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Which are your principal difficulties, strengths, or behaviours (choose up to 3)?
Intellectual impairment 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Non-verbal or minimally verbal 4%  4%  [ 5 ]
Frequent or obvious stimming, flapping 3%  3%  [ 4 ]
Strong or obsessive interest in a topic 18%  18%  [ 24 ]
Insular / not interested in other people 9%  9%  [ 13 ]
Poor social skills or awkwardness 24%  24%  [ 33 ]
High intelligence, say IQ>125 or so 18%  18%  [ 25 ]
Sensory overstimulation, shutdowns 11%  11%  [ 15 ]
Emotional regulation, meltdowns 13%  13%  [ 18 ]
Total votes : 137

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07 Apr 2023, 12:48 am

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Strong or obsessive interest in a topic
It's a double-edged sword but I often enjoy the process of deeply analysing things and getting to understand them really well, and I get a lot out of the ability that gives me to solve problems. It tends to push me away from attending to everything else, which is the downside.

High intelligence, say IQ>125 or so
I've no idea what my IQ is (I'd probably excel in some aspect of it and screw up in others, so the IQ number wouldn't mean much) but I seem to be an uncommonly logical and coherent thinker. There's no doubt a downside to it, but like the first one it's often very useful. And it hasn't pushed out my understanding of emotions, such as it is.

Sensory overstimulation, shutdowns
Actually I have very little trouble with shutdowns, I just seem to feel physical things and experiences very acutely. If I notice anything at all, I really notice it as if nothing else exists, and I have trouble dismissing anything that's got my attention until I feel I've felt my way through it.

I don't have much of the other things on the list, at least not enough to bother me greatly.



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07 Apr 2023, 1:15 am

i think i fell out of autisms
asperger, too intellectual avanced and extremely shy (selfconcious)
-all head and little physical presence - i used to believe it were the volatile solvent chemicals

a bit of the (not diagnosticly severe?) demand avoidance ----- runs on all (family & inlaws :roll: ) sides,
preemptive pleaser on all fronts.
i remember walking through an art class (i would have really liked) mother asked if i would want to join, but i said no (on the spot), cutting myself short for being too shy


eg, https://neurodivergentinsights.com/auti ... -explained



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07 Apr 2023, 1:29 am

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One thing I can already say from the results - they really ought to add shutdowns/meltdowns/burnout to the diagnostic criteria. Is there any one of us who doesn't get those kind of issues, at least to some degree?



Shutdowns: They don't ever really end. I don't know when I "open up" which I assume is the opposite? I'm always avoiding exertion and any type of stress or overwhelm. When I have a social or sensory shutdown from specific overwhelm I have to be totally alone in my bedroom in the pitch dark with no light at all -not even a digital clock, no sound in the house (radios, tvs, people speaking etc) Those can take a few hours up to about 24 hours. Then there's longer ones which I guess would be called burnouts. I've been in one for about 20 years now.

Meltdowns: Sometimes from stress overload venting, but mostly from sensory overwhelm. Will start out very impatient and feeling hot. Then the emotions hit me like a train but I can't name them or figure what they mean. By then I'm usually in a ball on the floor even in public.


Burnout - After doing anything out of the house I need about a week to recover without seeing anyone. Stress burnout never leaves. I think it compounds and hides in my ear or something?


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07 Apr 2023, 1:57 am

I'm an NT who hangs around with autistic people online "subtype"



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07 Apr 2023, 3:00 am

Insular/not interested in people - I have no friends except for those at work (and I can't exactly snub them) and my housemate, who understands my need for solitude because she's autistic as well.

Poor social skills/awkwardness - this affects me every day, it doesn't matter who I interact with. There's always this awkwardness and it bugs me.


*I've had three burnouts and they've landed me in the psych ward.



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07 Apr 2023, 3:02 am

Response to Cyberdad:

So I should put you under:
obsessive interest + poor social skills + high IQ ? :D

I'm not sure whether or not I'm joking



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07 Apr 2023, 4:19 am

MrsPeel wrote:
Response to Cyberdad:

So I should put you under:
obsessive interest + poor social skills + high IQ ? :D

I'm not sure whether or not I'm joking


Weird thing is I have high social skills but I'm picky as I find a lot of NTs to be shallow and clone-like



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07 Apr 2023, 4:38 am

I don't appear to have any listed in the poll.

Mine seems to be chronic anxiety. Is that an autism subtype?


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07 Apr 2023, 4:42 am

MrsPeel wrote:
Response to Cyberdad:

So I should put you under:
obsessive interest + poor social skills + high IQ ? :D

I'm not sure whether or not I'm joking


I have those three, I have mini-mini meltdowns where no one can tell. But on the inside I'm thinking catastrophic thoughts and panicking.



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07 Apr 2023, 5:31 am

Joe90 wrote:
I don't appear to have any listed in the poll.

Mine seems to be chronic anxiety. Is that an autism subtype?


Well, anxiety is common with autism, but you wouldn't normally be diagnosed autistic from anxiety without any of the others on the list.

Although I have heard that some kinds of rumination, where you think about things over and over again, are a sort of repetitive behaviour. Like your brain is stimming? Something like mental OCD. Not sure though.

Personally my anxiety levels go up and down, it's not a constant thing, but we're all different.



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07 Apr 2023, 5:38 am

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I have those three, I have mini-mini meltdowns where no one can tell. But on the inside I'm thinking catastrophic thoughts and panicking.


Yes my meltdowns are not always visible either. But I still call them meltdowns because that's what they feel like, my brain is burning with molten anguish.



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07 Apr 2023, 7:01 am

yeah i have to just suppress any outward meltodown symptoms cos if someone asked why im freaking out they'd not understand the reason or think it was silly



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07 Apr 2023, 7:21 am

^ I think you are both describing shutdowns not meltdowns. They are both caused by an overload of some sort, but I think meltdowns are external noticeable behaviour and shutdowns are internalised and less noticeable.

Have a butchers at this to see if it resonates

Ha , I just found the page I read this on.

https://www.rdiconnect.com/shutdowns-ar ... meltdowns/

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When the world around us pushes us to stress overload, as it often does, we turn to our long-learned coping mechanisms to navigate the challenges. But what if we are autistic, and have crossed the threshold of overwhelm? When our emotional resources are tapped out, in exhaustion our brain may react by going into a protective mode called shutdown.

Shutdown vs. Meltdown

The terms shutdown and meltdown are often used interchangeably. While both are reactions caused by sensory, information, or emotional overload, a meltdown consists of more outward behavior, and a shutdown is an internalized mode that is much less noticeable.
The most common signs of a shutdown are:

Being completely silent
Staring into space (dissociating)
Unable to communicate in any way
Using incorrect words or stuttering
Withdrawing to a dark or quiet place (to break away from the cause of the shutdown)
Inability to move away (sitting or laying down in place)
Lying on the floor or a flat surface and remaining very still

A person having a meltdown displays outward behaviors and may scream, attack people, hurt themself and break things, which often looks like a temper tantrum.

A person experiencing a shutdown, unlike someone who is having a meltdown, is aware of self-control and that they are in the throes of distress, however, the individual is not able during a shutdown to control their muted internal response. Their brain continues to process in shutdown mode until it recovers and resets.


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07 Apr 2023, 11:01 am

According to the post above, I've never had a shutdown before.

My (NT) uncle had a shutdown once, when his wife left him. He laid on his kitchen floor for two days, even though he wasn't physically ill. It was a nervous breakdown or something like that.


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07 Apr 2023, 11:04 am

i opted 4 in the list

poor social skills/awkwardness
meltdowns
uninterested in other people
obsessive interests


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07 Apr 2023, 11:13 am

^^ Everyone can have meltdowns or shutdowns, NT's tend to have longer fuses (high threshold) before ignition or ND's have a shorter fuse (low threshold).


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