Toddlers

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I am the same way and for similar reasons.

Unfortunately, once the kids get a little older and more vocal and demanding, it can be a little rough. They expect you to be willing to let them climb all over you. A mean streak seems to emerge in some of them....it gets to be wearisome.

I don't really mind when the child gets more vocal and/or aggressive; roughhousing has always been my forte because I’m a giant child who’ll cardboard tube fight all day if someone would be his opponent. I have an inbuilt filter for nagging, whining and other assorted noises that annoy many people (it's probably my massive lack of empathy that blinds me to certain emotions that all people big and small exhibit).

For me, when people hit puberty, it's as if their connection to me is completely severed and we're two entirely different species (like how a child views an adult).

I actually talk to children [in the same way I talk to animals]; I don't say anything to adults.

Exactly: I think the unpredictable nature of young children can easily stress us out as we generally like predictability. I like kids in general but can't stand kids screaming.

get a lock put on the bedroom door.

NT children bore me to tears - but Aspie children are fascinating. I absolutely love looking after my little Aspie family members, even when they are misbehaving or having serious meltdowns. I love participating in their development and education, the amazing communications we have, the funny things they say and do, the challenge of helping them through difficulties, and the creative ideas I get to assist them .

Do you know what Hannah did yesterday and today? She took all of her toys out of her toy box and made a complete mess in the living room, then she sat in the toy box.
We went to the park today and she was trying to put wood chips in her mouth and mom told her not to but she did it anyway. I call that utter rebellion. She has been putting things in her mouth since she was an infant but didn't seem to outgrow that habit. She is also a VERY PICKY EATER! Today she also took her diaper completely off and had a fit when Mom put another diaper on her.

I have a habbit of making young kids very hyper infact I encourage it my sister has two girls one is 5 the other 3 and when I go round to see her by the time I go home they are both hyperactve.

God that kid sounds weird. Ever thought she might be Asby? Just a thought.

good gravy, sounds like a toddler to me.

Is going for a walk soon as you get anxious an option? It might help if you do.I had to babysit a kid from hell once; going for a walk with him calmed him /and/ me down.

What exactly is driving you nuts about her?

For difficult children I find that the best thing to suggest to your mom is to have a few solid rules - maybe 4-5. These are one warning, swift punishment rules. Especially when you go to the park, if she can talk, have her repeat the rules before she goes. Have something like a Time out if she does it again after a warning; if she has no time outs though, give her a reward at the end.

You'd have to tailor it to the specific kid; The child I had was a chronic biter, kicker, puncher, ADHD, stonethrowing insulting son of a chronic adhd mom.

What his rules were were this:

No kicking or hitting.
No throwing stones, except for down the slide if no one is there.
No biting.
No badname calling.

If you break one these rules after a reminder, you will have a time out.
If you break three, we go home.

If you don't break the rules after reminders, when we get home you get a treat.

With a week or two, a bit of diet change, and a few bite marks later, the kid almost became an angel. We figure it might be because lack of concrete rules and routine scared the heck out of him.

Maybe for your problem toddler something like:

-If you take a toy, put it back before grabbing a new one.
-Until you learn to use the potty you have to wear a diaper. (Good luck with this one, my niece was the same till she finally trained)
-You have to try eat three bites of a food before you can have something else.
- Do not put woodchips in your mouth.

Hope that helps :S fully expect the "I raised you didn't I, why should I need your help on what to do babysitting" rant, though.

Ugh... I know how you feel. I don't babysit, but my sisters come over to my house like everyday with their toddlers and I get very overwhelmed.

You mean she was acting like a complete, and utter 2 yo? Geez. Enforcing more rules onto a toddler isn't going to make her behave better. There's only so much a 2 yo can comprehend.

I hate NT children, but the NT strangerchildren seem to be strangely attracted to me, often staring and making unusual expressions at me, even though I do not think that I am doing anything strange.