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01 Sep 2019, 3:10 pm

I wish I could afford such places


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01 Sep 2019, 3:17 pm

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Thank you so much Mountain Goat. I am so glad that we are friends. You are a great encouragement to me as well.

League Girl, I agree that the cars mirrors were not adjusted correctly. And I believe that they were also not the proper size for the car even though they came with the car. He is going to replace the mirror with a better one. But the tough part is that at least in my city, and I believe in his, blasting a stereo is against the law. We have many laws against it in our city. I have read them. But it does not seem to matter what the law is. I have even had a conversation with a police officer who told me that they only enforce laws that matter and that even if something is against the law, they won't enforce it if people find it popular. That is what I have a huge problem with. And what bothers me about my friend's case is that everyone is agreeing that he is responsible and yes, he is, but no one, except one person on this thread who said this, will ever say that the person breaking the law blasting the stereo who caused the problem has any responsibility whatsoever. And even worse, people are encouraged to do this by the authorities even though it is very much against the laws here.



I didn't realize it is against the law where you are. I am in the US and this is actually legal just as long as it cannot be heard a certain amount of feet and if it's day time. I recall you saying you live somewhere in Europe.

Put in mind here that the majority of responses here are from the US so all our answers are based on US laws. Location always matters so we understand responses better and not take them as personal. Edit: I just relooked at the posts and I see the majority here are from EU. But still location matters because each country has their own laws about noise.
I live in PA. I also had an acquaintance in Iowa who told me that if your music can be heard outside of your car or your house there, you get a ticket. One of the ordinances in my city says that if your music is loud enough to make someone else sick, you can get a six month jail sentence and or a $600 fine. And here is it not allowed at any time of day but after ten you will get a fine if the officer chooses to enforce it. But I have called officers numerous times from my house and 90% of the time they come and deal with it no matter what time of the day it is. But the problem is that they actually have to hear it and the neighbors all know this and they know how long it takes the cops to get there so they turn it off or leave right before the cops get there so that I can look like a crazy person. I even had a neighbor park outside my house and blast her stereo and when I went out to confront her she looked at me and laughed and drove off.


How do they know a cop is coming so they know to turn their music off?


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01 Sep 2019, 4:14 pm

It's usually the same people and on average it takes a cop about 45 minutes to get here whenever I call


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02 Sep 2019, 8:19 am

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It's usually the same people and on average it takes a cop about 45 minutes to get here whenever I call


But how do they know when someone has called the cops? Surely they don't see you picking up the phone and talking to them. :?


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02 Sep 2019, 8:41 am

I'm sorry that his injury was worsened, but I also agree with those who think he shouldn't be driving if he can't handle noise. Traffic cops aren't always gonna be there to enforce the rules, and that kind of noise is something that doesn't usually bother people that much. No one can expect the many to go out of their way to conform to the needs of the few


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02 Sep 2019, 9:58 am

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It's usually the same people and on average it takes a cop about 45 minutes to get here whenever I call


But how do they know when someone has called the cops? Surely they don't see you picking up the phone and talking to them. :?
They know me and I have called enough times so they know that I will call. We have been doing this for years. And other neighbors sometimes call as well. But there are three neighbors in particular that do this and I think it is on purpose because they also have called me all kinds of names when I have asked them to turn it down and they have threatened me. One time I called the cops and the guy literally drove of as the cop was coming down the street.


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02 Sep 2019, 9:59 am

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I'm sorry that his injury was worsened, but I also agree with those who think he shouldn't be driving if he can't handle noise. Traffic cops aren't always gonna be there to enforce the rules, and that kind of noise is something that doesn't usually bother people that much. No one can expect the many to go out of their way to conform to the needs of the few
This is not about not handling noise. He handles noise just fine. But when someone is blasting a stereo so loudly that it literally vibrates your car and your body so intensely to the point of agonizing pain, that is not about handling noise.


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02 Sep 2019, 10:04 am

I don't understand why everyone thinks that people like he and I are at fault for having neurological responses to people literally breaking the law. That really makes me angry. If people want to blast their music, they should wear headsets. Disturbing the peace is still a law. And it doesn't matter if other people don't mind it. It is still the epitome of disrespect and selfish self entitlement and it does hurt many people. People like me should not be told that we should not be allowed to drive or to go to public places or to be in our own homes because other people want to blast music as loudly as they possibly can. In fact, I am thinking of having this thread blocked because it is making me so angry and causing me massive amounts of stress.


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02 Sep 2019, 10:23 am

Sweet Pea hugs for both you and your friend.


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02 Sep 2019, 10:35 am

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Sweet Pea hugs for both you and your friend.

Thank you so much
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02 Sep 2019, 12:19 pm

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I don't understand why everyone thinks that people like he and I are at fault for having neurological responses to people literally breaking the law. That really makes me angry. If people want to blast their music, they should wear headsets. Disturbing the peace is still a law. And it doesn't matter if other people don't mind it. It is still the epitome of disrespect and selfish self entitlement and it does hurt many people. People like me should not be told that we should not be allowed to drive or to go to public places or to be in our own homes because other people want to blast music as loudly as they possibly can. In fact, I am thinking of having this thread blocked because it is making me so angry and causing me massive amounts of stress.


I don't think that is really what anyone is trying to say, at least not on this thread. I was not suggesting you or your friend should be barred from driving just for having neurological issues. Worst case senerio if ones neurological issues prevent them driving safely, then they probably should not, it sucks but some people really cannot drive because of problems they have.

I wasn't suggesting your friend shouldn't be able to drive, just that he needs to make sure to drive safe. based on further comments since I first posted sounds more like your friends mirrors were off rather than that he made a quick lane switch without looking and signaling, so that is what I was picturing when I first responded. But sounds like he is taking the proper steps by getting his mirrors fixed so he can see the blind spot. That means next time something like this happens he'd be able to see better and make sure its safe before moving lanes.

It is unfair and horrible that people blast their bass at full volume, especially since it can cause severe sensory issues for some. But chances are it won't be going away any-time soon so as much as it sucks and is unfair, its just an unpleasant part of life that exists. But perfectly understandable to be angry and frustrated about it.


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02 Sep 2019, 9:55 pm

Thank you so much Sweetleaf. We are both extremely conscientious drivers. My friend even worked as a Lyft and Uber driver for awhile until he realized that it cost him more than he was making. It is a real shame that people have to be so entitled and selfish. That is the real issue. No one, Autistic or not, should have to be bombarded with other people's music. It's just plain rude.


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02 Sep 2019, 10:14 pm

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