Being attractive to bypass need for masking?

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There is a saying that you can't be too thin or too rich!

I have a thin hourglass figure that allows me to look great in just about everything.
I can wear a 2 piece bikini and look good to myself in the mirror.
Most woman can't do that. That is the "gold standard" of female self acceptance.

A lot of female fashion is about hiding perceived flaws.
With a tiny 2 piece bikini there is no place to hide.

Being attractive certainly doesn't hurt.
Good looking people seem to be able to get away with a lot more than the less attractive.
And if you're not attractive already, you can be made more so by the application of alcohol.

Now that I think about it. Sitting in this bathtub of vodka is just going to pickle me, thus preserving my unattractiveness for even longer.

That's the last time I follow advice off the internet.

Yes, height is huge factor in how men are treated.

Tall men get respect. Short men do not.

People are always more tolerant of pretty. That's true.

Pretty is all but impossible to maintain over time. That's true too.

I say live for who you are and what you choose to do, not what you look like.

I am comfortably ugly, and I am the man I choose to be, isolation and all.

As a teenager, I thought I was unattractive because that is how my peers treated me. Looking back, I now understand that wasn't true. For example, twice I participated in summer abroad programs with teens from other towns, and when participants first met, I can recall a lot of girls enthusiastically approaching me, eager to meet. But in a short time, all or most would get the ick. I even experienced making out with girls I'd just met, but was never able to get any sort of relationship established.

As a young adult, a few young women, whose primary interest was casual sex, chose me as a convenient partner (casual hook-ups were a far bigger challenge for women in the days before Tinder!) which would never have happened had my physical appearance not met some sort of standard.

Had I been less attractive, those sexual encounters wouldn't have happened, and I would have likely drifted towards the incel side of the spectrum. In fact, I was probably headed in a somewhat incel-like direction before losing my virginity, and I can't help feeling some sympathy for today's incels, as I could see becoming one myself, had I been born a few decades later.

As for money — duh. There's no way a penniless romantic can compete with a well-off rival with otherwise comparable attractiveness, in today's world where young people experience so much financial insecurity. Plus money bestows confidence. Long gone are the days when groupies would eagerly hook up with a vagrant dude who lived in a panel van with a mattress in the back, if unable to score an actual rock star for the night.