Anyone had obstacles in the way of achieving something ?

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My main problem, I am coming to find out, is I just don't know enough to succeed. I made my start too late and came to adulthood not knowing what it took to be a proper adult, even though I was educated.

I won't give up, however. The subject of my username, Denis Istomin, survived a serious car accident and made the ATP tour. He moved up nine spots in the rankings this week and is at number 156. At 33, this is a decent ranking.

Right now, I'm in a situation I believe it will be hard to come back from.

I have ASD, and I have had obstacles ever since I graduated college and tried to get a job. My first job after college was as a geologist with a mining company, but that didn't work, due to my lack of physical strength/stamina and the constant traveling causing me anxiety (I hate hotels and can't sleep away from home). I also did not like leaving my son who was very young at the time. The next job I had was an office job with no travel, and I loved it, but I had to leave it because I could not afford housing/living expenses in the area it was located in. It was not a nice area either with lots of crime. I have had numerous jobs after that, and most of those did not work out because they were horribly boring for me or required skills that I was not able to understand or learn (like programming). I have recently tried to become a science teacher, but I can't pass the internship component. I have very poor social skills and feel very uncomfortable correcting students. I also have issues with memory and paying attention. I also don't buy into the mainstream philosophy of education. During college, I had several jobs in retail and those did not work out because I can't stand people belittling or disrespecting me, and I had conflicts with supervisors, customers, and co-workers. So yes, despite being an honor student throughout regular school and college, and graduating with honors, I am still dealing with many obstacles. You are not alone.

Wow! It's so nice to hear someone else, especially a female aspie, going through the same stuff. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

Sure It helps sometimes to know you're not alone.

Yep. Pretty much anything I wanted to accomplish.

May the Odds , forever be in your Favour

Well you are not the only one.

I tried to go to college, I probably had no business going I did just good enough in school that colleges would accept me. But also I was like heavily pressured by my mom and my school to go to college...but I don't think it was the right choice. I dropped out, then tried to continue some at a community college but dropped out from that to. When I was a teen a girl I knew was shot by a guy with a gun who came in the school. So part of the reason it was hard to deal with college was I'd get all hypervigilant in classes and in hallways, and I could never pay attention if another class got released before the one I was in and there were students making noise in the hallway. So basically being in a 'school' setting was freaking me out and I couldn't cope with it. But after I dropped out initially I didn't know what to do with myself so I thought maybe a community college wouldn't be as triggering but still had the same issues and had to drop out.

So then after that and trying to just find a job, and going to a neurologist to get the ASD diagnoses I just got on SSI disability benefits, but since then I have been able to get some part time work So currently I work part time and still get some SSI money...but eventually I will probably be able to get off SSI if things keep progressing. But yeah I kind of feel I should have just got a part time job in the first place, instead of bothering with college. During the time I was in college I should have been dealing with my mental health issues, but I was just trying to ignore and run away from them.

Its much better now at the age of 30, I think I have gotten my mental health under better control and I feel a bit more comfortable with myself. So whatever if my 20's were sh*t doesn't mean my 30's have to be, and I am doing my best to enjoy my 30's more than I did my 20's. So what if all I have is a part time job with some disability money...I can still do things I enjoy. I don't care about getting a 'career' if anything I would rather just find some unconventional way of making money aside from having to 'go to work' but if not that then I certainly just prefer going to work and then once off work having my time to myself to having an all consuming career that always has to be on my mind.