Do you like going on vacations?

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"Vacation"? What's that?

I don't like vacations unless it's very short. I don't sleep well in other places and don't eat very much food during vacations. I also don't like busy places. It has always felt like a middle class obligation rather than fun. I actually turned down two invites this year already. I might have to grit my teeth and go on a cruise with my mom sometime. I won't like it but I better do it with her, or she'll haunt me after she dies.

I find it stressful and exhausting to stay anywhere new for any length of time. I'm also not good at "switching off" and enjoying the down time. I live alone, so either I'm away on my own feeling like an idiot or I'm visiting someone and making them put up with my weirdness. About the only holidays I really enjoy are science fiction conventions - plenty of distractions and like-minded people to talk to.

In general, vacations made me uncomfortable. They were disruptions.

But when the vacations were "routine" they were OK. (E.g., visit family around Thanksgiving and Christmas or every year go to the same recurring convention.)

I used to love vacations as a kid. Sleepovers also.

Now I could do without ever going on vacation. My life has become more structured and routine, and I don't like having that disrupted. We were supposed to go on vacation a couple of weeks ago for 5 or 6 days, but had to cancel it at the last minute. I was actually relieved. Did have to go a shorter 2 day trip somewhere rather local to please the wife and daughter, though. I would have been fine just staying home those days as well.

I love to travel because I get to see all my relatives who live down in the US.

Me too about the going away alone - I wouldn't dream of visiting a place where I didn't have any friends. So much for the idea that Aspies are loners.
I don't have a switch between work and leisure either. I'm not easy to entertain, very unlikely to enjoy a random movie or concert. Some such things work, but they're pretty rare. My idea of recreation is to do an interesting project. I quickly get bored with just being a spectator. Passive fun doesn't work for me very often, which is strange because I'm quite lazy in many ways, and would therefore prefer to have a lot of my fun passively, but it doesn't usually work.

I find vacations relaxing if I take them by myself or if I can get at least 50% me-time in the group I'm in. I particularly hate going out for a meal in a group of people. I always end up with a stomach ache because I lose control of when and what I eat. It's expensive too.

I love traveling. In the past I flew to different countries (especially to unusual countries like Russia and Belarus), but recently I drive abroad. I even love surprise trips. That is organised by a surprise travel agency. A week before I go I know the weather. Then I know what clothes I must put in my suitcase. On the very day I get an e-mail with the address of the hotel. I love that, I drive in several interesting countries.

Sometimes I myself plan a car trip, which is not a surprise trip. I have been in several countries, I believe 12. I have even been driving in the United Kingdom. I drove at the left side of the road. That was a bit strange to me in the beginning, but now it doesn't matter in what country I drive. This means, I can also drive in Australia, Japan, New Zealand, South Africa, etc.

I can't go to the United States becaus I am not jabbed, And I refuse to jab "against" corona. I have had this disease but I was only very tired; no other symptoms.

In the next summer I will likely fly to Finland or Turkey, or possibly to Russia again (the war in Ukraine won't prevent me to go, because IMO the war is not Russia's fault).

I met up with a couple of friends at the local folk music festival recently. It was weird, because it's more my kind of music than theirs, but they were much more happy to just sit there and listen than I was. I was getting twitchy because the festival no longer had all the open sessions that anyone can play in. I can only sit for so long before I want to actually do something.

As a kid, we didn't go on many vacations, so usually I enjoyed them. I enjoyed the maps and watching the road construction.

I do remember one vacation I didn't like. Christmas Eve, on short notice, we drove across the state to spend Christmas with a relative who we learned was alone for the holiday. Christmas had a very set routine for me growing up and I really disliked this disruption. As I got older, the Christmas routine became less and less routine, and so I became less interested in Christmas.

I only went to one sleepover during my childhood (I was never invited to any others), until I started attending some New Year's Eve parties late in high school. It was always a mixed experience because at some point I had to try to find a comfortable place to sleep, which wasn't usually easy, especially as others always stayed up later than I did.

As an adult, I love vacations, especially once my life finally got to the point where I could take them. I plan them meticulously. You might expect that any disruption to my itinerary is therefore a nightmare, but quite the opposite. Because I've spent so much time planning I know what my options are and what flexibility I have. If I didn't plan extensively in advance, the disruptions would leave me frantic and uncertain.

That said, vacations are a double-edged sword. I usually have no choice but to travel alone. I know some people who absolutely love to travel alone; I hate it. It can feel incredibly lonely. When I'm alone in my normal life I'm always busy doing something; it only feels lonely occasionally. When I'm on vacation, I'm going on these often once-in-a-lifetime experiences that should be a shared experience that brings me closer to someone...but they're not. I've got nobody to talk with. The quiet time driving or hiking leaves me along with my thoughts without much to focus on, and it can be depressing.

No. I've always disliked them. For many years I just let most of my vacation days at work expire without taking them. I don't know how to feel normal on a vacation. I can't have my routines.

If I do have to take a vacation to go to a family reunion of some other function I will suffer every day leading up to it, dreading the day when the vacation will start. It feels like impending doom. Instead of looking forward to it I will almost make myself sick dreading it.

The only thing that makes me anxious when travelling is if I feel or be sick or have diarrhoea. It's one of my worst nightmares. Or I think I'm going to suddenly come down with a stomach bug or a flu or covid or something, and feeling ill like that when away from home is terrifying.

When I went abroad last year I came down with a weird mouth infection that I'd never had before, and I was also tired and feverish with it. It lasted throughout the whole vacation; starting a few days we went and healing up a few days after we came home. My whole mouth - throat, tongue, gums and lips, was so painful that I could barely talk, and I definitely could not eat even though there were lots of lovely restaurants with delicious food.
I think I got that because I was panicking so much of catching covid and having to be in quarantine, so I think my immune system worked overtime to try and reject any viruses but accidentally attacked itself in the process. I don't think it was a coincidence.

Yeah I get away as much as possible. Short weekend breaks and a couple of big holidays during the year. One in the summer and one in the winter.

I really enjoy travelling on the one hand, but on the other hand I also often find it stressful. I love trains and riding on trains, but it's easy for problems to add up, especially if I have to travel alone or can't get a seat next to the person I'm travelling with. I get badly thrown off by problems that other people I know seem to be able to brush aside, like not being able to do the things I expected to do or having to switch hotel rooms, or having forgot something.

But I love being out in nature and taking photographs. Most of my vacations are to national or state parks, or other areas with hiking opportunities. I get upset and antsy if I can't get out anywhere like that in a year.

Some kinds of vacations, however, are just stressful for me, and I don't like them at all. I don't like going to big cities, even though I do like some things one can do in them (museums, I like museums), and I strongly dislike things like amusement parks. I can tolerate crowds if the crowded thing is something I want to do enough, like attending a race, but I'll usually want to hide the rest of the day. The kind of really quick weekend trips some people like to take are also not worth it to me, because I need more time than that to settle into a place and recover from the travel portion of it.

So I guess I like going on certain kinds of vacations, and especially when things go right, but a lot of vacations are just not things I want anything to do with.

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