Nothing in this world hurts more than being called "cringe"

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I worked out early on that if last year's cool becomes this year's cringy (as it usually does), those judgements are completely worthless to start with.

Bruh, with kids these days, a lot of things are cringe. Also, if being called cringe is the worst thing in the world to you, welcome to first world problems.

You should tell those girls that their opinions about you are not your reality.

The worst thing you can be called or be accused of is bigot.

Dictionaries aren't prescriptive like religious texts. They're descriptive.

Dictionaries can take a while to catch every meaning of every word. Or if words/meanings aren't used enough in writing, sometimes they leave them out entirely.

Cringe is a slang term in this context. It means something like 'uncool' or 'cringey' or 'weird'.

Yeah, I get that.  Back in high school, someone tried to start a trend with the word "Bogue" (rhymes with "Vogue"), meaning "bogus", "fake", "stupid", or "uncool" and used it whenever they were commenting on something they did not like.

"Another test?  That's bogue!"

"Highwater jeans?  Bogue, dude..."

"We're not allowed to smoke in class?  How bogue can you get?"

It never caught on.

"Uncool"? You mean warm?

Nothing ages worse than slang. (OK, "cool" has survived, but it's an exception.) I guarantee the current use of "cringe" will be seen as like well cringe in five years time. "Ha, he said 'cringe.' What a flurb."

If one tends to make the others around them uncomfortable, is that the fault of all those who are made uncomfortable? Should they not be allowed to express that they've been made to feel that way?

I'm not suggesting that OP is at fault, but instead that the situation might be faultless. OP might not be intentionally trying to make others uncomfortable, but others aren't just being mean when they comment that's how they're made to feel. They're entitled to feel that way.

Agree most of the time. But like you said... cool...

And also some slang is moved (elevated?) into the realm of just being 'normal words'.

For eg I like to catch the bus to town.

Not the omnibus.

Well, there are quite a few other words that could get you killed. Is it the ongoing agony that upsets you more?

"Cringe" is shorthand for "cringeworthy"; both are adjectives. They're successors to the word women always used to describe physically unattractive men: "creepy". It's a politically correct code word for "ugly", and has little to do with how he acts or anything else, for that matter.

So, if a woman calls you (male) "cringe", it's not a hidden insult, it's not a veiled threat, it's just her way of saying she finds you unattractive. That used to happen to me every weekend, so I know from experience. Sadly, there's nothing I could do except wait and wait, until I aged into my looks around 25. Even plastic surgery wasn't an option, due to the high cost and the long recovery time.

That much is correct.

Everything beyond that is nonsense.

"Creepy" has nothing to do with looks, and everything to do with behavior. Behavior thats "off" in some way that is disconcerting.

I've been called 'cringe', 'creepy,' 'goofy,' and 'very strange,' at various times of my life. It's an aspect of having AS. You can't escape it on occasion, but it does not define you 100% of the time and it is a social misunderstanding as opposed to who you actually are.

It was "weirdo" or "freak" when I was a teenager.

Not the same thing.

If you walk around with one shirt tail tucked in, and the other out, then folks see that you're wierd from a mile away. And also you're not threatening in any way.

If you look normal and conservative, but upclose and personal you come off as scary - then thats being creepy.

Ah right, it's not an insult I've ever used. Think I'm the opposite then. Look strange / scary but generally boring / friendly to talk to. Someone once accused me of pretending to be interesting when he first saw me.

Edit to say I'm not saying someone who gets called creepy isn't friendly, just that the name-caller might not realise they are!