Should I?

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My answer is a resounding NO NO NO

My mother is in complete denial about my AS and her own HFA. There is no way she could have objectively completed a questionnaire.

As my diagnosing psychiatrist said "By the time you're an adult, you know yourself better than your parents did, and they've forgotten anyway".

Still, you acted YOURSELF before 3. AFTER that age you start to act more like everyone else. Heck, I shoved so much in back of my mind. At this point I went through lots of my memories, and reconciled them, etc... Some with the help of my mother. For example, I always knew I went to mexico, and I remember a fair deal about it. I even got a comic book there once. Ironically, it had mickey mouse and donald duck. But I didn't know exactly when I went there. Most of my life, my mother told me I hadn't, but a picture confirmed I had, and I was about 4.(I knew I could read before 5, but that little tidbit confirmed I read before 4.) I knew I went to the psychiatrist, and what I did and what he said, etc... She confirmed I was 6 and it was because I wasn't socializing with the kids.

So parents can certainly help. Then again, I now know this stuff, and I don't know how long she will remember.

SOME parents can help, SOME can hinder. I stand by my post.

I do agree with the fact you know yourself as an adult, but the reason behind the questionnaire was to ask someone who saw you when you were a teeny tiny human. I can't remember that far back, though I do have memories from three years old. But before that, I have to rely on other ppl's feedback. She is playing no other part in my diagnosis but this. And this is merely a guideline on which the AS specialist will work on. She has surprised me with her verbal answers.

But I'm not gonna just leave her with it to fill in by herself. No seree.

The questions roughly replicate the tests that a child being diagnosed with autism go through. (At least as far as I read, and from what I recall of my own childrens testing.) I suspect it is nothing much more than background information.. the sort of thing that isnt really obvious in medical records. It should give the specialist something to go on, and looks to be a standard set of questions to give them a starting point, rather than an exam to see if you qualify.

(though this is the NHS.. it might well be an exam...)

I suspect your mother would have to be pretty inventive a liar to cover up childhood signs of AS, and tbh, I dont think she is.

Does anyone know of one of these questionnaires being online so I can look at it?

Far as i know its a test put together by the specialist in Sheffield, A Digby (Rigby?) Tantum. Unless he has published it elsewhere, such as in a medical journal, I wouldnt have thought it could be found online. But thats your best bets.. googling Tantum, aspergers, sheffield, and suchlike.

My IQ is 91 acccording to a test i took. I still believe I am an aspie though i did not get a high score.

Incidentally I was a very happy, easy to handle baby, according to my mother. My NT brother was fussier and would sometimes put his dinner on his head.

People tend to forget that this is a spectrum. Its not like diagnosing a simple thing. Its a complex disorder, with a vast panoply of variations, such that none of us is the same as the next. Its not easy to pigeonhole at all, but medical science and the public have a bit of a problem with thinking that everything should go by their world order, and neatly fit into calssifications. regular humanity doesnt follow that rule, so why should we?