Ever get in trouble for a facial expression?

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More often than not, getting in trouble for a "facial expression" is nothing more than a power trip for the authority figure punishing you. He/she knows you can't control your face. But he/she also knows it's an "easy" thing to abuse a victim for. That's why it's so common for parents and teachers to say "stop smirking at me", even when smirking was the last thing on the child's/victim's mind.

When I was 8, I would laugh at adult's talk and they would say it was a sardonic one; unfrank laugh I would call and I would gently laugh back in the same way they were critical about,so do I today at 20

Yes.

Not merely because of mismatching or lacking any.
But merely because I cannot "stop" and it was inappropriate.

I didn't mind -- because to me, it's just facial expression.
It's better than me exploding into something more unwillfully violent or in more drastic reaction.

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I don't recall people making negative comments about my facial expression until I hit perimenopause -- which seemed to trigger an ASD burnout and my ability to mask seemed to slip away. I even had a co-worker outright tell me I needed to fix my face!

So for the past couple of years I have been told that I make it obvious by my facial expression when I disagree with people. I have been told that this can be intimidating. Just now realizing....my fix for that has been to actively stop caring about other people's decisions and being honest with myself about what is my business or not. If their stupid decisions don't affect me, I need not care...and so my facial expression will not contort. And if their decision does affect me, I now try to speak up and honestly disclose my thoughts on the matter (which I had been super reluctant to do.) Thus, the words and actions match the expression.

I will also smile when nervous or when someone is mad at me...that really pisses them off more! Of course, my thinking is...see I am smiling, everything is OK, right? We can all calm down now. Smiling helps, right?!?

Clearly the answer is no, smiling does not always help. It can makes things worse. Unfortunately.

So I am still trying to learn not to smile when others are upset and mad.

Plenty of lil dipshits have had the nerve to tell me off or laugh at me for making the wrong facial expressions

Precious lil "parents" had the nerve to tell me that I looked like I wanted to kill someone.

Schoolteachers

Coworkers

Strangers

Some precious lil "people" truly believe that they have a right to be happy at all times and when they are not happy, someone must've violated their stupidass "rights"

They talk too much and too loud and there are too many of them

(Verbal fluency) is just like (smooth talking)

While I am like "pick your battles" and "actions speak louder than words" . Tongue tied.

Manipulative lil ass holes