with my case.
They don't need to know how my mind works, how my body works, how I sense things differently, how concept of things are different for me. I don't want them to imagine themselves in my place and claim to know, let alone understand.

The only thing that people just know that certain things are annoying or uncomfortable, and there are many things I don't have for a preference.
And knowing 'why' is this is not one of it -- they don't have to know. I make my own adjustments as long as it is allowed.

Not that I don't want them to understand per se. More like I don't want any of them to touch any more issues to it.
I don't want their silence and mostly idle acceptance -- be twisted into something more misunderstanding and unwanted that either leads them into smothering me or neglecting me for just knowing or worse, claim to understand.

I can grant someone's curiosity and answer questions for one. I can even go as far as showing my world to them if they want to and if I trust them.
But having someone to adjust for me? I wouldn't want that.
And if it's the other way around that they bothered to be 'concern' towards me by making me adjust for them? I would rather ditch them or get kicked out on purpose.


There are only very few people that I trust that could understand me enough. They not only how my mind and body works, but also know me and how bits of me interacts.
And an even lesser fraction of those people, truly understands and I can openly discuss about the damn world around me in ways that no NT would ever understand. So far, none of them are NTs.


I would rather be the one who accommodates, not the other way around. Even accommodate those who are less in need than I -- this is just how I'm.

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