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28 Oct 2023, 10:15 am

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Typically I'm OK alone for a couple of days or so, after that my enthusiasm for everything starts to wane, even for music. It's called loneliness. Once I've got the company of my loved ones back after a long time apart, I'm fascinated by everything around me and my brain goes into overdrive.


Same with me. There’s only so much time I can spend alone.



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28 Oct 2023, 11:38 pm

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Would you say your special interest (if you have one) is more important than your family? to me it is but apparently that's callous


I don't know if it's callous, but I do think it devalues human life. My special interest is very important to me, but it will never be more valuable than my family or any other human being for that matter.



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29 Oct 2023, 12:29 am

Guess. my apathy towards my family of origin vs special Interests probably preserved me. From additional harm
from them .But also from many of the harsher aspects of life. So career obviously took precedence over personal relationship based on my being raised by less than desireable , apparent aberrant personality disorders individuals.
At least towards Autie, individuals based on first hand observations. But have found other Aspies that are much different than those previous individuals..So things they are changin'' :heart:


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30 Oct 2023, 9:18 am

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I see them as not much more than tools and curiosities


I don't know your parents or your situation, but I think it's relevant to be aware that other people, such as your parents, have their own interests, wants and needs as well.

Are your parents supportive of your interests?


I'm aware of that, it just doesn't interest me; I don't particularly care very much about their wants needs interests etc.

I guess so, they're not unsupportive. Maybe my detachment stems from their hesitance to accept my being trans.


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30 Oct 2023, 9:23 am

Whether or not a person relies on their parents for being housed, shouldn't matter in terms of which is more important out of special interests and family.

Family should always come first, unless your family is particularly toxic, in which case that may be a different story.



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31 Oct 2023, 5:15 am

I happen to have a really wonderful family who I love a lot, so I'd say my family is more important than my special interests. If I had a bad family, I would probably think differently though.

Plus I like talking about my special interests with my family and they're mostly very supportive about them, so it's never occurred to me to think of them as two competing aspects of my life



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06 Nov 2023, 7:37 pm

Special interests are my strongest autistic trait and the ONLY thing I live for. I always expect to be told I shouldn't be so selfish and focus on being a homemaker and pumping out children and raising them. But no one really has. I'm always told I should peruse my special interests.


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07 Nov 2023, 6:31 am

My main and first special interest since I was 3 was being a Mommy. So now I did it I go from thing to thing like everyone else. My sons are almost 16 and 18 so I am not allowed to "mommy" anymore. I think I will enjoy being a Grandma one day but its not as big a deal as being a Mommy was to me. If I could I would have 6 sons but that just wasn't in the cards for me. My current obsession is making youTube Videos, but building my office setup to do so



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07 Nov 2023, 6:19 pm

MsNeuroSpiceE wrote:
My main and first special interest since I was 3 was being a Mommy. So now I did it I go from thing to thing like everyone else. My sons are almost 16 and 18 so I am not allowed to "mommy" anymore. I think I will enjoy being a Grandma one day but its not as big a deal as being a Mommy was to me. If I could I would have 6 sons but that just wasn't in the cards for me. My current obsession is making youTube Videos, but building my office setup to do so


Would it be possible to adopt another child if your biological one doesn't want children?


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07 Nov 2023, 7:22 pm

Even as a socially inept young child, I knew my family was important. Maybe the fact that my parents were caring and tried to do the right thing helped. The fact that they treated us kids without favoritism probably helped me tolerate my siblings. I have described to other people my relationship with siblings as basically strangers living in the same house.

My parents actually supported my special interests when they could. We never had a lot of money, but birthday and Christmas presents were usually related to my current interests.

So while I may FEEL LIKE giving my interests higher priority, I have always CHOSEN to put my family above the interests.


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07 Nov 2023, 8:20 pm

MsNeuroSpiceE wrote:
My main and first special interest since I was 3 was being a Mommy. So now I did it I go from thing to thing like everyone else. My sons are almost 16 and 18 so I am not allowed to "mommy" anymore. I think I will enjoy being a Grandma one day but its not as big a deal as being a Mommy was to me. If I could I would have 6 sons but that just wasn't in the cards for me.


Do you specifically want sons, or any gender of kids?


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10 Nov 2023, 1:09 pm

I feel grateful for my parents' support and other family members. However i don't feel much of an emotional connection with them. (At least with my mom)
My special interests are important bc they make me feel alive and happy. However if i had to choose my parents would come first.



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10 Nov 2023, 9:08 pm

Campingbare wrote:
Even as a socially inept young child, I knew my family was important. Maybe the fact that my parents were caring and tried to do the right thing helped. The fact that they treated us kids without favoritism probably helped me tolerate my siblings. I have described to other people my relationship with siblings as basically strangers living in the same house.

My parents actually supported my special interests when they could. We never had a lot of money, but birthday and Christmas presents were usually related to my current interests.

So while I may FEEL LIKE giving my interests higher priority, I have always CHOSEN to put my family above the interests.


I chose to never have a family so I could KEEP my special interests.


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