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Well I have lived with it for 33 years so may as well make peace with it.

Doesn't mean I absolutely love being autistic, but I have autism and its likely not going away so no use in being upset about it.

WHY IT MAKES YOU FUNNY IN A GOOD WAY

YOU ARE YOU

4HATS ALL YOU NEED TO BE

ITS NOT A WEAKNESS..find work arounds

I accept you

its ok

plus for every negative stimuli there is a positive

embrace the Good xxx

please ignore them...

whether you are autistic or not humans can be unkind...

prejudice is rife and so is stereotyping.

such is the way of the world

they can be mean sometimes xx

I am 39 and got diagnosed 21

To say that I am "okay" with being autistic is not specific enough in the situation

"Resignation " is more like it

I know that certain activities of daily living will always be much harder (or impossible) for me than neurotypicals. For example, friends, relationship, working

Someone (correctly) told me that "you have a hard time dealing with reality ", when I was 23

His statement was correct. He was much better at dealing with reality than me

However, racism sexism homophobia fatphobia classism ableism and lookism are all "reality "

His implication was that it was my fault I have a hard time dealing with reality

His implication was wrong.

He was also homophobic. He had the nerve to tell me that "it is 'lying' for you to ask me to call you 'he' instead of 'she' ". (2006 San Diego, civil engineer).



If my worthless corpse were a skinny smart handsome cisgender neurotypical white man, like him, then maybe"reality " would be easier to deal with.



Autism and clinical depression are labelled"disabilities " for a good reason

If I had a visible condition instead of autism, he might have been less calloused

But , freedom of speech

Anyone could say anything

"Actions speak louder than words"

He was "trying to help"

He did not invent homophobia

He did not vandalize or exterminate my worthless corpse

He was doing his "best"

Then 2012 Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, gender identity.

What is Stubb's syndrome? I looked it up on Google but it didn't have any information. Or is it just an expression to mean we're neither here nor there?

There is no such thing as "Stubb's Syndrome." It could an expression of "neither here nor there."

I like that.

My psychiatrist was Dr. Stubbs. If he saw more patients like me, he would have given it a name and named it after him describing the condition.

It would be good though if they did name people like us as a separate disorder. Or maybe we're just PDD-NOS. That's what I feel I am. Or maybe my ASD is a co-morbid to my ADHD, or can ASD be a co-morbid?

Autism is a SPECTRUM. A catchall for some sometimes related "symptoms" that they don't know where they came from...so...

I'm OK with the Autism I got.

It weakened me in some ways, strengthened me in others. And it wasn't just the Autism—I got some very lucky breaks in my life that worked well with "my" Autism.

I don't think I could have retired twice by the time I reached age 56 without it.

Other spots on the Spectrum or different things happening in my life could easily have left me very unOK.

sweetie, (if its OK to call you that?), calm....

you are funny
you seem sweet

find people whom accept you for who you are, not a label.

you may or may not be autistic but more than that you are human too.

I don't mind my obsessions, I adore them...its when I can be my truest self.

I love research but drink too much to study right now.

I do find socialising hard but then I keep putting my foot in my mouth and saying the wrongs things all the time

social clutz is an understatement...but I don't mind

I'm very non judgemental unlike the world around me

meltdowns I can avoid by staying away from things that physically overload me or that are too emotionally complicated for me to deal with.

why do I drink...im tired of the world expecting me to adhere to gender stereotypes.

I can be very loving and affectionate in my own way, but I was built for studying...its where I'm most at home. I'm never going be a great house wife in a month of Sundays...

I miss having essays to write...regardless of how much ability I once had.

embrace yourself..you add a new dimension to existence!

did you get to study?

selfism...

in an autistic sense they have the interpretation wrong.

its not self absorption or selfishness

its being locked into an internal world no one will ever understand...i am used to this

the way I experience the world is sometimes different to them and I can't express it in a way they can comprehend...i wish I could just transfer my feelings over them by just touching them or something, but I cant.

selfism means locked in...in an autistic sense....i can't understand their world anymore than they can understand mine and I can't express in a way they can make sense of. its ok, no judgement on either side.

they used to intrigue me...i wanted to study them (not coldly), take their pain from them so they could be happy.

anthropology or medicine would have been Good areas for me when my qi was in tact.

fascinating subject areas too, although I wanted to research psychology. what I ended up doing was archaeology instead lol.

I think my dad was fragile x and I inherited the premutation. it would be interesting to have the genetic test, but GPS don't like self curiosity/diagnosis.

my intellect was normal though...got that from me mother!

my mum won a scholarship to the grammar school in the 40s...my dads parents paid for him to attend but he flunked.

he was Good jockey though...one of the First to be helped by the injured jockies fund when were formed in the 1960s

he sustained severe brain damage that ended has career...his autistic like quirks existed before though...so relatives have informed me.