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28 Feb 2021, 5:50 am

QFT wrote:
I don't mean for this message to be insensitive, or to hurt anyone. I just wanted to say I learned something new. While I knew autistics have ecolalia, I didn't know that high functioning adults do. But maybe so, since there was already a response to this thread that was able to relate.

What makes it especially interesting is that I always assumed my Asperger is worse than other people's. I mean, look at my posts that are several pages long, nobody else writes that much. And also I don't have any friends or aquitances, but most people do, even here. Yet at the same time, I see that other people are ecolalic and I am not. So in this particular sense other people have it worse. So I guess all and all, its not more or less severe, just different symptoms. I have social symptoms/obsessions part, and others have ecolalia and sensory part.

By the way, Brina Siegel told me I am mild (I mean, really mild: like milder than 99.5% of cases). Unfortunately, back when she was evaluating me, I wasn't aware of all of my problems I am aware of now, thats why I didn't ask why am I mild. But ever since I became aware of those problems few years later, I couldn't ask anyone that question who would know the answer. Could lack of ecolalia be part of the answer?

In any case, maybe we should make a different post. Instead of directing it to people who have ecolalia, maybe we can direct it to everyone and ask who has it and who doesn't. That way we could get a full picture of how common it is in this forum.


Hi, I've spent the last 2 weeks trying to think of a good idea for researching and I think I could do something with this, if you don't mind me borrowing this idea?

Also, I have no friends, don't feel bad. I manage because I have a partner and occasionally 'socialise' with his friends but whilst I'd like a special platonic friend, I prefer my own company and not having the nightmare of rerunning every single thing about every interaction I have and wonder why I come off so strangely.

(Sorry this is a bit off topic, if I see something I want to reply to I have to do it before my brain wanders!)



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28 Feb 2021, 7:45 am

cat303 wrote:
Hi, I've spent the last 2 weeks trying to think of a good idea for researching and I think I could do something with this, if you don't mind me borrowing this idea?


Yes, go ahead an borrow this idea. I am so glad you find it useful.

cat303 wrote:
Also, I have no friends, don't feel bad. I manage because I have a partner and occasionally 'socialise' with his friends but whilst I'd like a special platonic friend, I prefer my own company and not having the nightmare of rerunning every single thing about every interaction I have and wonder why I come off so strangely.


Well, at least you have a partner. I have a very difficult time finding a partner, and that is how my situation is worse. I did have some relationships before (including the one right now) but most of the time I was single and it was frustrating.

When I did have partners, they didn't really introduce me to their friends, and I wish they did. I mean yes I spent some time with their friends but not too much time.

As far as rerunning every single interaction in my head, the main motive of my doing it is that I think "did I just lose an opportunity to make a friend". But that, by default, means that its better to have friends than not. After all, if your only "punishment" for saying the wrong thing is to lose a friend, how can it possibly be worse than not having friends from a get-go?

cat303 wrote:
(Sorry this is a bit off topic, if I see something I want to reply to I have to do it before my brain wanders!)


That is totally fine. I was the one who brought lack of friends when I was comparing myself to other aspies. So I am glad you were willing to respond to that too.