If you could change your interest, what would you pick?

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People who drink a lot tend to age quicker than people who don't drink as much. I've seen it with my own eyes.

It's true that many very old people swear by a glass of wine a day---but they don't go out to pubs and get drunk every weekend.

There are many ways to have a "social life" other than going out and getting drunk. You can invite people over for dinner. Maybe give them a couple of beers or something.

I have been to a club once in my life and felt out of place. I have been to bar's I think twice when I was young and I managed to become a designated driver. I hardly ever drink. I tend to do things because I want to do them, not because it's popular or trendy. On the other hand, my brother is very outgoing and has more friends than anyone could ever possibly manage. He ended up going to AA meetings over his sociable lifestyle.

I've known too many alcoholics in my life, and it's horrible to see. I also know people who died of liver failure or drunk driving, or other preventable but associated reasons. Alcohol isn't worth it. Don't fall for the social / peer-pressure trap of drinking, especially if you don't want to!

Really......too much alcohol does harm to your body. And does harm to your mind, too.

Some people handle it better than others----but you wouldn't want to be one the "others." I see some of the "others" on the New York City subway every day.

Unless you really enjoy this sort of thing----drinking and bars/pubs and stuff, I really wouldn't do it. I would sacrifice a "social life" with people who believe this sort of thing is what constitutes "living."

It's not a moralistic stance I'm taking when it comes to alcohol.

It's a more "practical" stance.

I don't mean becoming an alcoholic. It's just that when you're quiet like me, drinking and getting a bit drunk makes time go quicker and makes the night more fun and less daunting. I would go out more and not miss out so much if I liked drinking and getting drunk. But I'm afraid to get drunk because I hate hangovers (I have severe emetophobia). Having one or two mildly alcoholic drinks doesn't really count as drinking or getting drunk.

Also if I was into drinking then I would be invited out with my colleagues. There's 5 of us all around the same age, but they are all into going out and drinking at weekends, and they do it together without inviting me, even though I get on with them well at work. I would love to go out with them and be included, as they are fun to be around, but unfortunately I'm not into what they like doing.

So being a non-drinker does socially isolate me and makes me feel like some sort of moral nerd, and I am not a nerd.

Either playing the stock market, or counting cards at the blackjack tables at Vegas. Something to earn stacks of green.

It's entirely possible that they just thought you are not into going out. I know a lot of people think that people not drinking means they're not liking the night out.
If you're able to, inviting them out might show them you like going out too.

I'd like to take up guitar at some point, but it's really hard for me to find time and focus to actually learning how to play.