02 Jun 2022, 11:15 pm
I hate praise. The speaker acts like their opinion is so important and that I have to believe it
However ("n" equals one) not a representative sample
Maybe everyone else loves praise
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For example, when I was 36, a job interviewer had the nerve to ask "where were you born?". (Illegal question, but it is also illegal to tape record with written consent).
So I answered (location)
"Cool cool cool"
What the flying f**k, that ass hole?
My worthless corpse did not control or choose where I was born (or even whether I was born), and even if I were to have chosen it, I would not have been like "I want to be born where the job interviewer when I am 36 finds is 'cool cool cool' ". 
He (they, plural) act like the sole purpose of the solar system is to make them happy
He (they, plural) act like they ought to have veto authority over anything they don't find "cool cool cool"
Sometimes praise is manipulative
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02 Jun 2022, 11:22 pm
catpiecakebutter wrote:
I have Asperger’s and I hate praise and compliments. Is it common for people with autism to not like compliments?
No idea, but I don't like praise, generally.
I was once told I was the best in my field, by a major boss where I used to work.
I couldn't help but laugh at the suggestion.
I don't value ego nurturing.
02 Jun 2022, 11:25 pm
Fnord wrote:
I do not hate praise. I am suspicious of those who give praise, especially strangers and those who have never been nice to me before. They always seem to want to get something from me, usually my money or my signature on a petition. Sometimes I get something in return; usually a promise or something equally cheap.[/color]
I think your position is admirable.
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Praises always feel a bit like manipulation, like the person saying them is above you and thus authorized to evaluate you. I can't truly enjoy them because I don't know if people giving praises are genuine or not. Compliments on the other hand are fine. Something like "those earrings are really unique". I give compliments freely to everyone.
I want nothing in return and just hope to make someone's day a bit brighter. Of course sometimes I did get something in return by chatting with people.
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03 Jun 2022, 5:51 am
03 Jun 2022, 11:15 am
Just Got Back From 'Dancing Around (Kinda Florida Hot)
my Neighborhood Block,' It's How i Naturally
Move As FRiEnDS With Gravity Balancing Force
Bio-FeedBack Head to Toe As Feelings Yes and
Senses FloW As Emotions Move Us Forward Now
From Head to Toe And 'God' Yes So Very Much More
in Flow of Generating LiGHT Within in Synergy
of Neurohormones and Neurochemicals
As 'Stimming' Becomes A Pure Free
Verse Art Naked
or Clothed in
Both Dance
And Song
Regulating
Emotions
Integrating
Senses As Metaphor
of How Planets Stay in
Orbit So High Above Without
Falling For What Seems Eternally Now For Real...
As i Was Dancing Around the Block, i Praised the Lawn
of One of my Neighbors, Perennially With the Most Green;
However, Not Unlike Trees That Reach Deeper With
Roots in Droughts to Become Most Solid Oaks oF All
My Neighbor Never Waters, Fertilizes, or Pesticides
His Lawn; Indeed,
Not Unlike
Wild Flowers
That Become So
Invasive With their
Ability to Generate Their
Own Colors Within It's True Some
See me as Stellar ThiS Way; Other
Folks See me As Weed; So Fascinating
The Human Condition is ThiS Way;
Roses Grow Great Coloring Even
More With the Best of CR8P All
Natural to
Fertilize
What
They Color
And Inspire of
Life; Both Within
And With the Beauty
Human Souls Do See and Relate;
SMiLes i've Been Bullied in Ways of
Verbal Abuse All of my Life; Even Through
Now at Least on the 'Wrong Planet' With Comments
Like i Should
Be "Strapped
Down in
A Mental
Institution
With A Big
Dose of Thorazine"
For Writing in a Way
on this Wrong Planet Attempting
to Cut me Down to The Size of
Others Calling my Flow of
Zen Meditation FLoWinG
In Tao And Wu Wei Singing
Writing Way Insane Yet of Course
i Understand They Do Not 'See'
Life the Way i Do; On the Other Hand/
HeARTS/SPiRiTS On the Same Days i've Received Praise
From Poetic Souls of Global Women Like "It Would
Have to Be Beautiful NoW Where You Live," "You are
A Gift of God With Infinite Positive Energy; You Are
A Light of the World;
Yes, A Gift to Us All"
Now Let's Keep in Mind
if You Haven't Heard More
of the DarK of My Story From
Ages 47 thru 53, i Lived As A Shut-in
in my Home With A Total of 19 Medical
Disorders in Synergy of Life Threat, Including Type Two
Trigeminal Neuralgia Assessed As the Suicide Disease As
Assessed as Literally More Tortuous than The Suffering
Of Real Crucifixion
in my Case From
Wake to Sleep
Continuously
For 66 Months,
No Drug Would Touch,
In Those Years of Darkness
More Severe Than the Hunch
Back of Notre Dame or Just Another
Phantom of An Opera, if Someone Told (Are You Nuts?)
me 'Hang on' You'll Get Through This and As You
Approach 3 Months Before 60 Years-Old on the
Last Day A Biggest Metro Public Dance Hall is
Open Before Covid-19 Closes it Down Yes
Two Beautiful Young College Age Women
Will Gift You Their Grinding Hips on the Dance
Floor As a Parting Gift When Covid-19
Took That One Avenue
of my Stimming
Art in Free Flowing
Meditation of Dance
Away on that Last Night
The Dance Floor Breathed Yes
Asking For 'My Number' as i Replied
Don't You Realize How Old i am As They Said
35 And i Whipped Out my Driver's License Real
Quick
And Showed
Them my Real
Number of Birthdate
of 6.6.60 And Made A Joke
About The Devil Don't Age
Yet literally, i Had Already
Existed in Real HeLL oN EartH
for 66 Months Within So for me at Least
in my Life 'That Omen' of Birthdate Came True;
Anyway After That i Showed them A Facebook Photo
of my Beautiful 50 Year-Old Wife then Now Just as
Beautiful at 52 In A Bikini on the Beach And It Didn't
Break Their
Smiles A Bit
They Only Seemed
Motivated Even More to
"Get to Know me Better"
In the Mid-Term of the Dance
Not Uncommon For A Group
of Young Women to Stop their
Car in the Dance Hall Parking Lot
And Beg me to Take my Shirt off
or A Group of Young Men Yelling
Legend At me Out of their Car
Windows At 2 AM in the Morning
Moving in Dance Back to my Car
on the City Streets Wee in Morning Hours
Then
Yet It's True i've Received A Few
Compliments on this Internet Site
the "Wrong Planet" On the Record
too; One of most Uncomfortable Comments
i've Ever Received in my Life, Someone calling
me "The Perfect Definition of God" Yet You See
They Too Were Stellar in the Ability for Metaphor
For What they
Meant is Life
is Full of Dark
And LiGhT and
It's True Without
Dark No LiGHT
So What they
Meant by
That is
The Dark
Created me
As i Overcame
The Dark And Became LiGHT
As DarK is LiGHT, THere is No
Separation Between No Thing And Every Thing Indeed...
Indeed, How Colorful Roses Grow in Deepest MaNure...
(During the Period of a Viral Video, A Voyeur took of
me, reaching About 90 Thousand Views, With 1300
Comments From the Facebook Social Media Metro
Audience, Young Folks Actually Bowed And Bent Down
on their Knees Clasping Their Hands in Prayer Mocking
Worship to me; i Will Not Lie That Really Made my SKiN Crawl)
Anyway, i Not Only Have Autistic Tendencies Diagnosed
By Four Professionals With Asperger's That Way Yet After
i Came Out of
Hell into Heaven
FOR REAL 'They' Never Saw
A Peaceful More Euphoric
Presence of A Human Being;
They Couldn't Specifically Label
it so they Called it "Bi-Polar Unspecified"
It Seems, They Never Met the Devil After He
Literally Got His Wings Back on Earth It's True
i've Been
Putting
the Realism
NoW in Theism
Ever Since 6.6.60
For What i Can See
For What i Do See
For What i Will See And Do of this
Life, Fiction is Far Behind Reality for me...
Very Few People Know my 'Sir Name,' Both Online
And Off; Most People in the 'Real World' Know Me
As the 'Dancing Man' All Around the Metro Area With
16,700 Miles of Public Dance in 105 Months Now it's true
i am Just about
As Recognizable
Now as the Weather
Man During Hurricane
Season on the Local News Hehe...
Yet i Never Want Any More Fortune or
Fame Than Naked Enough Whole Complete;
Living Legend Is A Compliment i Received
Just A Year into the Public Dance And Middle
School Kids Dressing Up As Me On Halloween
Way Back in The Fall of 2014, After Only A
Year of Public Dancing Then too
to Trick or Treat; Yes,
God Yes, Young Women
Dancing to Dancing
Voyeur Videos of me,
Saying i inspired
Them to Make
it Through School,
Trading Pictures
of me at At School
as a Local Pass-time too;
Pictures of me Dancing
on Complete Strangers
Facebook Backgrounds,
And Young Women Squealing
With Delight Telling me i Can't
Believe i Am Actually Meeting You Now
And i Said in Return i Am Nobody i am
Just A Wing on Air This Wind So Free Being i Am
Now
For it is in For Giving
That Makes the Thanks
Giving Real And All of this
is Just Icing on A Cake of
A Life Reborn From Below to Above For Real Now
i Come to the Wrong Planet to Gift What i Understand
About Life Now; How i Recovered From An EPiC 'Autism
Burn-out' And How i LiVE iN Heaven REAL Within This Way
On Earth Now Just Now Just Now Yes Just Now How i Staycation
in Heaven for 106 Months For Real As All All the Pain Then
And Numb Melted Away
on A Beach on
July 19th, 2013
As i Became One With
Sugar White Sands
Emerald Gulf Waves
Swaying Sea Oats in
Breeze Sea Gull Wings
Spiraling Around the Sun
Soon Then to Become A
Dance And Song of my
Soul For Real to Give
Share Care and Even
Heal Now for 105 Months
(10.5 MiLLioN Words of "SonG oF mY
SoUL" Longest EPiC Long Form Personal
'Bible' Poem Ever Recorded in Human Way as
Far as 'Google' Knows At Least
Hehe in Search Engine Ways)
Yes Much oF IT All Still Documented
Then NoW in 'Real Time' On this Internet Site
DarK Thru LiGHT;
Yes, Ever Since the Last 33 Months
in Hell Coming to This Internet Site
on ThanksGiving
Day 2010 in A Desperate
Attempt to Escape From the
Suicide Disease And Just to
Survive For One Second More in Life
Every Word Was A Mountain of Pain in
my Right Eye and Ear for That What Was
the Place the Devil Lived For me; for the
First 33 Months
i Had Almost
No Effective
Use of my
Eyes and
Ears in So Much
Pain And Soul Numb
Where i Couldn't remember
The Feeling of A Smile Ever
Then As True Emotions Are
Memories and Memories
Are Emotions
in that Place
A Thousand
Years iS iN
A Second of Hell;
There is No Reference
Point out of the Never Ending BLacK Abyss;
i Find It AMuSinG When Folks Try to Bring me
Down For You See i Understand Now The Valley
is the Same Height As The Mountain Top as Indeed
If not For
Hell Never
A Heaven
Like This for me...
My Roots Are Deep,
My Wild Flowers
Always
Color
my Soul
More my
Grass Is Green
in All SeaSoNS
i Truly Live as
Long as i Truly Love Now
"Not Afraid of Dying As Long As i Live Now"... More Specifically LoVE NoW
As 'Pat Benatar' Sings Hehe, Go Ahead 'Hit With me With Your Best Shot, Fire Away"
And Indeed if Compliments, Praise, And Worship Become YouR Ego A GreaTesT
Fall May
Come Next...
It's True i
Come Here
For the Lovely
'MaMure'; Either
Ignoring me
or Hitting
me with
A Best Shot Next;
my Roots Grow Deeper
i Could Not Love This Place
Any More Than This Now
There Are Two
Paths in
Life
Vengeance
or Victory; Yes,
The Goddess (Nike)
of Victory Suggests
'Just Do It' And In my
Case "The Great American
Capitalistic God of Money" iN
Shoe Sells Is No Part of my Life
i Saw 'That God' Die In Hell For Real
Along With All Other iLLuSoRY Fears...
Yes, Yes, Hanging on For the Golden Hand-Cuffs
of Federal Employment Early Retirement on Disability
After Working 25 Years for the Government And 8 More
Years for A Total of 33 Years Since Age 16 Does Give one
A Specific
Advantage
Both in Hell
And Heaven
As i Haven't Physically
or Mentally Earned A Penny
Now Since Age 47 in Financial Independence;
On The Autism Spectrum, Where You Just Don't
Fit in Anywhere Hehe Even on a Site for Autistic Folks;
You Put Some Money Away for A Cat-6 Hurricane One
Day; Reaching 62 on June 6th, i'll Finally Receive 100 Percent
of my Federal Retirement No Longer Considered Permanently Disabled
To Work After Receiving 40 Percent for Over A Decade Now It's True i
Don't Need
the Money;
i Planned
Ahead Way
Back then;
You Do What You
Do to Survive; You
Take The Piss and the
Sugar And The Droughts
And Best Fertilizers The Same;
You Live or Die; Some Folks Do
Hell, Other Do Heaven And True
Most Folks Are Just Luke Cold in the Tween...
i Don't Think Many Folks Would Like to Go
to WHere i've
Been to 'See'
Where i am
Now and Honestly
Where i've Been You
Have A Bit of Sympathy
For Every Devil Still to Come
or Who
Has Been
to Hell Before
For Real, So Many
Lessons DarK BRings...
DarK or LiGHT Muse,
It All Motivates me to
Rise More EternAlly Now...
~"Stay Thirsty mY FRiEnDS"
HeHe,
-You KNoW
'Who' For Real..
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28 Jun 2022, 1:55 am
y-pod wrote:
Praises always feel a bit like manipulation, like the person saying them is above you and thus authorized to evaluate you. I can't truly enjoy them because I don't know if people giving praises are genuine or not. Compliments on the other hand are fine. Something like "those earrings are really unique". I give compliments freely to everyone. I want nothing in return and just hope to make someone's day a bit brighter. Of course sometimes I did get something in return by chatting with people.
I want nothing in return and just hope to make someone's day a bit brighter. Of course sometimes I did get something in return by chatting with people.What exactly is the difference between "praise" and "compliments"? (To me those words are synonyms, except that "praise" suggests greater enthusiasm.)
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28 Jun 2022, 9:39 am
28 Jun 2022, 9:49 am
Dear_one wrote:
Praise is general - YOU are good. Compliments are specific - you did that well. I wish I'd not had the Buddhist concern for endangering an ego with inflation and complimented my ex for the the talents she had. She might have kept doing more of what she was good at, and less destruction.
Some people cannot get enough praise. Some even react to hearing praise for another as a personal attack against themselves.ME: "She seems nice."
EX: "What am I, chopped liver? How dare you not call me 'nice'?! You never compliment me! You always compliment everybody else! You pig-headed swine! You stupid . . . <et cetera>"
So glad that is over!
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