Past Special interests/obsession's that embarrass you now
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Dogs......
I collected them. I was always trying to catch strays, lure them home, trying to adopt any dog anyone was trying to get rid, I slept next to my own dogs, read about dogs (fiction, nonfiction, veterinary medical textbooks, etc), wrote stories about dogs, photographed dogs, drew dogs, made up dog games, RP'd dogs, made dog board games, made dog sim games, played every dog sim I could find, made dog computer games, played dog adventure sims, made my own toy dogs, dreamed about dogs, somehow managed to get a show dog and trek all over the state competing with him, volunteered to help with dogs (even when the only thing I was doing was scooping their droppings)
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I don't think I can feel embarrassment. I do wish I didn't spend a lot of time studying various fortune telling methods in my 20s. I got pretty good at that and did predictions for a lot of people. One of my "clients" went and joined a cult, saying I gave her a clue. I just shrugged it off. Adults can make their own decisions and it's not other people's business to tell them what to do. Considering that I have a degree in science that was rather a waste of time.
I still do a quick astrological chart for each new baby born in the extended family, and make some wild predictions in my head. I don't share this with their parents or anybody so I guess that's just fine.
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For a good portion of my grade school years, I was obsessed with US politics. As a matter of fact as I am writing this, I recall a project where everyone was told what to become when they reached adulthood.
For mine, a family member took pics of me dressed as Bill Clinton and I wrote "I want to become a Governor of Oregon, then a US Representative, then a Senator, then maybe one day President."
I still have it somewhere in my house's garage if anyone wants to look at it.
As for now, I agree with many that people who serve (or will serve) in Congress will never stop acting like little kids in a schoolyard; mud-slinging, name-calling, etc. Politics IMO has obviously changed since the beginning of the century, but I also agree with many who would not be surprised if a modern-day Civil War happens soon.
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Thank you for sharing your experience with special interests and/or obsessions...(I recently started a thread on this topic out of curiosity)...From reading you, i noticed that as you all have matured, you tend to outgrow your obsessions...I mean, generally speaking...Or, are these special interests modified or replaced by new ones???...Please correct me if i misread...Thank you...Good night from CA...
As an Aspie that only gets obsessed with people and not objects or facts, I feel that maturity plays a part in how I deal with obsessions. In the 6 years I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend I haven't felt the need to have obsessions any more, as most of my obsessions revolved around sexual crushes on guys. This was unhealthy because it made me get involved too much with guys and I almost ended up getting a bad name for myself (like "slut"). But inside I felt I had a lot of love to give to a man and I felt lonely. Having obsessions also helped me deal with loneliness.
But my mind seemed to have changed since I've been with my boyfriend. I don't care for obsessions any more. Maybe my boyfriend is my obsession, but a permanent, healthy and secure obsession. He's a man I can give my love to each and every day and it feels right.
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I confess I was obsessed with stories;
It can be as broad as it's world building down to it's physics and culture.
It can be as specific as certain characters and about them, to specific objects that I would wish it exists in real life.
It doesn't have to be based from fiction.
It's an infatuation at best, maladaptive day dream fuel at worst.
And is now compressed to mild interests of fleeing guilty pleasures that no one will ever know -- save for a very few remnants of those in form of convoluted writings and random drawings somewhere in my youth.
Too bad I'm not much of a creative writer or story teller to make my own.
And I'm quite glad I never, ever talk about it out loud.
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For mine, a family member took pics of me dressed as Bill Clinton and I wrote "I want to become a Governor of Oregon, then a US Representative, then a Senator, then maybe one day President."
I still have it somewhere in my house's garage if anyone wants to look at it.
As for now, I agree with many that people who serve (or will serve) in Congress will never stop acting like little kids in a schoolyard; mud-slinging, name-calling, etc. Politics IMO has obviously changed since the beginning of the century, but I also agree with many who would not be surprised if a modern-day Civil War happens soon.
I think you're overestimating how nasty old timey politics were. This era is just continuing in that proud tradition of mud-hurling vitriol.
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It can be as broad as it's world building down to it's physics and culture.
It can be as specific as certain characters and about them, to specific objects that I would wish it exists in real life.
It doesn't have to be based from fiction.
It's an infatuation at best, maladaptive day dream fuel at worst.
And is now compressed to mild interests of fleeing guilty pleasures that no one will ever know -- save for a very few remnants of those in form of convoluted writings and random drawings somewhere in my youth.
Too bad I'm not much of a creative writer or story teller to make my own.
And I'm quite glad I never, ever talk about it out loud.
You basically just described my writing project.
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The Party told you to reject the evidence of your eyes and ears. It was their final, most essential command.
"Many of us like to ask ourselves, What would I do if I was alive during slavery? Or the Jim Crow South? Or apartheid? What would I do if my country was committing genocide?' The answer is, you're doing it. Right now." —Former U.S. Airman (Air Force) Aaron Bushnell
As an Aspie that only gets obsessed with people and not objects or facts, I feel that maturity plays a part in how I deal with obsessions. In the 6 years I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend I haven't felt the need to have obsessions any more, as most of my obsessions revolved around sexual crushes on guys. This was unhealthy because it made me get involved too much with guys and I almost ended up getting a bad name for myself (like "slut"). But inside I felt I had a lot of love to give to a man and I felt lonely. Having obsessions also helped me deal with loneliness.
But my mind seemed to have changed since I've been with my boyfriend. I don't care for obsessions any more. Maybe my boyfriend is my obsession, but a permanent, healthy and secure obsession. He's a man I can give my love to each and every day and it feels right.
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I know that i am not your mother; still, i am very proud of you...You have come long ways...People only see human behavior but they do not see the motives or the needs or circumstances that lead them to act a certain way...In your case, people saw that you slept with one guy or another; but they could not see into your soul...You were lonely...Rest assured my dear Joe that God sees all things...God sees You and the much love you have to give...Thankfully, your needs can now be met in a healthy and safe manner in your relationship with your boyfriend..Many blessings to you and your boyfriend...
Post Script: In the above respect, you used to be the female version of my beloved husband...That is, until he met me...For me, he changed...
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For me, the only former genuine "special interest" I had that I dislike now is a show that I kind of now find problematic as well the fandom for the show having driven me away from it with the way I was treated by some members. The "fake" special interests are things I consider to have never been things I enjoyed but just wanted to like because I knew people who liked them and wanted to be friends with them. I'm ashamed there for how much effort I put into things I didn't care one bit about.
I always have had a special interest of one kind or another since I was a little kid. I can't really remember any long periods of time where I didn't have at least something I was obsessed with.
For me, the only former genuine "special interest" I had that I dislike now is a show that I kind of now find problematic as well the fandom for the show having driven me away from it with the way I was treated by some members. The "fake" special interests are things I consider to have never been things I enjoyed but just wanted to like because I knew people who liked them and wanted to be friends with them. I'm ashamed there for how much effort I put into things I didn't care one bit about.
I always have had a special interest of one kind or another since I was a little kid. I can't really remember any long periods of time where I didn't have at least something I was obsessed with.
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Thank you for your insight...
As an Aspie that only gets obsessed with people and not objects or facts, I feel that maturity plays a part in how I deal with obsessions. In the 6 years I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend I haven't felt the need to have obsessions any more, as most of my obsessions revolved around sexual crushes on guys. This was unhealthy because it made me get involved too much with guys and I almost ended up getting a bad name for myself (like "slut"). But inside I felt I had a lot of love to give to a man and I felt lonely. Having obsessions also helped me deal with loneliness.
But my mind seemed to have changed since I've been with my boyfriend. I don't care for obsessions any more. Maybe my boyfriend is my obsession, but a permanent, healthy and secure obsession. He's a man I can give my love to each and every day and it feels right.
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I know that i am not your mother; still, i am very proud of you...You have come long ways...People only see human behavior but they do not see the motives or the needs or circumstances that lead them to act a certain way...In your case, people saw that you slept with one guy or another; but they could not see into your soul...You were lonely...Rest assured my dear Joe that God sees all things...God sees You and the much love you have to give...Thankfully, your needs can now be met in a healthy and safe manner in your relationship with your boyfriend..Many blessings to you and your boyfriend...
Post Script: In the above respect, you used to be the female version of my beloved husband...That is, until he met me...For me, he changed...
Well I didn't exactly sleep around but I still got overly obsessed with different guys, particularly bus-drivers, and I would flirt and chat them up and just try and get their attention, but I was the main gossip among the other regular passengers that got on the same bus, which is quite embarrassing. Then I started lying to some of the regular passengers that the driver was my boyfriend, and I told the same lie to my friends as well. I suppose I was fantasizing because I was so obsessed. That didn't go down very well.
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As an Aspie that only gets obsessed with people and not objects or facts, I feel that maturity plays a part in how I deal with obsessions. In the 6 years I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend I haven't felt the need to have obsessions any more, as most of my obsessions revolved around sexual crushes on guys. This was unhealthy because it made me get involved too much with guys and I almost ended up getting a bad name for myself (like "slut"). But inside I felt I had a lot of love to give to a man and I felt lonely. Having obsessions also helped me deal with loneliness.
But my mind seemed to have changed since I've been with my boyfriend. I don't care for obsessions any more. Maybe my boyfriend is my obsession, but a permanent, healthy and secure obsession. He's a man I can give my love to each and every day and it feels right.
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I know that i am not your mother; still, i am very proud of you...You have come long ways...People only see human behavior but they do not see the motives or the needs or circumstances that lead them to act a certain way...In your case, people saw that you slept with one guy or another; but they could not see into your soul...You were lonely...Rest assured my dear Joe that God sees all things...God sees You and the much love you have to give...Thankfully, your needs can now be met in a healthy and safe manner in your relationship with your boyfriend..Many blessings to you and your boyfriend...
Post Script: In the above respect, you used to be the female version of my beloved husband...That is, until he met me...For me, he changed...
Well I didn't exactly sleep around but I still got overly obsessed with different guys, particularly bus-drivers, and I would flirt and chat them up and just try and get their attention, but I was the main gossip among the other regular passengers that got on the same bus, which is quite embarrassing. Then I started lying to some of the regular passengers that the driver was my boyfriend, and I told the same lie to my friends as well. I suppose I was fantasizing because I was so obsessed. That didn't go down very well.
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I get it...I misread...Please accept my apologies...Still, best wishes to you and your boyfriend...
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What i wrote above still stands true in the case of many who are unfairly and severely judged (those on the spectrum included)...As i stated above, human beings only see the actions of others and their wrongdoings but not the motives and/or intentions behind these actions...So, the lesson that i learn from this is to restrain myself from judging others...And i also learn that whenever possible, i should give others the benefit of the doubt...
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What i wrote above still stands true in the case of many who are unfairly and severely judged (those on the spectrum included)...As i stated above, human beings only see the actions of others and their wrongdoings but not the motives and/or intentions behind these actions...So, the lesson that i learn from this is to restrain myself from judging others...And i also learn that whenever possible, i should give others the benefit of the doubt...
Exactly. To others I might have looked like a slut and there was probably embarrassing rumours among the regular passengers that I slept with the drivers. Like you said, people only judge by what they see, and I don't look autistic at all from the outside so not even a professional autism psychiatrist would have guessed that I was ASD. But I was young (late teens and early 20s) so maybe some of the elderly passengers might have thought "I was like that at that age". So a lot of it was probably due to hormones too. In fact my hormones controlled me when I was a teenager, and the obsession I had with some guy when I was 14 was WORSE than the bus-driver obsession.
This guy (in his 30s) was a bit chavvy and dealt with it very immaturely. He saw me many times walking to school, in school uniform, so he knew full well that I was just a silly schoolgirl, but he reacted like I was some adult creep, and his chavvy girlfriend almost threatened to beat me up. I mean, this guy wasn't a paedophile and if she loved him that much surely she'd know that he would never run off with me.
If some local 14-year-old girl developed a crush on my boyfriend and kept hanging around near our apartment and wasn't doing drugs or anything, I'd just think that is cute, because I know that my boyfriend would never look at a teenage girl.
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