Ways in which NTs and Aspies are the same?

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Or that they are more "socially privileged"...

Neurotypical Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack

1. I can (if I wish) arrange to be in the company of people of my neurotype most of the time.

2. If I should need to move, I can be pretty sure of renting or purchasing housing in an area which I can afford and in which I want to live.

3. I can be pretty sure that my neighbors in such a location will be neutral or pleasant to me.

4. I can go shopping alone most of the time, well assured that I will not be followed or harassed.

5. I can turn on the television or open to the front page of the paper and see people of my neurotype widely represented.

6. When I am told about our national heritage or about “civilization”, I am shown that people of my neurotype made it what it is.

7. I can be sure that my children will be given curricular materials that testify to the existence of their neurotype.

8. If I want to, I can be pretty sure of finding a publisher for this piece on neurotypical privilege.

9. I can go into a music shop and count on finding music I like, into a supermarket and find the foods I like, into a hairdresser’s shop and get my hair styled or cut the way I like it.

10. Whether I use checks, credit cards, or cash, I can count on my neurotypical behavior not to work against the appearance of financial reliability.

11. I can arrange to protect my children most of the time from people who might not like them.

12. I can sew, or dress in secondhand clothes, or not answer letters, without having people attribute these choices to the mental or perceptive disabilities of my neurotype.

13. I can speak in public to a powerful group without putting my neurotype on trial.

14. I can do well in a challenging situation without being called a credit to my neurotype.

15. I am never asked to speak for all the people of my neurotype.

16. I can remain oblivious of the difficulties and limitations of neurodiverse people without feeling in my neurotype any penalty for such oblivion.

17. I can criticize our government and talk about how much I fear its policies and behavior without being dismissed as mentally or perceptively limited.

18. I can be pretty sure that if I ask to talk to “the person in charge,” I will be facing a person of my neurotype.

19. If a traffic cop pulls me over or if the IRS audits my tax return, I can be sure I haven’t been singled out because of my neurotype.

20. I can easily buy posters, postcards, picture books, greeting cards, dolls, toys, and children’s magazines featuring people of my neurotype.

21. I can go home from most meetings of organizations I belong to feeling somewhat tied in, rather than isolated, out-of-place, outnumbered, unheard, held at a distance, or feared.

22. I can take a job with any employer without having coworkers on the job suspect that I got it because of pity for my neurotype.

23. I can choose public accommodation without fearing that people of my neurotype cannot get in or will be mistreated in the places I have chosen.

24. I can be sure that if I need legal or medical help, my neurotype will not work against me.

Distinction without a difference.

There is no such thing as neurotipical…only people ‘trying’ to act normal.

For many people, it comes naturally. In differing degrees, yes, but there's a line wherein it becomes a problem if it isn't happening naturally often enough. That's the spectrum split between NT and AS. Most social problems Aspies have translate to not getting our needs adequately met socially.

What does this mean?: That we have the same social needs, to varying degrees, as NTs. That part is the same. What's different is statistics. NTs get their social needs met naturally most of the time. Aspies rarely get them met, and when they do it's either through luck or familiarity.

If an NT woke up with Asperger's tomorrow after a life time of being neurotypical, they'll commit suicide within a week.

I hate it when people say "nobody's normal". It's true that nobody's perfect, but there's a difference between perfect and normal.
Normal is subjective, but when used in this context, "normal" people are people who aren't born with any neurodevelopmental disabilities or disorders, or people who don't have a brain disease such as dementia, or people who have a "healthy" mind (with or without meds).

Right, but then you also have people who are born with color-blindness, Tourettes, ADHD, dyslexia, and other conditions... but some of those can still be regarded as "normal", based on degrees of societal leeway. It is only that our condition is more stigmatized by society, due to the intrinsic social impairments.
Also, you could have "normal" folks who suffered a TBI in an accident, whose behaviour dramatically changes, outside of the scope of what most would deem "normal" - even though they were born without abnormalities.

Just playing Devil's Advocate here

I think personality and physical traits are often the same, albeit can manifest more "extremely" in ASD (or ND) folks. Many of things I experience and think are similar to NTs, but for me seem to be more extreme, or "severe".

Disclaimer: By "some" I simply mean not all ASD or NT folks have these attributes; I am not defining quantity of many, some or few.

Speaking for myself:
I am extroverted, as are some NTs. How I go about it seems to be different.
I am energetic, as are some NTs. My high degree of energy is perhaps more along the lines of ND.
I am intelligent, as are some NTs. Albeit my perspective seems to be different.
I am athletic, as are some NTs. How I go about it seems to be different.
I care about equity and justice, as do some NTs. How I go about it seems to be different.
I am anxious, as are some NTs. My high degree of anxiety is perhaps more along the lines of ND.
I care about people, as do some NTs. How I go about it seems to be different.
My physical appearance is similar to some NTs. How I "maintain" it seems to be different.

Effectively I am an NT, in the extreme.

I hate it when people say "nobody's normal". It's true that nobody's perfect, but there's a difference between perfect and normal.
Normal is subjective, but when used in this context, "normal" people are people who aren't born with any neurodevelopmental disabilities or disorders, or people who don't have a brain disease such as dementia, or people who have a "healthy" mind (with or without meds).

That's so true.. could you imagine what would happen if an nt got an epidsode of selective mutism.. omg they would be all. Oh noes did I died.!?!?