I am at a loss...

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That sounds like my parents too. The only solution is to take yourself out of the equation; to move away.

I can relate to what you are saying. I went through a lot of the same stuff as a kid, and unfortunatly to some extent as an adult.

Is there a relative or friend you could move in with?
Could you discuss it with a school counsellor? Because, as I see it this is emotional abuse, and can be just as damaging as physical abuse.

Hopefully you will be able to move away, far enough that you can just slam down the phone when she screams....

I tried that, moved to the United States actually; but the flashbacks and meltdowns would not stop. Got a job as a junior investment banker on Wall Street in the late 1990's and still found myself tortured by things that had happened before. Living in China by the foothills of the Himalayas did not change anything either. There are the psychological and physiological aspects that are deeply intertwined. The psychology of abuse will not be forgotten because the autistic quirks of my physiology triggers my brain and brings up the unwanted memories repeatedly. I am 34 years old and back with them now in part as a way to extract some revenge and because I do not know where else to go. It took me 30 years to learn to be angry with someone who never failed to humiliate me publicly whenever the opportunity presented itself; and who found ways to destroy my career and reputation just to prove how right she was.

The originator of this thread talked of being at a loss, well you are not alone. I am very tired at not knowing what to do with myself or the rage that is within me. I hate them for the cripple that they turned me into but I do not know what to do with that hate. I tried forgiving but it only meant that the abuse redoubled.