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27 Jun 2019, 11:49 pm

hurtloam wrote:
Most people just know it means now, I'm sorry, but it's true. They wouldve asked in a in hours time if they needed it in an hour.

Never mind, we all learn from experience.


How would they know? And why would they get angry at me for not knowing?



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27 Jun 2019, 11:50 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
They could have explained

They choose not to

Because they thought you knew what they meant

But you are not telepathic


How could they expect me to know if it wasn’t explained?



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28 Jun 2019, 12:00 am

The private sector workplace is full of situations like these where not everything is explained properly. I've learned that I don't fit into high pressure situations where everything is counted in seconds, such as a restaurant situation. Also, many places have bosses who don't know have the ability to explain things properly.

One should feel free to ask if you are not sure.


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28 Jun 2019, 3:01 am

Most neurotypicals are ignoram-asses about how literal we can be at times.
I got caught out once where an NT dickhead tried to run me over with his car due to my literal interpretation to something he said.

Learn from the experience. <shrug>
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28 Jun 2019, 3:40 am

hollowmoon wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Most people just know it means now, I'm sorry, but it's true. They wouldve asked in a in hours time if they needed it in an hour.

Never mind, we all learn from experience.


How would they know? And why would they get angry at me for not knowing?


When we first made robots, we were astonished at the details that went into "pick up the block." Managing someone who needs that level of instruction is far more trouble than it is worth. An NT would only take things literally to cause trouble. See "Malicious compliance."



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28 Jun 2019, 4:22 am

Simple solution, ask them how urgent it is and let them know if you have other stuff to do too. It's taken ages to embed, but it's now the first question whenever my boss asks me to do stuff.

I'm not sure what position/rank you hold in your job, but when I worked in hospitality/catering every task was needed immediately.



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28 Jun 2019, 11:40 am

hollowmoon wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Most people just know it means now, I'm sorry, but it's true. They wouldve asked in a in hours time if they needed it in an hour.

Never mind, we all learn from experience.


How would they know? And why would they get angry at me for not knowing?


Because they wouldn't ask you to do something they don't want you to do.

At work I do things asap after I'm asked to do them. In general assume that everything is needed yesterday.

In a work setting everyone needs whatever they're asking for now. Especially in a kitchen.



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29 Jun 2019, 12:54 am

I have a similiar problem with the word "now." When someone uses that word, I tend to take it literally, as in right now, this instant.

This has caused a lot of trouble, like once at doctor's appointment the doctor asked how I was feeling right now. I thought he meant it literally, but it turned out that in that situation his word "now" meant "lately." My mom was with me at the time though so she was able to translate; right at that very moment I wasn't in pain, but I'd been in lot of pain the previous days. It would've caused a lot of trouble if the misunderstanding hadn't been solved.

It's just that I learned that, to majority, the meaning of the word "now" depends on the context as an adult, so it's easy to forget it and remember what I learned as a child, which is that "now" means this very moment.



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29 Jun 2019, 4:22 am

Fireblossom wrote:
I have a similiar problem with the word "now." When someone uses that word, I tend to take it literally, as in right now, this instant.

This has caused a lot of trouble, like once at doctor's appointment the doctor asked how I was feeling right now. I thought he meant it literally, but it turned out that in that situation his word "now" meant "lately." My mom was with me at the time though so she was able to translate; right at that very moment I wasn't in pain, but I'd been in lot of pain the previous days. It would've caused a lot of trouble if the misunderstanding hadn't been solved.

It's just that I learned that, to majority, the meaning of the word "now" depends on the context as an adult, so it's easy to forget it and remember what I learned as a child, which is that "now" means this very moment.


That would have confused me too actually.