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Today, 1:46 pm

^^^^^ This one ^^^^
definitely on the recharge thing .


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Today, 2:52 pm

I do like being alone. I like being alone (aside from my dog) in my own private space. I'm generally okay with the presence of my parents in the house, but I like best having my own space, even if that's just my own room.

I'm a bit of a recluse who just likes being alone inside my own indoor space the majority of the time. I do enjoy some time with friends and/or going out shopping. But nearly everytime I'm out with friends or out with my family shopping I turn into a ticking timebomb. I get very irritable and impatience as time passes on. There are specific circumstances where I'm not like that, like a couple of summers ago when I took a trip and stayed with a friend and her family. I didn't ever feel that irritability. It's odd.


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Today, 3:18 pm

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I am alone most of the time and it's so terrible it's crushing. I am desperately lonely and crying much of the time. That doesn't mean I would enjoy hanging around with strangers. I would like to live with my partner instead of seeing him once and sometimes twice a week, but in part I can't because I am too sick. I have ME/CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome) and I feel exhausted and drained pretty much all of the time. And also I just don't think it's his style. Because my illness has been worse the last four months or so I've also had to give up some small friendships I had because I'm not well enough to get together with them or to go to events where I might see them.

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Today, 6:04 pm

vergil96 wrote:
I like to socialise, but doing it for the whole day is too much for me. It's exhausting past a certain point. Maybe not as much the socialising itself, but not enough peace. I think I fit the mold of an introvert. Introverts like to socialise, but recharge at home alone.

Yes being with others does seem like running a battery down for many with ASD, and "feeling energised/drained" is a major part of the generally-accepted definition of the introvert-extravert concept, specifically that company drains introverts and solitude drains extraverts. Me, I've never quite been a good fit for the concept. I'm OK alone for a while but if it goes on for too long I get sub-clinically depressed, while with the right kind of people I feel a sense of my batteries having been charged. On the other hand, some kinds of company can become too much for me and then it can feel very refreshing to be alone.

I'm not sure it's quite accurate to equate a personality trait with ASD which isn't a personality as such, though there's probably some correlation. In my youth I began to feel that something was pushing me to one side of my life. Maybe that something is ASD, and maybe one way it pushes me is socially, if that makes any sense.