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15 Nov 2023, 1:23 pm

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The Jerk Store called. They're running out of you!

You'll smoke them with that line.

What's the difference? You're they're all-time best seller!

(Not really, I just love Seinfeld.)



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15 Nov 2023, 1:43 pm

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I thought it was spelled the OP spelled it, but the sites autocorrect underlines with a read line. But when I loose the "I" it does NOT flag it as misspelled. So...I guess "ablest" is the correct spelling.


Ablest is the person most able for a particular task.

Albeist is one who engages in ableism.



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15 Nov 2023, 1:44 pm

Silence.

No one will change their minds just bc i told them and they might get even more aggressive. So just silence



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15 Nov 2023, 2:08 pm

I usually treat them the way I treat a narcissist in that I calmly criticize them for lacking empathy, insight, and being part of what's wrong with society. It depends on the ableist though. Many people are just as*holes plain and simple, and ableism can be an extension of that. Most of the time a jerk doesn't mind knowing they're a jerk, or is even proud of it.

By ableism I assume we're describing people who genuinely believe they're better than someone who's different or intellectually/physically challenged. Sometimes I respond to them with no malice and all with remarks like "I'm sorry you feel so badly about me/ think I'm so incapable. I think I can do [this thing] with a little practice and effort, but it's alright if you don't see my potential. " because it can be a bit disarming.

Nasty people don't typically expect the victim of their cruelty to show empathy or respectful indifference towards them. So even if they continue to have a toxic mindset towards those who are different (which they almost certainly will), you're not eliciting the emotions in them that are necessary to increase any rancor they may hold towards you.

You can of course also just ignore them while practice mindfulness and discipline. :P



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15 Nov 2023, 2:27 pm

monty python music i played
i played this song recently to get rid of my autistic friend/rai (we both started to cringe at the fact we/me, and rai where in the same room, and the teacher at my high school found us/me, and rai both passed out on the floor from laughing and cringing our arses off) :twisted:


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15 Nov 2023, 2:29 pm

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I usually treat them the way I treat a narcissist in that I calmly criticize them for lacking empathy, insight, and being part of what's wrong with society. It depends on the ableist though. Many people are just as*holes plain and simple, and ableism can be an extension of that. Most of the time a jerk doesn't mind knowing they're a jerk, or is even proud of it.

By ableism I assume we're describing people who genuinely believe they're better than someone who's different or intellectually/physically challenged. Sometimes I respond to them with no malice and all with remarks like "I'm sorry you feel so badly about me/ think I'm so incapable. I think I can do [this thing] with a little practice and effort, but it's alright if you don't see my potential. " because it can be a bit disarming.

Nasty people don't typically expect the victim of their cruelty to show empathy or respectful indifference towards them. So even if they continue to have a toxic mindset towards those who are different (which they almost certainly will), you're not eliciting the emotions in them that are necessary to increase any rancor they may hold towards you.

You can of course also just ignore them while practice mindfulness and discipline. :P

an accurate depiction of my friend rai, the only thing that keeps us together is school, and monty python/retro dad jokes *without school we would literally be having a falling out* :? that's why summer is so hard for us/me and my friend rai


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15 Nov 2023, 2:32 pm

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Silence.

No one will change their minds just bc i told them and they might get even more aggressive. So just silence

oof i tell that to my grandma who doesn't know about autism (it doesn't work because she thinks autism is a joke) :?


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15 Nov 2023, 2:34 pm

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rse92 wrote:
The Jerk Store called. They're running out of you!

You'll smoke them with that line.

What's the difference? You're they're all-time best seller!

(Not really, I just love Seinfeld.)

nice -vinesauce joel :jester:


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15 Nov 2023, 2:37 pm

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naturalplastic wrote:
I thought it was spelled the OP spelled it, but the sites autocorrect underlines with a read line. But when I loose the "I" it does NOT flag it as misspelled. So...I guess "ablest" is the correct spelling.


Ablest is the person most able for a particular task.

Albeist is one who engages in ableism.

my grandma says this all the time trying to explain my autism (that's the most offensive thing she has done besides giving me peanuts even tho i told her i was allergic and was shocked when i was covered in hives!) *i'm not surprised why my parents have trust issues with my grandma, frankly i don't blame them she tried to poison me with peanuts!*
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15 Nov 2023, 2:40 pm

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Call them a Nazi. It's what a lot of people do on the internet, at least.

this is why i have trust issues with my parents (there neo-nazis/somehow worse than the og nazis in ww2)
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15 Nov 2023, 2:42 pm

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When people get you down, you prove them wrong. Talk is cheap, speak with actions.

need i say anymore? no because this is perfect as is. :lol:


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15 Nov 2023, 2:44 pm

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Insult them with big words that sound to a normal person like compliments. Don't be confrontational in fact be overly polite and use logic. Granted I enjoy messing with bullies so.. your miles may vary. I tend to have very little emotional response in tense situations or arguments. I find that gets under the skin of most people. Fair warning though when some people run out of words to get an emotional response. They tend to get physical. I don't know really depends on the particular situation and the moments surrounding it.

this is why my uncle luke is no longer invited to the christmas parties of the current years *he called me a ret*d, and was surprised it was offensive to say to ten year old me/back in 2017* :oops:


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15 Nov 2023, 2:51 pm

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What are some good comebacks to deal with an ableist person?


You're going to have to be more specific about the scenario. Ableism is a very broad concept.

Some people here will consider me ableist because I think autism is a disorder instead of a difference.

same/that's literally my grandma! :roll: she is not the smartest when it comes to autism...
(she doesn't read the room well when i am overwhelmed) :skull:


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15 Nov 2023, 2:54 pm

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Just ask them if they have always had trouble with social situations and suggest they should see a psychologist for an evaluation. :wink:

thanks for the advice *i may use that if my offensive uncle luke comes back to the family dinners in the coming years* :wink:


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15 Nov 2023, 2:55 pm

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When people get you down, you prove them wrong. Talk is cheap, speak with actions.


I can't disagree more. Certain types will never be satisfied with actions, and must only be silenced with skillful use of language. Nothing is more satisfying than tearing apart a fool's foolish argument and leaving them speechless.

same, this is why i am personally confused at why i am still friends with rai at my school/washington high... :|


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15 Nov 2023, 3:04 pm

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rse92 wrote:
The Jerk Store called. They're running out of you!

You'll smoke them with that line.


That's a good comeback. I'll have to try that one.

How are u doing? -joey from f r i e nds/a show i could never get into until my highschool sweetheart/LD got me into the show because that's what we watch while talking about irl friends, and family :lol:


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