Why are people so obsessed with me talking?

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I can guess only. I don't really know you nor them. Best would be if you would talk to a friend of you who knows you and the girls. But I'm afraid there isn't a honest friend of you around who could help with this otherwise you would have ask this friend.

Because you aren't talkative they fail to socialize with you and for this they don't know you and even less get what is with you an why you don't socialize with others. They talk about you because they are curious about you and/or jealous if the boys seem to be watching you. NT girls care a lot about which girls the guys are looking at.
If a lot of people know your name who you don't even know then you are for sure a bit of eye catching. Just a guess.

what is even worse is if they talk in front of your back.

Yes everyone knows me even people who I don’t know. And it confuses me because I’m quiet and keep to myself. If I made myself ugly people would ignore me?

Short answer, yes-if you make yourself less stunning, people will not be so drawn to you, and they will leave you alone more.

Try a little experiment – pull your hair back, don’t wear any make up, and put on some “fake“ eyeglasses. Basically most “princess diaries“-type movies in reverse. It is built into our DNA to be drawn to attractive people, it is normal behavior for people to seek the approval of people that we see as “desirable“. Look at just about any celebrity-they can barely walk down the street without being mobbed by people seeking their approval. Most celebrities are NT, and they can barely stand all the attention.

So try the reverse – princess costume. Think of it as your superheroine disguise. Let us know how it works.

I think many would but please stay the way that you are and don't do it. Life is hard enough for you. You would face not only less attention but also much more bullying. As far as I remember are there some girls who are totally against you just because you are quiet and didn't socialize with them and thoose girls already tried to cause other girls to think bad of you. I'm afraid that you would only help the ones who are against you with doing so and help them to convince others to think bad of you too. Once they succeed they may start bullying you. It's much harder to think bad about somebody who is always nice. Please stay the way you are!

Same here but I've also had people tell me that I don't know what I'm talking about or I don't know what they're talking about. People seem to think of me as being ret*d which I am compared to them but I could of improved some if people would of gave me more chances to step up.

Btw: I guess that you don't really want to be ignored. You rather want to be with people who like you and help you once you face problems in understanding speech. But for this you would need some really nice friends who help you to check people a bit and introduce you to the really nice ones only. Wished I could help you with that. I think you need to be open regarding your problems to a girl who is quite self-confident, popular and totally neat.

^Don't try this please. Too many NTs are selfish and manipulating and if you aren't able to recognize their character and intentions it's totally hard to make friends without getting hurt a lot because of your handicap in understanding language and getting the peoples intentions.

Did you ever think about an autism support dog? Dogs are protecting and many of them aren't as bad in recognizing dishonest people.