How do you pass as normal?

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Being aspie is cool.




And that is my 1000th post. Isn't it amazing?

I have been passing as somewhat normal before but people sure noticed that there was something strange with me, though they haven't been able to understand what... I used to smile a lot, listen, observe (I observed a lot in school and therefore I have learned quite a lot about how people interact), try to avoid my biggest interest so I didn't get stuck..

At the moment I am too tired to even try to pass as normal, it takes too much energy. I haven't got a high energy level from the beginning and trying to act normal takes all of it. (I don't work at the moment).. I can't see a reason to try again either. I am who I am and if people can't accept it, that's their problem. I want to enjoy life and do things that makes me feel fine, I have been depressed most of my life (and I am not really fine at the moment either) and I don't want to hit the bottom again... Other, "normal" people have energy to do funny things besides work so why shouldn't I be allowed to?

No clue. I'm at a loss for ideas.

How I pass as normal.

Like this.

Which facet?

If I'm just standing there I'll look normal enough; I may fidget with a widget or something (lighter, folding knife or anything that opens and closes), I may also be flipping a coin. I pace, I look at the ground and I constantly look over my shoulder. Normal enough I guess.

The problem of "normality" will arise when you try to talk to me; if I don't know you I'll ignore you completely. I cannot socialize at all with people I don't know.

I can do ok for a little bit if i keep my mouth closed and do my work. I just nod or pretend I'm too busy to talk. Once I'm around for a bit then it gets harder to hold the real me in--- i have a tendency to talk about the things that interest me ( and no one else, it seems). I would rather be alone otherwise (unless there is food involved--- then I amazingly pop up around my co-workers). My views sometimes offend others and I can't comprehend why, since their views sometimes seem strange to me ( but theirs are often more socially acceptable?).
At my job, i've been here long enough that people know i'm a bit odd. no use trying to hide.
In my personal life, it's sometimes hard, too. If I go somewhere and people are drinking alcohol, then it's ok to be socially inept or even inappropriate since alcohol makes everyone else goofy and socially flustered as well. Most people think I'm drunk, too. Sometimes--- I am!
Otherwise, it's best to keep quiet until I see what other people around me are into. If there's any common likes ( music, food, etc.) then I can begin to talk candidly. Often I blow my cover entirely and make a fool of myself--- it's kinda ironic that a few people have said they liked that about me, that i'll just say what is on my mind. It gets me in trouble sometimes, though, not knowing what should and what should not be said in public.

Ive done decently enough in life. Lucky I had friends (geographical convienence) that lived in my neghboorhood, so I learned growing up how to deal with them. Middle and High school brought more lessons, and when I went to collage I feel like I pretty much would get as good at socialization as I will ever get.

All I do is talk about what everyone else is into, usually at work people talk about work, or TV or the weather or the news. I also like politics, tho some dont, some do. You gotta find what people are into and then converse with them about stuff, then before you know it you both wont shut up about whatever you decide to talk about. Also, Im goofy, so I get laughs, that elevates my social standing. I go to parties for a few hrs and have friends, so thats good too.

People know im different, and thats fine, they know Im qwarky, and I dont have a problem with that, their are some days where im active and social, and others where im passive and want to be left alone, i think ppl think I have bi-polar, heh. Seems energy is important in dealing with people, ive had lots of practice, but will always stick out.

am not able to act normal,but would not want to, either.
normal for a young adult is often accepted as getting drunk,taking other drugs,having boyfriends,being too lazy to tidy up,socialising,buying loads of new things,expecting parents to buy everything......no,don't want that.

i dont even try to go in normal...its almost imbosible coz i dont like to show feelings

I simply minipulate people.

How do you pass as normal?

Through imitation of NT behavior.
Simply observe their phrases,body language and other stuff,and then repeat them in other situation.

If you cannot behave like NT,then fake it.
Unfortunately,we can never pass as fully 'normal' no matter how we try to fake NT behavior..simply because we are not NTs, and will never be part of them.

In sense of soul and mind we are separate species from NTs,they are able to feel this instinctively,and in real sense no faking can hide this.

No matter how I tried to behave or act NT,they are always able to discover that I'm different from them,in same manner that Dogs are able to 'smell' fear and insecurity in others.



We shall never get any respect or acceptance from NTs,since these things are part of social codes and symbols,and we are not part of (NT) social order.

Being an Aspie means that we shall be in constant conflict with NTs and target of their malice and hostility(in most cases).
So,we must use every possible strategies so that we can live.
Accepting reality of our condition is first step.
And accepting the fact that we are not same thing as NTs is second one.