Anyone here hate compliments?

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I hate compliments because IMO, compliments are just insults in disguise.

Positive judgments are still judgmental

The speaker is claiming their opinion is important and should matter to you

Especially compliments about appearance

Yes I am a hypocrite but please do not take it personally or think too much about the compliments





Because I hate compliments because it is like I have to say "thank you" but they did not help me.

I feel exactly the opposite from this. I do not like being complimented on my appearance. It feels like the person is only looking at the superficial, some of which I can't control, and they don't take the time to see me for who I am.

I sometimes feel uncomfortable about compliments on work or ideas, but more because I don't know how to respond.

I don't see anything wrong with "judgments."

It's the nature of people to judge. To evaluate. To assess.

I feel like the withholding of compliments can lead to low self-esteem.

I hate lying compliments and I hate lying criticism. I hate having to be modest and I hate having to show off about things which I'm not good at.

I feel like what it's socially acceptable to show off about 'I have lots of friends' is a lie to me and what's socially unacceptable to show off about 'I'm intelligent' is true for me.

(it's after 2 so I'm being blunt here btw)

They make me feel weird in a way I don't like and I don't know how to react.
So yes.

Hemlocks, algrove, and oleander are also natural. Natural does not mean good.

Judgments are sometimes natural, involuntary, subconscious or necessary for a function.

But some judgments are wrong, biased, or unjustified

It prevents an open mind

Arrogant attitude

And announcing even tiny lil judgments out loud


What the flying f**k


"I know you are smart", a counselor had the nerve to tell me.

Increase self esteem?

No sir. No ma'am. No gender neutral people.

She was 35 and I was 33 and she acted like she expected me to believe everything she told me

And she got paid for it

Over minimum wage

It's triggering and provoking

If someone is going to make good use of freedom of speech , please wait until after work



f**k that b***h

Yeah I'm not saying that I'm really comfortable with compliments about my appearance, just that they bother me less. If someone says "I like your shirt," my automatic response is often "Thanks, me too." People sometimes laugh when I say this, I guess the "me too" part seems funny to them? Maybe it's already obvious that I like it because I'm wearing it.



I don't think that compliments are bad. I say them to other people all the time when I sincerely mean them. I think maybe the central problem is that people often seem to have some kind of expectation of how I'm supposed to act in response, and I don't always know what the expectation is, so it makes me uncomfortable.

Appearance is superficial. Some of it you can't control. Natural. Some of it you can control. Plastic surgery

Intelligence is nature versus nurture. Intelligence is not a choice. You can choose to be a workaholic and memorize books about nuclear physics. But

(Effort) (efficiency) = (outcome)

Intelligence is the outcome

Efficiency is not in your control mostly

You can put in more effort but it will only take you so far



f**k structural engineering

Yes and no. Yes, if I am complemented on something that I put serious effort into and that I'm proud of. No, for pretty much everything else. People that know me tend to constantly tell me how "special", kind hearted, etc that I am, but I don't feel like I am neither of those. There is nothing "special" about me at all, I'm not so sure that I'm "kind hearted" either. It feels to me like those kind of "complements" are more like sarcastic remarks, or if they aren't then they are just wrong.

This. But I absolutely hate flattery and brown-nosing and won't respond to those quite as graciously.

I'm old fashioned enough to consider any comments on physical appearance rude (at least outside close family members and friends).

In my case I get too little criticism, especially at work. That is a real a disadvantage, because there are no possibilities to learn. Criticisms are help to adjust and improve my behaviour and/or work attitude at work. The absence of criticisms at appraisal talks is a real problem to me.

Compliments can be a problem if I have accomplished something that is obviously very easy, especially if it is done in an exaggerated way. Compliments are real (=not exaggerated) if I stay in Japan for two weeks and I have arranged everything.

I have odd issues with "you're welcome". I don't like to be told that or say it. When someone says 'thank you' to me, I just say 'thank you' back to them, lol.

In the moment, compliments make feel uncomfortable because it draws attention to me, and I don’t particularly care for that. If I perceive it as someone saying something to say something, then that makes me think that person is disingenuous. ( I see this a lot in women...” I love those shoes” or “that dress is super cute on you” ...to me it seems like it something they feel they have to say and not really something they embody and are expressing out of a genuine motivation). Compliments directed at me or others make me question peoples motivations...something I do not understand a lot of the time. When I give someone a compliment, I usually emphsize with “I am not just saying that, you did a great job” or whatever.

I typically don't respond to compliments or praise.

At least two times, got fired. It would have been to my advantage if they were to have given criticism