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05 Dec 2020, 12:13 am

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I have very similar problems (also probably level 2, to the best of my knowledge I wasn’t given a number at diagnosis, though). There are two kinds of inability to speak that I experience. One is where I know exactly what I want to say but no matter how hard I try, my vocal cords will not respond. The other is where I can’t even come up with words. I still live with my parents and they are dead set against me trying to use a text-to-speech app on my phone or anything (no matter how many times I tell them otherwise when I can speak, they are convinced that I’m always capable of speech and simply don’t want to talk), so I try to communicate nonverbally (gestures, nodding, smiling, etc.) when it happens, otherwise I tend to just be ignored and left to my silence.

I experience the first on because of anxiety and alot of times. especially when people want me to communicate things about
my past. No matter what i do i wont be able to communicate it. Also the second one as well. That happens generally. Im likely either high level 1 or low level 2. I normally dont have these issues with my family. Mainly happens with social anxiety. My mind just goes blank. I cant think of what to say so i dont say anything. I’m rarely in situations where id be alone and people who i dont know would try to start conversation with me. Normally when im out in public with me people dont ask me over other people. I dont exactly come off as approachable. Its better that way. I think I radiate this not friendly vibe.
I mean if it were me and i was i. The situation with your parents they would stop me. Have you considered maybe getting a therapist to talk to your parents. Also its important to come off as calm when communicating these things. As if you are upset people tend not to listen. Also similarly this happens less since i dont go out much anymore. I think if they dont listen to you they might be more inclined to listen to a professional.


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05 Dec 2020, 12:17 am

quite an extreme wrote:
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I'm so sorry your parents don't understand, dragons. FWIW, I believe you. Please consider me a gladly receptive audience of your writings! (No pressure, though.)


This made me thinking about the differences of me and you Kim. I wouldn't even care about if sombody shows any empathy regarding my feelings nor would I give a sh*t on the trials of others to comfore me. :mrgreen: But I care very much if somebody is on my side or against me and this decides how I behave towards him or her. I guess it's a special thing that is related to Asperger's but I could be also a thing of men at all. But because of this I would never ever really try to comfore her but I would always try to solve the problems. In her case I wished I could protect her a in such situations even that it may sound kind of silly because I'm living quite far away and I don't even know more about her than that she is a really nice way but has to deal with a lot of problems. :oops:

Im similar, I dont do well with sympathy. Often times it just makes me anxious id rather have a solution than your sympathies. I could care less about that. As for caring about being on my side. Me i got to a point where i realized me trying never helps so why bother. People are gonna be against me or for me no sense in worrying about it and I dont really care if you are or not.


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05 Dec 2020, 8:34 pm

Pieplup wrote:
quite an extreme wrote:
KimD wrote:
I'm so sorry your parents don't understand, dragons. FWIW, I believe you. Please consider me a gladly receptive audience of your writings! (No pressure, though.)


This made me thinking about the differences of me and you Kim. I wouldn't even care about if sombody shows any empathy regarding my feelings nor would I give a sh*t on the trials of others to comfore me. :mrgreen: But I care very much if somebody is on my side or against me and this decides how I behave towards him or her. I guess it's a special thing that is related to Asperger's but I could be also a thing of men at all. But because of this I would never ever really try to comfore her but I would always try to solve the problems. In her case I wished I could protect her a in such situations even that it may sound kind of silly because I'm living quite far away and I don't even know more about her than that she is a really nice way but has to deal with a lot of problems. :oops:

Im similar, I dont do well with sympathy. compOften times it just makes me anxious id rather have a solution than your sympathies. I could care less about that. As for caring about being on my side. Me i got to a point where i realized me trying never helps so why bother. People are gonna be against me or for me no sense in worrying about it and I dont really care if you are or not.



Oh, believe me: I would LOVE to have some time with dragonanddemons' parents to try to set them straight on this (that would be my advice; get someone else to step in). However, I can't do do that, and I know that others here have lots of good advice; I simply wanted to express my concern. If it doesn't help, I guess it doesn't help, but advice can sometimes be of no help too, or even hurtful and condescending.



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09 Dec 2020, 6:58 pm

I become mute sometimes when very stressed. My vocal chords just don't seem to want to cooperate and make the right sounds I want them to. I stutter most of the time and sometimes have a slight lisp, which also gets worse when I'm stressed since I can't focus on talking as much.