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02 Nov 2023, 1:39 pm

They don't care enough to ask lol. Mostly I get called weird, laughed at, or just looked at in confusion. It's all in good faith, though. I think...



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04 Nov 2023, 8:27 pm

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As a a young law firm associate, I once had a partner at a major New York law firm (not my own) call me the stupidest lawyer she had ever met. This after ten minutes of me trying to explain to her how a letter of credit works. I suspect she thought that I thought that she didn’t know what she was doing. Well, she didn’t.


It's possible that she thought you were being "emotionally stupid", based on HOW you explained it, not _what_ you explained. The bane of our existence... Difference in communication protocol between neurotypes. Or maybe she was an opposite Myers-Briggs personality, like an ENFP.

Doesn't justify her harsh reaction, though.



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09 Nov 2023, 5:07 am

Jayo wrote:
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Jayo wrote:
Has anyone asked point-blank "are you stupid??!"
Most of my relatives, many of my co-workers and subordinates, and a few bureaucrats.  The really sad part is that none of them apologized when I turned out to be correct.
Yeah, could've been that you were more rational and not as emotionally invested in the situation as they were (being typical NTs, sigh), so you revealed the unspoken truth verbally, the emperor's new clothes as it were, so they thought you were a (social) imbecile for violating that protocol.
So you think they were objecting more to my "Social Stupidity" than to what they perceived as "Intellectual Stupidity" on my part.  That makes sense.

Still wish they would have apologized, though.



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09 Nov 2023, 11:49 am

"Stupid" is one thing no one has asked me, actually. The closest I think was a guy in a home I was once stayed in who said "Are you out of your mind?" because I'd get P.O'ed so easily.



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09 Nov 2023, 12:40 pm

A version of it. My father often tells me to 'stop acting stupid' when I don't get something or mess up due to my ASD. As if I'm acting :roll:


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09 Nov 2023, 7:39 pm

I've been asked if I was the R-word quite a few times throughout my childhood and adolescence. I imagine that I was quite different from everybody else during those times. I didn't care too much about the latest fashions and hairstyles. The kids in my Grade 9 art class didn't treat me very well.


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10 Nov 2023, 10:45 pm

I usually just got “How can you be so smart but so STUPID?!? when they couldn’t understand how I could supposedly remember “everything” about meerkats or animals but couldn’t understand a “simple” math problem.


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