Is It Easier For An Autistic Person To Identify Another?

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Yes it would be likely be easier for someone on the Autism Spectrum to identify with another person on the Autism Spectrum than someone no on the Autism Spectrum,tho not always.For my case however,it doesn't matter as much because I feel like no one truly likes me,regardless if they are on the Autism Spectrum or not.

Yes and no

Yes, because "it takes one to know one"

No because you don't have their medical records. Unless you are a clinical psychology, you don't have the authority to give out diagnosis

Even if the person isn't truly on the spectrum, it's easy to pick out the oddball in a crowd of NT people. I use that as a subconscious gauge as to whether or not someone might "get me" as opposed to whether or not a person is diagnosable. It's none of my business if they are or not. It's just hard to deal with rejection and laughter when I don't know how to approach people and so it's easier to just hang back. It gets lonely. It's just nice to meet people who are on my wavelength as it is a very rare occurrence.

I am certain that this is true.

I already know the traits\symptoms, notice people avoiding eye contact, recognize when someone goes on about an unusual special interests, and can tall when people's body language is off due to a lack of understanding. I also find that if I feel on the same wavelength as someone else, there is a good chance they are not neurotypical.

One big clue is that I find that I am always sort of bridging the gap between how different people communicate (there is MUCH more variety than NT vs ASD). For example, if I feel insulted by what someone says or does, I try to take it into the context of this person's overall behavior. Maybe they were not taught formal manners, maybe they just have a certain sense of humor, maybe they take certain cultural things for granted, etc. The same for within the context of a group dynamic. For example, in most male-dominant social groups, insults\teasing are a form of bonding and not meant in a mean way. Different cultures have different ways of expressing things. I am always bridging the gap in good faith.

What I find is that there are some people who also seem to be much more willing and able to bridge gaps in communication than others. I often find that if someone is particularly willing (if not able), then there is a good chance it is because they are divergent in some way and do so out of necessity.

I often can get a sense that some seems like they are on the spectrum, or have a similar condition. I have a lot of friends who are on the spectrum too, so spending time with people, and having it myself got me subconsciously atuned to the signs. There is a guy in my class that I suspect does.

It's mannerisms, the way people, talk, things that we can pick up on. It's different for everyone on the spectrum but there are signs we can pick up on and get a sense.

I’m in a relationship with another aspie and the moment I saw him I immediately knew. Most people will recognize that you’re different, but they will stay there and not think if you’ve Asperger’s, schizophrenia or anything. But between us it’s easier to identify it directly

^I feel exactly the same way about my own B/F and that's probably how we clicked which is almost 12 years before i was diagnosed. He's never been diagnosed officially but all the signs are there. He's a perfectionist who loves working with technology as well as dogs or horses, and dislikes crowds, parties and office "team building".

He's just different and this my opinion was strengthened when I discovered a whole lot of notes and poetry he wrote many years before we met.

Meeting a true soul mate is amazing. It just feels right. We don't have t think exactly alike or be carbon copies of each other: that would be boring! But the chemistry is there and the knowledge that you can feel safe and loved.

Ever since my own diagnosis I've wanted to reach out and hear the stories of others; their experiences and their challenges. I'm writing my memoirs with a view to possible publication. I was going to send it to my chosen publisher after mid March as she asked but then came the corona challenge and she said I must wait until further notice(probably after lockdown ends).