Worst or Weirdest Piece(s) of Advice You’ve Been Given

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"You should get rid of those earrings. You know those are for girls, right?"

I am a cis female.

One of the worst pieces of advice I've ever been given was to get Gestalt psychotherapy by a former roommate. Despite the fact that one of my therapists thought I might have Aspergers and/or Adhd (which turned out eventually to be true), I had others who were rigid and terrible for treating my conditions. Gestalt uses some very specific methods which are totally wrong for someone on the spectrum. So my roommate had no idea what she was talking about. It's only recently since I've started CBT that I'm starting to make real progress in therapy.

"Once a good idea, always a good idea". Actually this may be very good advice, but may not.

One of the best pieces of advice I heard is from the tennis player I admire for his triumph over adversity, Denis Istomin, the subject of my user name. He said, "Don't look back, only forward." It's tough to do sometimes, but it has helped me a lot.

This is the piece of bad advice I received as a toddler, unfortunately, not weird.

I had claimed a pair of sunglasses and wanted to wear them every where outside because the light hurt my eyes. My uncle told me that I needed to tuffen up because my eyes were the same as everybody else's, and everybody else could handle the sunlight without sunglasses. For over 45 years, every time I stepped outside on a sunny day, I wondered how everybody else dealt with the sunlight. And I do mean EVERY time. I never saw other people squinting, or closing one eye to deal with the light.


BTW, I now wear sunglasses outside during daylight hours every time, regardless of rain or shine.

Umm. Question. How does one know if one is light sensitive or not. For example, today has brightened up into a bright sunny day. I seem to be squiting my eyes as in I am walking abouts with my eyes half closed. However, my mum wasn't doing that and I don't thinkmothers were. I didn't notice others doing it. I changed car about a month ago and I keep forgetting. I need to put some sort of material over the top of the dashboard to reduce the glare the sun has. The strange thing is, my brother has the exact same car just with a different engine. I justnasked him and he said he has no problem.
Now could I be light sensitive and not have known it. Yesterday when parked while I took my mum shopping, I had to get in the back of the car as the sun aas shining in at me on the drivers seat. The back of the car on the other side had a nice bit of shade. It is not really summer yet. In the house if it cool and shady.
If I am light sensitive I don't think I am that light sensitive. I generally don't wear sunglasses as I find the feeling of them on my face irritates me a little. I will eear clear eye protector glasses for cycling as I hate flies in my eyes! I take them off when I am going slowly though like going up steep hills. But it makes me question if maybe I am slightly light sensitive?

My school counselor once told me I could marry Frankie. Frankie was a boy I knew with ODD who also had AS. But he is 5 1/2 years younger than me and I was like "no thanks because he is way too young for me." He said when he is 18 I would be 24 and I was like " no thank you, I don't like guys that much younger than me." I was 15 then. Plus he was abusive and violent. Not towards me but he was towards his mother and other kids and my brothers.

From what you have said, it is probably best you thought twice.

Ah. I don't get it like that. Not pain in my eyes. Maybe if too bright I may get a slight headache (Rare) but nothing major. Is more for me that shady is easier to see without half closing my eyes. No pain. So what I get is natural.

Hmmm I dont know about worst but this one is probably pretty bad advice:

"Look, smarts are overrated. You don't really need smarts to get by in the world. You're a girl. All you need is makeup, heels, and a pushup bra. Go flirt with some guys, pick the richest one, and boom- you're set for life. And even if he's an as*hole, its fine cause you'll be rich and wont have to work."

or maybe:

"Theres no point in the 'be who you are, and find people who like you for you' philosophy if you arent likeable in the first place. Who you are isnt enough and will never be enough. Noones going to like you, let alone love you. You should just learn that now so you wont be as disappointed later on when you die miserable and alone."

What is "be true to yourself"?

Homophobic precious lil "people", "be true to yourself"




What is "do your best"?



How about don't put all your eggs in one basket

^ Agreed. I hate people who say "just be yourself" whatever that means. I don't even know who i am.