I don't like clubs and bars.

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I think you need a special sense of humor and good beer or other drinks for having fun with this.

I never really been to a bar or club. Never had any interest in it & i'm not into drinking that much. Never been drunk & would probably pass out if I would drink more than two beers in a couple hours cuz alcohol makes me tired.
As for finding a realtionship, I cant really help. I had no luck but bad offline & no luck at all on dating sites. I met both my exes & current girlfriend on forums but I was single & looking aLONG time so i think a lot of it was luck of meeting the rite woman willing to give me half a chance & my specific personality/posting style. I would of gone the mail-order bride route if I had the money & resources & i would of taken in a girl who needed a place to stay if I would of had my own place.

Sorry I didn't notice your gender when I reacted to your previous post. I have to admit that's a hard set of search parameters you're saddled with, especially if there's little but old folk in your area, and if you've got autism as well, the needle-and-haystack problem is even worse. Maybe there's a local organised gay community, or something online, that may be able to help somehow? And I guess if you can travel then that would widen the "hunting ground," if you'll excuse the expression.

Clubs and bars aren't all they're cracked up to be. Trust me.

Yeah, that makes sense.

I'm ok at the moment being single but I'd have to make an active effort to get a girlfriend.

I'd like to know people and be sure they're not homophobic. Perhaps this is partly on my part an ageism thing. My last village was full of homophobic older people. I think this city, where people vote more left wing, might be different regardless of age and people might be more used to hearing that someone is gay or lesbian.

I overheard my old 'friends' talking about how they never trust lesbians and I decided I couldn't come out to them.

I'd like more lesbian friends even just on a platonic level. There are certain experiences where I don't know who is right to talk to about it. Maybe this is something for the internet. I'm just hyper vigilant that 'on the internet nobody knows you're a dog'.

I'm happy being alone in general and having older, non bigoted, friends, but I'd like to have more more friends my age. Part of it is fear on my part. I don't want to turn 50 and have most of my friends already dead (many of my friends are in their 70s).

But, I don't get where to meet young people. Especially young but not too young (late twenties-mid thirties). I assume people make friends either at work or at baby groups because every hobby group I attend is full of older people instead and when I have the misfortune of going out at night, it's full of really young people (late teens-early 20s).

I prefer to socialise with people over 50 and ever over 70 than under 25. Youngsters seem obsessed with things like clubbing, booze, hating parents, and sex. But ideally I'd like to mix with 30 somethings who got my pop culture references, didn't talk down to me and who shared a similar outlook on life.

And if I want to hit on someone I want to make 100% sure she's lesbian so her turning me down is about turning me down and not me having misfired gaydar she might get offended at. Or at least that she'll say 'I'm not gay but I have a friend who might be right for you, you're both into drawing'.

Don't worry about the gender thing. I'm butch so I probably pass as male via the written word unless I'm talking about a purely female experience. Finding a girlfriend is an either sex thing.

I only like clubs and bars if they're of the sandwich or chocolate variety, respectively.