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social security in general has been systematically robbed and underfunded for decades now. in 2034 it will have to start paying out only 80% of what it had been paying before because the Democrats can't get GOP help in shoring up the program because the GOP is philosophically opposed to helping working people.

Yeah, it's all relative to cost-of-living and the fact I'm supporting adult dependents.
I don't make it from pay to pay.
I get paid once a month and run out of money at the two week mark.
It's all debt with compounded interest.

i'm having to juggle accounts to keep my head above water.

It's so sad.
A friend of mine was forced back to work as a single disabled senior.
She'd been on SSDI for decades.

I juggle too.
I have two big loan accounts.
I transfer $1000 back and forth between them every week to count as the payment.
It's not real money, just a tennis game.

a member of my aspies group eventually got kicked out of SSI and now has to work again.

That's unacceptable imo.

It's hard for me because my partner has lots of money.
He offers to help me all the time.
I just can't.
It's a mental block from trauma.
I can't depend on anyone for finances.
I'm ridiculously stubborn that way.
I'd rather starve.


I even paid him back for the Les Mis tickets he bought me.
I couldn't go because of Covid.
I sold them for just under face value, and paid him the rest with my own money.
He was upset and told me to keep the money but nope, never.
I etransferred it to him immediately.

So here is the ADHD thread I've been looking for for weeks!

It's official.

I'm ADHDAF!

I have ADHD-I (the inattentive type).

It gives me everyday difficulty in focussing adequately on any particular task. I tried adhd medications a few years ago but the side effects they gave me outweighed any benefits.

So I tend to just live with it, without any particular coping strategies outside of getting lots of sleep, because I find that sleeping lots helps improve my attention ability, a little.

I've never been assessed for ADHD. I do take my partners ADHD meds from time to time, particularly if I've got a lot of work to do, and I can focus much better on them than not.

I voted “I control it” but would have voted “sometimes I control it and sometimes it controls me” if that had been an option. Maybe I should have picked that Icecream one.

Issy, I wondered about your financial situation when you announced your retirement (not that it is really any of my business) because of some of the other sensory and work related struggles you have posted about before. My dad is about 25 years older than me and Finances are crazy tight and his health is getting worse. USA so no socialized medicine. Costs keep going and he is always worried about money but too stubborn to ask for help. I’ve told him if he is choosing between health and money, I’ve got money. I feel I owe him. No go. I also worry about my failing Executive Functioning (which has never been great and isn’t improving) I may not be able to keep working, but am also not sure if I will outlive my money. And I still want to help my kids. And the beat goes on.

You're right - I'm a hot mess when it comes to sensory, work struggles, and EF.
It's bill-paying day and that always makes me physically sick with panic attacks.




I don't know how Americans cope with paying for medical expenses. That's one area where I feel very blessed. My mum just had hip replacement surgery and has been in hospital with specialized care for a month. We haven't paid a penny for any of it, not even her medications. The burden has been on me though because parking is $20/day, which means I've spent already $600 just parking the car to visit. That means I'm not eating. I couldn't afford food even before that expense.

If she goes home with full-time nursing care or goes in a care home, that runs $3-$5K per month out of pocket. I don't even want to think about that, because the alternative is that I care for her full-time in her house, which would be the equivalent of committing suicide. I can't cope with my own life and keep up my own house, let alone hers. I'm legally eligible for a carer for ME, so it doesn't seem logical I could become a carer for her instead, whilst also being responsible for my kids and six pets and my mortgage.

It sounds like you got a new job? I remember when you were out of work, so congrats on that. It's very kind of you to try to help your father but I know how hard it is to accept help from others.

I have a lot of life insurance so when I'm gone my kids should be relatively comfortable. Everything I've ever done (e.g., working) was for their benefit and not mine. I've yet to have a single dollar in savings because the cost of single-parenting and non-stop litigation drove me into the poor house even when I earned six-figures.

the only time in my life when the ADHD was into abeyance was when I was on Strattera [Atomoxetine], that is a miracle drug, it gave me calm lucidity for the first and only time in my life. but Joe Insurance thought it was too expensive [$20/capsule in 00's dollars] so he stopped covering it for me and I could not afford it out of pocket. so I went back to

This makes me soooo sad, especially since you served the US Army.
Have you tried Guanfacine?
It's really cheap, if I remember correctly, and most haven't tried it.

Be still, my heart; thou hast known worse than this. On that day when the cyclops, unrestrained in fury, devoured the mighty men of my company; but still thou didst endure till thy craft found a way for thee forth from out the cave, where thou thoughtest to die.

... or something like that.

I'll make celebration cupcakes.